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steph1977 posted:
I wish there was a magic wand i could wave to allow myself to be motivated without it depending on how my husband talks to me or what he does. It seems like recently all he wants to do is put me down and make me think im crazy!! Anyone else ever have this problem?
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rohvannyn responded:
Oh yeah. Defiinitely. The only thing I can tell you, and this is hard, but try to become more internally motivated. Work on valuing and loving yourself independent of others' opinions. Of course, don't go too far with this, but I think you and I both have a long way to go before that happens. I'm struggling with this myself but I see it is the only way to be whole. Work on being as internally sane and stable as you can be. Try to startle him with how reasonable you can be.

I think the best quick trick I can gell you is simply to breathe deeply, keep calms, and also take a breath before you say anything. It'll give you a moment to think about your own responses so you can make sure you don't do anything he can use against you. If you aren't, and he is still putting you down, you have the right to politely ask for him to treat you with more respect.

Best of luck to you.