Michael, I greatly agree with most of the comments from the previous posters on this.
My views:
1) The doctors are stretched so thin, with so many responsibilities and time limits for each patient, that they don't have the time to do these long discussions with questions. We did not have diabetes classes for pre-diabetes at the time I was diagnosed. I could have been "saved" from getting diabetes earlier, if I had attended those classes. I DID have to pay for the classes, though, which probably should have been paid by Kaiser, for in the long run, they would have saved money. I also heard from the Ed. Dept. there(after I was diagnosed with diabetes, and told them my thoughts about classes) that many patients never even attended the classes
or night groups they set up.
2) In my personal case, my doctor knew how diligent I was about my health, because of my high cholesterol then, and how I attacked getting my numbers down by eating healthy. He also knew my mom was diabetic and "probably" assumed I knew what to do. I didn't. My mom was very different than me in how she handled her diabetes. She even used insulin, ate frozen pies(from an emotional food addiction), and walked every day. She was very stressed out with 3 children and a husband that worked long hours.
3) I agree with others when they said the doctor might feel inadequate when telling others to lose weight when he/she is overweight themselves. I've had this happen, and I just looked at them, thinking how could they tell me when they need to lose weight, too(that was a long time ago).
4) I also was very surprised to see how some doctors know very little about diabetes. Now that I know more, I understand it's impossible to be everything to everybody. Also, so many diabetics have different needs, so it can become overwhelming. They should send diabetics to specialty doctors, but most don't.
My answer would be to send diabetics to PAID FOR BY INSURANCE diabetes classes. I would also have the original doctor suggest strongly that the diabetic go to these classes to learn the basics behind diabetes, and how important this is.
I would have some past patients who would volunteer to be a sponsor for this new diabetic or support groups for them. I would have a special nurse who could sit down for one session with new diabetics to show them how to test their blood, talk about what to eat, and just simple things before the diabetes classes.
You can't do anything about the diabetic that is in denial.
If someone doesn't want to take care of themselves, you can't make them, but our diabetes class talked about what could happen to you, if you didn't take care of yourself. I had no idea what neuropathy could do to your body, about blindness, and the harm to your organs, even having a diabetic mom. She was always talking about her illnesses, so I shut down as a child and stop listening in my teens.
Michael, there are people with emotional problems who overeat, too. There's not much you can do about that except suggest therapy, if you see them killing themselves with their emotional eating, and even then, I'm sure that would be difficult to do. I went through many, many years of therapy to take care of the issues behind my emotional eating, and even "still" there are rare times when it's so hard for me to stay on track. It's constant "thinking" and work to do what's good for me.
Thank you for taking the time to want to become an even better, more understanding doctor towards your patients, and for trying to help other doctors to see the light, too. So many more patients can be helped, if more compassion paired with strong warnings for a new diabetic, not to scare them, but enough for them to know how important it is for them to succeed with diabetes. I wished now that my doctor(whom I loved, by the way)had strongly let me know I needed to buckle down when I was diagnosed pre-diabetic. I honestly think I would have listened to his words.