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Den:

I think I would follow the advice of your therapists and caseworkers. They are the ones that see you in person. Your friend in Florida does not see you personally.

We are now almost 1/2 way through the month. I believe you said you get $113.00 per month. Do you have $56.00 left for the second half? Otherwise, you will run out of food money again.

In my opinion, you should accept the donations of food from the Salvation Army. It would help to supplement the food stamps.

David

David I know my therapists and caseworker is looking for the best for me they give me, but my mom as my friend, she knows me backwards and forward for the past 21 years even more, she really loves me. Yes it's true were far apart now since she so ill, the past 10 years or more. But mom is looking for the best interests also for me. She always tells me how to shop on the phone she wishes for herself that she could be in my life more and more real life, but she can't help it for her so ill, but I don't want to give up on my mom, truly David and people don't understand how much I really love her. If there was a way she can adopt me at my age 36. I would do anything for me to be adopted over again, but moms lawyer said if you're real mother is still alive. Legally she still my mother the bitch, I have so much hatred of my real mother, I I know this sounds harsh but if she was gone I'll be much happier, I know they say in the Bible you should forgive people but I can't, my real mother never showed me love. I really feel my mother never wanted a child, yes my father who passed away was much nicer but he had his . And I still miss my father even the things he did to me. That's a reason my best friend that I called mom she so special in my life, and I try so hard to please her but at times I can't. I know I should please myself but I believe you have to love someone so much please for them. Not just please your myself. The main thing I get love by my mom is my best friend the right way, if you can imagine David it feels so good that somebody really wants me in her life. It feels so good I'm crying, so you take care group.Den

Den... I am going to pick on you a little here, please keep in mind I am trying to be helprull and constructive.

Sometimes we have to make less than ideal choices in llife, food and otherwise, all we can do is do our best. Food pantries do not always have the resources to provide the BEST food for their clients. Like many families they have to the best they can with what limited resources they have.

Most people, diabetic or not, buy some foods that are not ideal for us. WHY not get what food you can from the food pantry (Salvation Army or other), then look at what they give you and use your food stamps to balance out or fill in the gaps.

Den...you seem to have more TIME than money. While my economics are not quite like yours, I face a similar delima, so do many many families these days. I suggest you TRY and endure the lines if need be to get food you need. There is NO SHAME, maybe thinking of it as getting PAID in kind (food, instead of cash) for working, (waiting in lines), might help. Who knows you just might meet some nice people while waiting in line.

Gomer .... just looking from another viewpoint.

Den, Gomer is right. You can get food from the Salvation Army to supplement your food stamps. It is all not BAD food for diabetics.

Many canned goods, meats, etc. My daugher and her boyfriend work for the Salvation Army along with his parents. They had a surplus of food one holiday and they bought home five boxes. This included an 8 lb. ham with canned veggies, stuffing, potatoes and a few other things. This assortment was in each box. I realize that some diabetics cannot eat a lot of carbs, but if you keep within your limits, you should do fine.

There is no harm in getting pantry food if you can't afford food. There are so many people out there who cannot afford food. You're not the only one, and there is no need for embarassment. Why go hungry and get sick? You're not doing yourself any favors by letting your pride get in your way.

Den, instead of waiting in line at the Salvation Army, work one more day at work like you said you could do if you wanted. That would equate to standing in line and make you feel even better.
Would you lose your food stamps if you did this?

Den - in addition to what everyone else has said, do you remember that when you went to visit your mom, she asked you to ask us what she should feed you. I'm not so sure she really knows what you should be eating. It has nothing to do with how much she loves you...she just doesn't have the knowledge that your therapists and doctors would have.

Accept the Salvation Army food. Make use of the better stuff, and give the rest to a non-diabetic friend who might need some help. And don't be embarrassed. Everyone needs help at times. Do your health a favor and take the food.

Michelle

Denial, I suggest you find out where to pick up an Angel Food Ministries box in your town. It is clean, healthy food with lots of variety.

Ask your caseworker which churches in your town run the program. I have been a volunteer for many years. I would eat every single thing in the typical box and use my food stamps to buy low carb foods with the stamp funds.

You simply have to find a way to stretch your food stamps. Many folks have to eat less than prime food right now but it is fuel for their body and that is what counts.

Hello group, thanks for your advice. I read everything top to bottom the best my ability. Understand that I need food. I think the main reason I'm so stubborn phone to the Salvation Army is that I won't be embarrass but, I don't have no control on the food that I eat. I was going to the Salvation Army for while in 2010, but trust me I eat everything in sight no healthy foods, and there at times I threw up because I know that food good for me. I have no control on the food I eat. It's just like if I was into porn, for example my therapist would tell me stop and get help, if the same principle with food with me, yes I'm a little overweight, but not obese, but I can eat if no one watches me. It's a addiction I know I'm having a problem, but I do try to burn off my week like exercising walking, yes my sugar is around 140 245 every other day. That's a reason I don't want to go get food, it's easier me run out, then keep in fridge rater. Like I said group I can eat a lot if there was big big refrigerator full and someone said to me it's all yours you know all that food will be gone in about two weeks doesn't last me, that's my food addiction. I know slipper knows a lot about food addiction we have a lot in common. I know were opposite but we deal with same stuff every day. It's not easy to be a food addicted. When I visit my mom in Florida she could not believe how much I eat for the size of me. She even thought I was sleeping eating ice cream. There at times it would be to 30 morning I will be sleeping and eating. I'm afraid to put myself at the Salvation Army again. Now I hope you can understand food is my comfort my energy my life. Den

Den, I TOTALLY get what you're saying now. It just clicked in.

You're saying you are like a binger, who is compulsive about your eating. I've seen programs on this. It's a definite disease where the person can be really good, and then at night go in and totally eat everything up sight, and then throw up?? Is that what you're talking about? Doesn't therapy help with this? The opposite would be someone anorexic who can't eat at all, no matter how thin they are. Then they obsess about their body image.

So is this what your therapist is saying? Thank goodness it's not anything else but that, Den.

Okay...SO if you got the Salvation Food, you would just eat everything in sight, so you're saying it's better you don't have that around the house. What a problem!

Work hard with your therapist on this one, Den. Good luck!

I struggle with food addictions too, but on a much smaller scale. I'm ALWAYS thinking about food, but I have the will power to stay away from harmful things, and have made plans on how to do this.

I NEVER keep food in the house I can't have.

I take thing out for dinner in small amounts, and never leave leftovers.

I don't walk down certain aisles in the supermarket where there is candy, chips, desserts.

I keep things I can eat in the house that if I'm in a HUNGRY mode(and overwhelmed...worried about something like the bathroom remodel I'm going through, or other problems like my computer going on me, I have to be EXTRA careful not to SOOTHE with food. I'm sure other people experience this when stressed. Some go for chocolate, others go for things that make them feel better, for the moment. Then you get upset when you gain the weight.

I've been through therapy so I recognize WHY I'm thinking about the food. That helps a lot.

Take care. You can beat this thing...it's like alcohol, gambling, and other addictions. It can be done, Den. Right now, I've lost
3 1/2 lbs. of the 11 I had gained. I'm feeling really good.

Take care.

photo and group I will keep talking to my therapist for solutions to get this problem under control but good night love ya, Den

Den:

Michelle is spot on. I also recall you asked what you should tell your friend in Florida to prepare. If she knew what was an appropriate "diabetic diet", she would not have had to ask.

Follow the advice of your doctors and therapists, not your friend.

DMH

Den, my birth mother gave me up for adoption soon after delivery. Three months later, I was adopted by a wonderful couple. THEY were my real mom and dad (they're both gone now).

Please take care of yourself.

Den you have to realize that life is never a bed of roses. It is how we face up to our adversities and failings that measures us one way or another with some people appearing to be heroes because no matter what the problem they move on through with grace and determination.