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    Stuck in Middle Age Frustration
    upnorthgirl posted:
    I am 5'1 and have gained 25 pounds since turning 50 four years ago and now weigh 160 pounds. Me? What? I feel like a crazy lady. I have always been full figured, but looked great in a size 10 jean, but now I have reduced calories, but am definitely stuck in some middle age nightmare because I cannot lose weight like I could in my 30's and even 40's. I feel a strong loss of control here...
    brunosbud responded:
    What you're describing is natural aging and our inability to accept, less is more. A perfect example of this is "retirement". If you believe it's about money and you don't have enough (who does?) than you'll drive yourself harder no matter what nature is telling you...In other words, you can't stop menopause just because you still need 10 more years before your pension kicks in.

    On the other hand, if you think of retirement as "simplification" and fewer "priorities", you can retire when you're 20. That "craziness" you describe is the "imbalance" that afflicts everyone with health issues. Your present lifestyle is not in "balance" with your basic natural instincts (to feel better).
    Thus, you may think you're doing everything "healthy" but if you've given up nothing in terms of priorities, your body will continue to fight you at every turn.

    Education is a time consuming and deliberate act of will and discipline. If it's not a priority, and you believe that weight loss can be "treated", well, I guess "craziness" can be a tolerable way to live.

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