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I'm a newbie. I just came across this message board and I am SO glad I did. I am hoping you all can help me find my way...
Name: Annie
Region: Shoreline of CT
Numbers: sw 171 / cw 171 / gw 130
Hardest Challenge: MOTIVATION, sticking with it, and FOOD!
I just turned 29 last month and I keep telling myself this is going to be my year. In the past 10 years I have tried Weight Watchers, numerous times, had a personal trainer for a year (man was that expensive). I tired high protein diets, no carb diets. I dont eat red meat or pork so that narrows down a lot of fattening foods. I have gone thru phases where I go to the gym 6 days a week and work out until I want to fall over and die. I have tired low calorie, practically starve yourself diets. Each time I have lost about 10-15 lbs, which dont get me wrong, is GREAT. But then I hit a wall, and no matter what different/more challenging things I try, I get stuck, so then I give up and I ALWAYS gain back what I lost...and then some. So here I am, having tried it all and I am the heaviest I have ever been, not to mention - the unhappiest.
Its not like I dont know what I have to do in order to lose the weight. Its just being able to step back and look at the big picture. I want to lose over 40 lbs. I mean, that seems like an impossible goal. I understand a negative attitude gets you nowhere. But I am sure a lot of you can relate to the hesitation - like, can I really do this? What makes this time different? How do I know I wont just fail, again? Do I want to lose this weight? HELL TO THE YES! Do I want to walk into a room and feel attractive, instead of instantly worrying about how fat I look? And wondering if people are calling me fat behind my back? You bet your ass I do. So, if my desire to lose weight and be happy and finally live the life I have robbed myself of for all these years, is so strong, why isnt it strong enough to get me through my weight loss journey?
Does anyone have some words of wisdom for a lost soul like me? Or perhaps a swift kick in the behind?
I can relate to having been petite and slim all my life until a few years ago - it makes being plump really difficult, remembering how I used to be and feel.
Of course that's the classic dieter's dilemma: one wants to be thin, but you also want to eat as much as before. All I can say, is never let yourself become extremely hungry, because that's when your body and soul rebel and say "what the heck, I can't stand this any longer; I am going to eat until I am really full for a change".
Rather eat small amounts frequently.
Also, remember that there is no substitute for action. We can have the most wonderful plans, desires, meal ideas, menus, etc., but unless we take action and cut the food intake, we're not going to get anywhere.
Good luck, and your goal is not impossible. Many have lost 3 or more times that weight without having any magical powers; you can reach your goal too. You just have to take it one day at a time.
I AM motivated, I DO want to lose the weight and feel good about myself, I AM capable of doing it, I just DON'T, and it makes me hate myself that much more... Rediculous, really.
Would love nothing more than to be fit and trim, but do nothing to achieve it. I belly dance, and I thought that showing my belly to others would motivate me, but it hasn't in over 2 years...
Sometimes we got to kick our own A$$! Seriously, this will take some time. It isn't about a DIET, but to lose and keep the weight off, we got to change our eating and exercise habits.
What do we know about changing habits.....it doesn't hapen overnight. Small changes do add up.
Increase veggies and drink 64 oz water. I use Crystal Lite and sugar-free tea packets.
Somewhere along the way, you will make a mental change that is important, too. I think the self-control thing is like a muscle and it gets stronger along the way.
I got alot of support here. I like to vent here and get tips, too.
I have been here since Jan, 2011. I have gone down a bit over 30 and have kept it off. Keeping weight off was a new one for me. That was my goal, to lose and keep it off. I have done this by slowly changing my eating. Lower carb and sugar-free, 64 oz water and increase exercise. Small amounts protein and lots of fiber, alot of veggies and fruits.
If you have a slip, don't give up just get back on track ASAP!!
Let us know how you do.
Good luck!!!!
Barb
I see you joined clubs;but to no permanent avail. .....I seen this group too yesterday; frommy email and joined! Hope it can help with all of us band together! I need to lose 35. Never thought I would have to be concerned over my weight.;since i was THIN,,,most of my life til past several yrs. ;very odd for me! At my ripe age of 61; it's not easy either!
Good luck! Cottoncandygal
and welcome. Over the past little-over-a-year, I've lost 30 lbs., from 170(ish) to 140(ish). I've done it very slowly, averaging only like 1/2 a pound a week loss. But it's worked. I'm not super hungry, I don't deprive myself, and I don't work out more than what I'm comfortable with. But slowly, over time, I've hit a point where I'm getting really, really pleased with my results, and I know they'll be easy to maintain, because I'm not making any big changes.Also, like two weeks ago, I had kind of a total meltdown. I just got sick of having to be conscious of what I was eating, and just couldn't stand the thought of working out. So I stopped. I didn't go totally nuts, but just stopped looking at what I was eating closely, meditated instead of worked out, and reminded myself that this is a favor I'm treating myself to, not a punishment I have to endure.
So, my reccomendation is to pace yourself. It's easy to stay very go-go-go for a while, but it doesn't make sense. Think about other things in life. Do you expect immediate results if you just plow through something in an afternoon? Or do you expect better results with planning and pacing? Weight loss is just like anything else, baby steps lead to huge bounds, just eventually. Chill out, lady
Breathe deep and tend to yourself. Make reasonable choices like 90% of the time rather than expecting perfection 100% of the time. Enjoy the foods you like in moderation, and find activities that'll make you forget it's exercise...maybe dance or some kind of sport? You can do this!!!!!!!!Would totally love to chat with you more. I could use a buddy. Good luck to you!

Recovery from surgery is difficult. I have a sister recovering from knee surgery. She needs to lose even more than me. I really feel for her...how can she exercise with so much pain? But, she prays and meditates and tries to stay positive refusing to give in to the limited mobility. Good luck to you. Glad to hear from you!I just returned from a trip of a lifetime to Costa Rica that was supposed to be an adventure trip. (Of course, I broke my leg a week after booking the trip.) Unfortunately, I wasn't able to hike, but I still had a nice time with my family. I came home 8 pounds heavier though, so the diet cycle starts again!
I'm looking for a small group of women who are willing to be in daily contact to support one another. If you're interested, let me know...
Mo!
There were days in my weight loss journey that were less than stellar ...I'd mess up with one meal and get back on track immediately rather than allowing that to derail me! I'd say..."okay...I messed up...track it and move on!" We tend to want the weight off too quickly forgetting that we didn't gain it overnight...or even in a week or two! 40 lbs. is completely within your grasp! I lost over 120 in 19 months after over 21 years of obesity. I've maintained that for over 5 years now and it's not because of perfection...(you sound like one of those folks like me who are a little obsessive/compulsive!) but ...PERSISTENCE! Write that on a sticky note and post it on the mirror..."Persistence...not perfection!" and focus on that rather than thinking that your unattractive or worrying about how you look.
There's tons of tips, suggestions, menu plans, ideas, etc...here on WebMd and on other places for free like Sparkpeople, Livestrong, LoseIt...there's places to get support like Weight Watchers (like I did) and more! I did a combination of things wanting all the support I could get. I got personal support from Weight Watchers (meetings, accountability) and get all kinds of support and information from here and Sparkpeople!
Go for it! Don't give up so easily! But don't try to be so very perfect and make it too hard either. The only person stopping you...is yourself!
Instead of focusing on the 40 lbs...focus on 5 lbs. Then go from there to the next 5 lbs.
If you do it in an unhealthy way (too little calories...deprivation...all or nothing attitude in the gym...etc...) then you'll doom yourself to failure because it's not a realistic way to do this.
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