Hi maeberry, welcome!
Judy is right , when you decide do really do it, it's not going to be a diet, it's going to be a lifestyle, lifeLONG change.
No matter how many books and aids you buy it all is going to boil down to eating less, eating right and exercising.
There really is no magic potion, pill or diet that will work for everyone. We are all different and we all have our food likes and dislikes, allergies and/or medical complications that make "one size fits all" plans extraordinarily difficult, impractical or even impossible to succeed with.
Start a food and fitness planner here on WebMd or on Fitday.com. Log all of your daily foods as you eat them, make sure to add in sauces, oils that you cook with, herbs, sweeteners ..... everything.
Do the same for whatever exercise you are doing.
This will enable you to actually see how much you are taking in and how much energy you are expending during the day. Don't fret trying to do everything all at once. Focus on making healthier food choices and eating smaller portions. Only when you feel strong enough,motivated enough, move into some exercise. And do it SLOWLY. Walking is great because you can always do it faster and for longer periods of time.
Blog, log your foods, and drink your water.
Stay with it and us, we love to help out.
huggs
kim
Kim SW 252 CW 180.3 GW 135
If hunger is not the problem, then eating is not the solution.---author anonymous
If you are going through Hell,keep going.-- Winston Churchill