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anthonybrownii posted:
If only having seizures was viewed as other conditions. I am about to vent so please don't get mad. I eel that when you say you have epilepsy it is treated like leprosy and not the most or one of themost varied conditionbut the least funded the least researched , understood or when mentioned we are suppoed to not speak of it but I continue to explain what my package is and in package as many of you can agree we have more than one form. I have an autistic cousin I lost many to Cancers but what I really want to say is that the rate at which the money flows to these chrities you would think they were purchasing a lottery ticket to payoff in the future. I feel that if more people knew how vulnerable they were to developing this condition as they are others they may just drop dead in the street. I was born with mine but if you listen to newbies on here it is so overwhelming to them when they get dxbecause this was a closet condition meaning it was discussed among the family and those close but it wasn't in the paper telling you the number of new cases or the percentage of likelihood of you devloping sz's. I've been on many boards and you hear a story of someone newly dx and you have to explain the realities to themand the processes where in the case of Cancer of what ever body part you can get a vast amount of data,compassion and understanding. In mine and many others it was the thorn between Mr/Ms.Right and I mean Thorn like running through a Rose bush. I have been in two marriages and the leading cause of our break up was E the side effects of meds the limitations you devlop that even though I had it for 43yrs they may change like now I walk with a cane can't work due to the varied limitations from lighting to low tolerence to stress. If I didn't have faith and an I don't care attitude towards those who feel it is fake or something. I have had all of the alphabet test and they comeback ok evenwhen I had one on each machine. I feel that if the society knew as a whole that a stroke and Gran Mal definition is so close they might be scared. I've read posts of newbies who were sleep deprived because of work and school and have one sz then the recreational drug user that includes Binge drinking or getting drunk frequently, If they knew that they were killing the fuse box called a brain how would they see us then. I am enjoying the leader of the EFA is a Epiletic as well as a Nuero because maybe after all of these years of having those who empathised with the cause be one who is enduring and pushing for what I have never seen in the U.S. like the event in Washington D.C.
I am gonna end on this we all need to get out of our shells and begin to let it be known what we are dealing withand the more people see that you are a secret to be kept but a condition to be addressed then maybe we can stop the spoon myths or others that I have heard they make me say hold up this is what you do if you see me drop and amybe things will open up for us. I mean how many of you know that you are protected under the Americans with disability act and as long as you can still perform the worktheycan't fire you even if it requires light modifications to allow you to stay productive . I am done venting and my mood is getting better sometimes I talk to my mother or family in General because they have been on this journey withme and just go with the flow .
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dancer86442 responded:
Good Day Anthony,

I hear people on these boards & on FB. This is a Major Problem for a Lot of people. I Want to Shout It Out. I Do Shout It Out! Unfortunately, when speaking to the General Public, Most times we get a 'Deaf Ear'. I know quite a few people I have talked to are misinformed about 'proper Response'. Just last Month, a Lady in a convenience store was talking w/ me. Spoon in mouth, was her reply. Such a Scary Thought. There are so many Others, who have misconceptions about any/every fact about Epilepsy. I, for one, am willing to treat them to the truth. One Person at a time. Whenever.

I've dealt w/ being an epileptic for almost 40 yrs. But, my Family kept Epilepsy Facts from me. So, I've actually been dealing w/ it for 60 yrs. I was even unaware of my Sister's Epilepsy until I started having seizures again at age 27. Yes, we do discuss it now, but, back when, it Was Not Allowed.

I think I'm repeating your vent. But, I'm just trying to say "I know!" and "It is sooo sad". "I Agree" Newbies & Oldies Need to Speak Up. On Forums/boards/public internet/General Public. I've read thousands of posts of situations where family Still don't/won't listen. The only people who do are those who 'have been there, done that'. So, they come to the Net & find people who can relate. To me, that is Good. But, their voices Need to be heard World Wide. In Public &/or w/ family & friends.

I know when I can't get others' to listen &/or Accept, I just "Go w/ the flow", too. But, there are times when people/family/friends, make me wanna Boil Over because even though they have been around me & supported me all this time, they Still don't get it. The other day I was telling Hubby my new shades made the green light, turquoise. All other colors were 'normal'. He asked if I was having a seizure. Nope, the next lite was the same. My GF tried them on & got the same results. Yet, last week, when I was smelling 'odd' odors, he didn't believe me when I told him it was a Symptom/seizure.

Anthony, this was All worth Venting About. I sure can't Argue any of your points. Well Said! I do hope our new EFA Rep helps us get the word out. Make Epilepsy & More Info available to the Public & Work Places. I know about discrimination in the work force. I know about my Rites. Fat lot of good that did me. Since it was Epilepsy meds, not seizures, that triggered a mood swing.

I Say: Make Epilepsy a Common Household Word. Make Information Available to all. Put Us on Public TV! Like Cancer or Erectile Dysfunction. Inform people: There are sooo many aspects to Epilepsy & meds. But, we Are Still Normal People! God Bless Us All! HUGS!

Love Candi
 
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saxofone1 replied to dancer86442's response:
Good morning Anthony and Candi,

I feel every word you two have spoken!!!!

The subject of ep is definitely a hush-hush one among the black community. I was rejected by many of the people I went to school with or who hung around my house when word spread that I was having seizures.

The hush-hush attitude among the black community goes back a long way before segregation. If you were to do some reading, you'll find that ep was considered a work of the devil amongst the many African tripes. The involuntary movements that were witnessed were assumed to be caused by a "possession of the devil/evil spirits". That indi(and often the family) was shunned, avoided, or kicked out of the village. It was time for an exorcism.

Unfortunately, this believe was carried over to the states when the 1st slave ships arrived. And being denied equal medical care, this believe continued. This was particularly strong in the southern states.

During my time in Mpls, I met a young lady from Liberia. Her family was afraid to visit her because of her ep. If they did, they didn't drink from any of her glasses or use any of her eating utensils. She told me that her family believed her to be contagious.

Like you said, Anthony, ep is a closet condition shared only with the closest family members/friends. Unfortunately, it is still a closet condition that many with ep keep quiet because of fear of rejection/ridicule.

All the years of working with kids, I have always been open with them about my ep. I received more support and encouragement from this group than from the adult community. The kids had their questions but once they understood they were fine with it . Had no fears. Just a loving concern for me. "Don't forget your meds, Miss Angie."

The annual strolls for ep need just as much tv coverage as the strolls for cancer, AIDS, diabetes, etc. But people are still too afraid to approach it.

Like you have said, it going to be up to us, the people with ep, to change the image of epilepsy. I don't know, maybe a t-shirt or bumper sticker to start spreading the word that we who have ep should be noticed and recognized for our abilities not the overactive brain.

"One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest" is a great example of the misunderstandings of an illness. There are many of us out there, Maybe one day all our voices will be heard. But for right now all we can do is talk to others one at a time.

Anthony, thanks for venting all that we have been feeling.

Have a good day. Don't stop shouting!!!!

angie


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