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AMY,

You Know & I Know that this is Not Right! You Are His Wife! His Mother is No Longer his 'Legal Guardian'! Go get your Husband! Visit the Court House on the way home & get a Restraining Order placed on the Woman! Go to Human Resources & ask about other Help you Should be able to get for him! Amy, are you on Facebook? If so, look for me! Jeanne Phelps! I know someone who may have More Advice for you! If not, let me know & I will ask him to join our community, here!

Blasted Old Woman! If he is having seizures then Of Course he is confused as to who he is or where he is! But, she is holding him Against his Will. You know what? Call the Police! Explain that you were threatened & Ask for an Escort to go get him! No need to ask your Hubby When! Just go! He Is Your Hubby! Please Amy, this is the Only Way to Help your Husband at this time!

Love Candi

Another Suggestion: When you get Hubby back, call his place of employment & have her name Removed as Emergency Contact! Please, visit Family assistance at your Human Resources Center to get More Ideas/Help!

Love Candi

Clik on my Id or Profile pic. My email address is posted. Contact me, please!

Amy, Do you know which DR Mom called? Call that DRs Office & see if he was seen or when his appt is! Take the Police with you & be there for his Appt!! If it is too Late for that, then take the Police to her house. Reclaim your Hubby & follow thru on the Restraining Order! What she is doing is Illegal! She is, in my Opinion: Endangering the Welfare of another Human Being! Plus, she Threatened You. Do not forget to tell the Police That! Stand Up & Take Action for your Hubby! Don't be scared! Get Mad & Fight!

Love Candi

Hi Amy,

I agree with Candi!!!! This is totally wrong, selfish, ridiculous, as well as dangerous to you and your hubby.

Yes, this is an ep support group. But it is not only for those of us who have ep. We are here for the family and friends as well.

Do your best to follow through with Candi's suggestions. The stress he is under being kept captive very likely caused the seizures that he has experienced.

Hang in there the best you can. Sounds like you are the only logical/sensible thinking person in your husband's life.

Do keep us posted. We share your concerns.

angie

Amy, I agree 100% with Candi and Angie.
Your husband's mother is a threat to your husband, you and herself. Mother in law need psychological help now!

The authorities need to be notified to get your husband out of the captivity he is now in. This can be be a health threat to everyone. Get a restraining order because you are his wife and you need to be together.

As Candi said get your name as an emergency contact and take his mother off. Please contact his neurological doctor to make sure you are the primary contact not his mother.

My prayers are with you and please keep fighting for his freedom that is why we live in America!

Dana

I agree with all that's been said previously, and my 2 cents is that (depending on the laws of your state and I'm definitely not an attorney or legal professional of any kind) it sounds like she may possibly be holding him against his will, kidnapping, or something similar.

Definitely get her name off all emergency contact documents. I know doctors aren't supposed to share information because of the privacy laws, but we had a situation with my dad where the doctor's staff was giving his health information to people who had no right to it. My sis and I (who were his legal guardians at the time, medical and legal proxy) visited the doc, told her what had happened, and had her "flag" his file to be sure sis and I were the only ones who could be given information, and I think we had to have a "code word" or something to prove it was one of us. I think you could sign legal documents (not sure if you have to go to court) naming you, and only you, as his medical and legal proxy, and legal guardian if needed. Again, I'm not a legal professional so I'm afraid you'll have to do some research on this. I'd throw out an idea (it may or may not be logical or do-able) that a consult with a lawyer who specializes in cases like yours might clarify your rights and your husband's rights,

I'm so sorry for your situation. You must be so worried about your husband. It's a very scary thing, especially when your MIL is such a controlling, abusive #$&*@, but for your husband's sake and your peace of mind, please follow the advice given by the above posters, ASAP.

I hate to ask, but if you can and want to, could you keep us updated? I'm wishing you success on this difficult journey, but remember that anything you do will be better for your husband (and you) than your horrible MIL has done/will do. I'm not a medical professional either, but she sounds like she could possibly be mentally ill (or just a narcissistic, controlling, nasty you-know-what. My dad was like that).

I'll be thinking about you.

Bobbie

Hi Amy,

One more thing to consider. When you talk/visit with your hubby's doctor, ask him to write to a letter explaining why he should be removed from his mom's home. Ask him to state that being in a stressful enviroment is damaging to his seizure control as well as his mental state. Mental/mood states play strongly on seizure frequency. More stress, more seizures. Heavy seizure activity can lead to depression which is a whole other can of worms that you(or hubby) don't need.

Find all the support you can. Hang in there.

love,
angie

Candi, I emailed you from my personal email. I tried to email you on here but didn't figure out how so just did it from my email. I also tried to find you on facebook and there were several Jeanne Phelps. And yes, I'm mad. Lol.

Thank you. Yes, I will keep you all posted. My nerves and emotions have been pretty bad these last 2 months. I do feel like the only logical one. He is scared to death of her. Thanks

Bobbie, thanks for the advice. Right now I'm working on all you suggested. Yes, I will update you all. Thanks again. Amy

Thanks for the idea about having the doctor write a note Angie. Didn't think of that. Thanks again.

Amy, I think I have 2 email addresses for you. Are you Amy N... ...yahoo.com??? & an iPad ......... me.com???? I sent you an invite w/ the me.com. It doesn't show on my Facebook or Find Friends whether I was successful or not. You may need your computer to Add me. iPads don't always work like other phones.

Mad?? Good for You! Call the Police??? Even Better! Know we are Behind you/With You & your Hubby! When you get him Back, Please, Try to go to Counseling. Both of You! Maybe he will be more open to the Idea if you tell him it's for Your sake & you need him to be with you!

Love Candi

Hi Bobbie,

Thank You for your Input. I agree! She needs to see a Lawyer, too. As his Wife it Should All Stand Up in Court, if need be. If you would like to read a bit more of Amy's Journey, just clik on her Id & Previous Discussions.

Amy, if you are reading this reply, Suggestion: Contact the Epilepsy Foundation: Jeanne Carpenter Legal assistance. Maybe they will put you in touch with a pro bono Lawyer or pay for services. I know Holding him against his will is illegal. But, since she was on his Emergency contact list, I'm not sure if you could get her for Kidnapping him, too. Get all Her Rites Removed! HUGS!