Low Testosterone & Emotions
An_244879 posted:
I've been doing a lot of research for my boyfriend and I regarding his low testosterone - as we've read and learned so much about the side effects of prescribed synthetic patches that he (justifiably) refuses to use.
One thing we're having trouble finding - is support regarding the EMOTIONAL aspects of having low testosterone!!
He says he's in-love with me . . . but is so conflicted because he says he's 'not attracted' to me.
The way he loves me thru endless hugs, lovingly looking in my eyes, always touching and holding my hands, spoons with me all night . . . don't think I need to bore you with more details . . . but I feel his 'not attracted' comment means his ED - of course I beat myself up about my weight or whatever else he could mean/feel with that comment.
At one point he said he's afraid if he can't keep me happy - I won't stay with him. I feel he's trying to keep me at bay - so HE doesn't get hurt.
HELP!! What do you think?? Any suggestions at all??
One thing we're having trouble finding - is support regarding the EMOTIONAL aspects of having low testosterone!!
He says he's in-love with me . . . but is so conflicted because he says he's 'not attracted' to me.
The way he loves me thru endless hugs, lovingly looking in my eyes, always touching and holding my hands, spoons with me all night . . . don't think I need to bore you with more details . . . but I feel his 'not attracted' comment means his ED - of course I beat myself up about my weight or whatever else he could mean/feel with that comment.
At one point he said he's afraid if he can't keep me happy - I won't stay with him. I feel he's trying to keep me at bay - so HE doesn't get hurt.
HELP!! What do you think?? Any suggestions at all??
13 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI've been doing a lot of research for my boyfriend and I regarding his low testosterone - as we've read and learned so much about the side effects of prescribed synthetic patches that he (justifiably) refuses to use. <br />One thing we're having trouble finding - is support regarding the EMOTIONAL aspects of having low testosterone!! <br /> <br />He says he's in-love with me . . . but is so conflicted because he says he's 'not attracted' to me.<br /> <br />The way he loves me thru endless hugs, lovingly looking in my eyes, always touching and holding my hands, spoons with me all night . . . don't think I need to bore you with more details . . . but I feel his 'not attracted' comment means his ED - of course I beat myself up about my weight or whatever else he could mean/feel with that comment.<br /> <br />At one point he said he's afraid if he can't keep me happy - I won't stay with him. I feel he's trying to keep me at bay - so HE doesn't get hurt.<br /> <br />HELP!! What do you think?? Any suggestions at all?? <img src=http://mail.yimg.com/nq/mc/1_0_0/mesg/tsmileys2/02.gif class=post_img />
GWeaver responded:
I am not a doctor, but I have been using AndroGel Testosterone Gel for several years to bring my T-Cell count up the normal range.
Your boyfriend will feel much better in many ways if he has his doctor test his T-Cell count and if it is low I would recommend the AndroGel Testosterone Gel 1.62 over patches any day.
Good luck!
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & Emotions<br />I am not a doctor, but I have been using AndroGel Testosterone Gel for several years to bring my T-Cell count up the normal range.<br /> <br />Your boyfriend will feel much better in many ways if he has his doctor test his T-Cell count and if it is low I would recommend the AndroGel Testosterone Gel 1.62 over patches any day.<br /> <br />Good luck!<br />
djurabre responded:
I am 90% convinced that this is about intercourse... He is either too much in love with you and he's afraid to lose you (if you've had intercourse) or he's afraid that he won't perform as well as he should (if you haven't had one, and he's had some bad experience in the past)... I can't give you direct advice, because it's not exact science, but this sound more like a psychological problem than a low testosterone level... It's more about dopamine than testosterone... Try being much more open with him, and finding out what he really wants (but reeeeaaaallly wants, deep inside) and make him relax... I agree with GWeaver... He should test his T-Cell... Doesn't sound like it, but you never know... good luck!
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI am 90% convinced that this is about intercourse... He is either too much in love with you and he's afraid to lose you (if you've had intercourse) or he's afraid that he won't perform as well as he should (if you haven't had one, and he's had some bad experience in the past)... I can't give you direct advice, because it's not exact science, but this sound more like a psychological problem than a low testosterone level... It's more about dopamine than testosterone... Try being much more open with him, and finding out what he really wants (but reeeeaaaallly wants, deep inside) and make him relax... I agree with GWeaver... He should test his T-Cell... Doesn't sound like it, but you never know... good luck!
TOPCOP2003 replied to GWeaver's response:
T-CELL COUNT IS THE WRONG TERMANOLIGY AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TESTOSTERON.
T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity.
T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & Emotions<b>T-CELL COUNT IS THE WRONG TERMANOLIGY AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TESTOSTERON.</b><br /><b></b> <br /><b>T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity.</b>
TOPCOP2003 replied to GWeaver's response:
T-CELL COUNT IS THE WRONG TERMANOLIGY AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TESTOSTERONE COUNT.
T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity.
T-CELLS ARE COMMONLY ASSOCIATED WITH HIV TERMS.
T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity.
T-CELLS ARE COMMONLY ASSOCIATED WITH HIV TERMS.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & Emotions<b>T-CELL COUNT IS THE WRONG TERMANOLIGY AND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TESTOSTERONE COUNT.</b><br /><b></b> <br /><b>T cells or T lymphocytes belong to a group of white blood cells known as lymphocytes, and play a central role in cell-mediated immunity. </b><br /><b></b> <br /><b>T-CELLS ARE COMMONLY ASSOCIATED WITH HIV TERMS.</b>
GWeaver replied to TOPCOP2003's response:
YOU ARE CORRECT
"Testosterone, Total" is what you are looking for in the blood test. I'm sorry that I used "T-Cell Count." The range that is considered normal is "241 - 827 ng/dL."
"Testosterone, Total" is what you are looking for in the blood test. I'm sorry that I used "T-Cell Count." The range that is considered normal is "241 - 827 ng/dL."
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsYOU ARE CORRECT <br /> <br />"Testosterone, Total" is what you are looking for in the blood test. I'm sorry that I used "T-Cell Count." The range that is considered normal is "241 - 827 ng/dL."
NOHARD responded:
Look if he wont try ED meds, but then who can blame him, he could try herbs, there are lots he could try, there cheap and some you have around the house/flat, there is Garlic and Cayenne these will help open up his viens to his p***s to let more blood flow, he could try Tribulus, this will help testostrone, libido and boost his energy, there Ginger he could have that in Green tea with honey and lemon, its called erection tea on pegym, all these you can Google for more facts, just add ED on the end of them, but after that there is a long list.
Good Luck
Good Luck
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsLook if he wont try ED meds, but then who can blame him, he could try herbs, there are lots he could try, there cheap and some you have around the house/flat, there is Garlic and Cayenne these will help open up his viens to his p***s to let more blood flow, he could try Tribulus, this will help testostrone, libido and boost his energy, there Ginger he could have that in Green tea with honey and lemon, its called erection tea on pegym, all these you can Google for more facts, just add ED on the end of them, but after that there is a long list.<br />Good Luck
I have low T levels due to non production of testosterone. I had an orchiectomy several years ago due to tumors. I am okay now but struggle with the effects of low T. I was on Androgel for quite a while but switched to Axiron abour 5 months ago. I think one point a couple has to remember in regards to low T is to increase desire with greater stimulation such as visual and vocal. Also, dont be afraid to rty new things to increase excitement. I thinkk that can really help. No guy wants to feel like a dud and no woman wants to feel undesirable. Talk about it and work it out.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI have low T levels due to non production of testosterone. I had an orchiectomy several years ago due to tumors. I am okay now but struggle with the effects of low T. I was on Androgel for quite a while but switched to Axiron abour 5 months ago. I think one point a couple has to remember in regards to low T is to increase desire with greater stimulation such as visual and vocal. Also, dont be afraid to rty new things to increase excitement. I thinkk that can really help. No guy wants to feel like a dud and no woman wants to feel undesirable. Talk about it and work it out.
HarvHere responded:
I am 92 years old. I have used Cialis since it came on the market about 15 years ago. I get the "20" strength and cut it in half. Works for about 36 hours. (Google for it). A lot of Canadian pharmacies sell it for less than $2.00 per pill and no prescription needed. Recently it started upsetting my stomach so I searcher for a good herbal help. So far a brand named "Zyrexin", (Google for it), works very well and is inexpensive. If it helps this old guy it should work for him. Good luck.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI am 92 years old. I have used Cialis since it came on the market about 15 years ago. I get the "20" strength and cut it in half. Works for about 36 hours. (Google for it). A lot of Canadian pharmacies sell it for less than $2.00 per pill and no prescription needed. Recently it started upsetting my stomach so I searcher for a good herbal help. So far a brand named "Zyrexin", (Google for it), works very well and is inexpensive. If it helps this old guy it should work for him. Good luck.
Kaiser Permanente says the normal range is 175 - 781ng/dL.
They use direct injection to the thigh every two weeks.
I have gotten used to that. Too many side effects with other methods.
They use direct injection to the thigh every two weeks.
I have gotten used to that. Too many side effects with other methods.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsKaiser Permanente says the normal range is 175 - 781ng/dL.<br /><br /><br />They use direct injection to the thigh every two weeks.<br />I have gotten used to that. Too many side effects with other methods.
kambaltuko replied to GWeaver's response:
do i need prescription to buy this and where can ia buy this and how much is this ...thank you .
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & Emotionsdo i need prescription to buy this and where can ia buy this and how much is this ...thank you .
indianaguy responded:
I have no suggestions but I do have a question.
What can a man do that is taking Meds that reduce his testosterone because of BHP?
My libbo is zero and I suffer from ED.
What can a man do that is taking Meds that reduce his testosterone because of BHP?
My libbo is zero and I suffer from ED.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI have no suggestions but I do have a question.<br /> <br />What can a man do that is taking Meds that reduce his testosterone because of BHP?<br /> <br />My libbo is zero and I suffer from ED.
GWeaver replied to indianaguy's response:
I did not feel good about putting the range in my message earlier as the range could be based on weight, etc.
In response to the question about a prescription. One is needed in the US. I do not know what the cost is. I would ask our pharmacist.
In response to the question about a prescription. One is needed in the US. I do not know what the cost is. I would ask our pharmacist.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsI did not feel good about putting the range in my message earlier as the range could be based on weight, etc.<br /> <br />In response to the question about a prescription. One is needed in the US. I do not know what the cost is. I would ask our pharmacist.
mfullmike replied to indianaguy's response:
Indianaguy: I did not see any great replies to your question. I suggest you go to www.peaktestosterone.com and explore the boards there. I just found it myself and they seem to provide a lot more excellent information, discussion, and advice there. Good luck.
P.S. I believe you meant BPH, not BHP, right? Also, I have BPH, but I've still tried Androgel 1% and now Axiron with my doctor's blessing, so don't automatically think you can't try it too.
P.S. I believe you meant BPH, not BHP, right? Also, I have BPH, but I've still tried Androgel 1% and now Axiron with my doctor's blessing, so don't automatically think you can't try it too.
Report This| Share this:Low Testosterone & EmotionsIndianaguy: I did not see any great replies to your question. I suggest you go to www.peaktestosterone.com and explore the boards there. I just found it myself and they seem to provide a lot more excellent information, discussion, and advice there. Good luck.<br />P.S. I believe you meant BPH, not BHP, right? Also, I have BPH, but I've still tried Androgel 1% and now Axiron with my doctor's blessing, so don't automatically think you can't try it too.
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