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DESPERATE for some advice
An_245609 posted:
Help. . . !
Im a 24 year old wife and mother of 1. Im at the end of my rope. My husband and I are just a month shy of being married for one year and I dont know what to do Im the one that wants sex and he's the one that could care less. We have been together for almost 4 years and yes we have always had a little bit of a problem but nothing like what its been like since we got pregnant Feb 2011. And yes we were trying. Yes there is a small age diff he is 31 and Im 24. When we do have sex its a slam bam thank you ma'am sort of thing. And I dont know what to do. I'm not the typical woman you hear men talking about I love sex I love to please my partner Im easily turned on by my husband. I've known from even before we ever had sex the first time that he doesnt EVER "go down " on a girl and I didnt really care at 1st due to the fact the sex was AMAZING! But now after 4 years yeah when he puts some effort into it the sex s great but that effort is so few and FARRRRRR between. I have offered to watch porn, dress up, roleplay, about the only thing I wont do is have anyone else with us! Still nothing I try to talk to him he just gets mad or just walks away I have asked him totalk to his dr and he says he has but nothing is better nothing has changed. Yes we have the 7month old but he is a wonderful baby and sleeps all night in his own room already. And yes I am "over weight" but have lost all the baby weight and am back to what I was before we got pregnant so its not that actually Im about 10lbs under what I was. Im to the point now where I am willing to see about taking something to suppress my sexual appetite. I love my husband and would never cheat on him but now I can say that I do understand the term DESPERATE HOUSEWIFE ! What can I do? How can I approach him to talk to him about it that maybe he will open up about whatever it is. It is defiantly one of the reasons we fight and it is the main reason I stay so stressed Sex is a great stress reliever for me. What can I do?
georgiagail responded:
You mention in one sentence that you two are "trying" to address this issue and then in another you state when you try to talk to him "he gets mad or just walks away".

Both these sentences say exactly the opposite.

Perhaps the reason he does not wish intimacy with you as often as you wish are for reasons that would be painful for him to say to your face and painful for you to hear. If so, a neutral third party (i.e., a therapist) may be beneficial; someone he can speak with that is not so close to the issue as you are.

NikkiBue replied to georgiagail's response:
No! we got pregnant Feb 2011. And yes we were trying. as in we were trying to conceive. And yes i do agree that a 3rd party would do some good Im sure but when only one is willing to talk to someone it doesnt work.
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