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mrsxerantis posted:
I am 29 and my husband is 36. I have a big appetite for sex and when we met everything was great in that aspect. after the first year of our marriage it went downhill fast. We took him to the doctor and he was diagnosed with low T and ED. They gave him medication to help fix this... but after weeks of using the T we have noticed no difference and the cialis and viagra work but then cause horrible headaches. He has given up trying and although i fully understand how frustrating it must be for him nothing is ever gonna get better unless he tries. Every time i discuss this with him and how important it is to our marriage and to me he gets defensive and shuts down or says he will try and then doesnt. Its playing with my self esteem alot seeing as im 30 lbs over the weight when i first met. I need help from anyone that can tell me the best approach to talking to him that he will listen or a medication that doesnt have the side effects viagra and cialis tend to give. We are COMPLETELY night and day from when we were first together and I just want my husband back. I want his self esteem and his confidence back. Its going to end up severely hurting our marriage
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nohard responded:
OK its us men were shy, and some of us dont like to talk about even with our best mates.
But I think I may have an answer to his problem, as I've been down the same path with Viagra, so I turned to herbs and a hormon, now if you go to franktalk.org, and under genral dicussions you will find a post, its titaled HERBS VERSUS DRUGS, HERBS MY CHOICE, all I can ask is please give it a read and an 8 to 12 week trail, it worked for me and if it works for him then it will need to become a way of life.
Good Luck
 
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Sheldon Marks, MD responded:
the vast majority of young men diagnosed with low T are incorrectly put on replacement therapy, many do NOT need it. Many times it is that his estrogen is too high ( often seen with guys with gut fat) or it could be from a small pituitary lesion, so he should see a true specialist for a check of his estradiol and prolactin levels. He also needs a good urologic exam by his urologist as there can be many causes that are correctable. I would hope that his thyroid and liver have also been checked. When men are put on T replacement, it shuts down his natural production so there levels need to be adjusted and modified. Chances are he can be fixed and be normal again. Has he tried low dose daily cialis? Again, a urologist is the only doctor that has the training to handle all these issues and treat ED.
 
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An_246966 responded:
I have low T I was just diagnosed with it 4 days ago and I am divorced due to my ex wife thinking I wasnt intrested in her anymore, Dont think its got anything to do with you it doesnt. Just keep trying to talk to him and help him out.
 
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nohard responded:
Hi , and yes back again, look what the doctor says is probably right if you have a few thousand bucks laying around as a good urologist will cost you, the things that I offer are the cheapest way out of ED, and this frightens all doctors, as these guys want your bucks.
And the best thing is this is not drugs, so a 12 week teast is cheap and if works for him the same as me, then he will soon be back in the saddle again.
Good Luck
 
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mrsxerantis replied to nohard's response:
Cialis had the same affect on his as viagra did. He does have gut fat and doesnt excersise at all. however he isnt overweight. My biggest issue outside of the low T is the lack of feeling. When we try to have intercourse minutes in or even before we start he cannot feel his penis at all. He has back issues and have been told that could be a cause. But some days his back wont be an issue at all and it still happens. The lack of sensitivity has his regular physician stumped. Any ideas on what this could be? Also at nohard-- i will definately look up the herbs.
 
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nohard replied to mrsxerantis's response:
Some of the herbs I recomend will help get his blood good and moving and will bring heat to his groan area, when he gets his blood moving down below it should help with his sensitivity.
And if you can get out at least doing some walking and some swimming these to are the best he can do and go with, make it a joint venture, then you can both get healthy together.
Good Luck
 
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mrsxerantis replied to nohard's response:
Ty ty for all the advice!
 
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CinCurious responded:
I have a similar concern - I am 30 my fiance is 37. He is not as interested in sex as I am. Initially we were closer to the same page but in the last five years our differences in timing and the amount of times has drastically increased. We are active maybe once every 2 weeks on average. I am not sure what to do to help. He can have an erection, but his interested isn't there. At first I thought it was stress induced, but we will always be faced with some stress. We both have gained maybe 10-15 pounds since we met but we are not particularly overweight or obese. He says attraction is not an issue. Any thoughts / suggestions?
 
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RobertPatrick responded:
If he didn't listen to you, and don't want discussison. I think discussing with him would be worthless. I think you should get remedy for his problem. Approach doctor, or try to get some medicine for him. I think if he has other health issues, then i think visiting a doctor with his problem and mentioning his erectile problem to doctor would help him.
 
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Sheldon Marks, MD replied to CinCurious's response:
Weight can play a huge role in sex drive for men, as it raises his estrogen levels.
 
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RobertPatrick replied to Sheldon Marks, MD's response:
Actually obesity or increased weight lowers testosterone level in men which affects sex drive.
 
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