Erectile Dysfunction Community

Since it's been 2 years, I'm guessing this isn't just the body giving a temporary reaction to the laser. This is something many of us guys might face some day so I'm wondering if your doctor has given any advice to you and we can learn from it. This subject is sometimes poo-poo'd by women (even our wives) but is very important to guys. Life-threatening - maybe not but if life has no pleasure, what is the point. I hope you, and by extension all of us, get a good answer of what to do.

Yes, I had the same procedure done-and the doc didnt mention any side effects at all. Because had i known I wouldnt have done it. Yes, retrograde ejaculation is a big one for most guys and they SHOULD know about it. I called the doc after and wanted an explaination and he said its probably permanent-3 yrs. later ,permanent- I wanted an op to reverse this condition and none avail.-doc said take epinephrine 2 hrs. before sex -may help-doesnt---DONT DO THIS PROCEDURE!! The word must get out-this is not for the sexually active male--Plus you sign a form releasing the doc. for any damages!! This is a BIG medical scam!!

I really am sorry to read about your issue here. I too have much limited sensitivity in my penis mainly from MS, having it affect my spinal cord that is dedicated to the senses of my penis. I pretty much can't orgasm during penetration anymore either, but I can have one while masterbating. I know this probably won't aid you and your condition, but I thought I would share with you. Who knows it might help.
I had to totally relearn to how to masterbate, how to handle my penis and to get it to react, stimulate and then release. I now have to continually rub and stimulate my tip, my base doesn't matter at all. I find that sometimes I have to be pretty intense with the rubbing of my tip. It takes me a while to release but I've always been able to go for a long extended period, so that wasn't new for me. I also find that having some type of fantasy thought in my brain aids my release, more so to take my mind off of how hard I am working to orgasm. Also, I dislike masterbating myself and have always had my partner do it for me. So I had to also teach my partner how to masterbate me. Others don't always know what we like or what feels good for us, so by telling and showing them makes a huge difference in our pleasure/success. When another hand is on your penis, you have many other feelings and senses going on; so try that too.
As for penetration, I have to work to find a place that can hit my tip and then once I find it, I stay there and continue to thrust until i orgasm. My partner loves how long I can go and I am always thinking of how to please them and not myself. Once I get my mindset off of "my issue", I can usually relax some and find my spot, so to speak; and have a great orgasm.
This isn't to say each time I have sex I orgasm, but considering that I can't do what I used to do sexually, this is pretty darn good. I hope this helps in some small way. Try to keep in mind our brain has a lot of power over our sexual happenings. And that is to not take anything away from physical matters, but when you try not to focus so much on your issue and focus elsewhere, somethings cool things can happen. Good luck buddy!

I have experienced a double problem. While in the hospital, one of my nurses did a poor job of inserting a catheter; I experienced some discomfort for the three or four days the catheter was in, however, I am unable to say that it was terribly painful. Unfortunately, the experience seemed to have desensitized my penis to a great extent. I was able to maintain an erection, but not of the quality that I had experienced before this incident.

Somewhat later I had laser surgery for BHP without knowing about retrograde ejaculation. I was very disappointed to discover this condition as my pleasure seem to have been severely diminished. Whether this was due to the retrograde ejaculation or not, I do not know. About eight weeks after laser surgery I strained quite heavily and noticed blood seeping from the end of my penis. Subsequently, my ability to urinate freely no longer existed, and I was back almost to the point that I was before the surgery. Due to tiredness and a lack of sexual desire, my urologist recommended Testosterone therapy for me. With the testosterone therapy my overall tiredness abated, my sex drive improved and I discovered that I was once again able to ejaculate in a normal manner. Unfortunately, the sensitivity not return as I would certainly have hoped it would. And because of that I continue to have a problem maintaining a proper erection after I have started intercourse. I have not tried any medication for erectile dysfunction but I'm wondering if that might help. I'm in great physical shape and my circulatory system is fine.

browninj,
I myself had an urethral stricture at age 38 for reasons unknown, but had the same procedure you had and many others until I finally had to have a second urethroplasty to remove the stricture so far things are holding.
What I have discovered is living with pain and taking a lot of medication for it and depression. Reducing the amount of depression medication I am starting to be able to have an erection and yes a few times been able to climax by masturbation. At age 51 I find myself without a partner, so it is important that you are fully open and your partner try to be understanding.
I know surgery is the major part of your problem, but if medication is involved I hope you may be able to reduce your dosage and get some relief.
Just my 2 cents in; I hope it may help.
dall29697

The lack of sensation shouldn't be the result of the procedure.
The retrograde ejaculation is however.
Many men will notice over time a lack of penile sensitivity and this is likely unrelated to your procedure.
As a urologist I see this not infrequently.
Start by getting your testosterone checked.
Dr Gary Bellman
www.socalurologyinstitute.com
www.uroantiaging.com

When I talked to him about my "problem" he had nothing to offer that the fact that it could be related to the vaser vaporization. COULD BE? I was OK before the procedure and after it, I have these 2 issues and he tells me "COULD BE"?

So right now, I am trying to book an appointment with a specialist at Johns Hopkins who is supposed to be the leading physician for the treatment of problems like mine. So I have some hope. If I strike out there, then I am out of options and have no hope of every functioning, even partially, like a MAN. But, at least I am still on the right side of the sod!

I agree. Retrograde ejaculation sucks. Once of the great pleasures a man has is the feeling associated with the expulsion of semen from our penis. With retrograde ejaculation, you reach a point, think you are experiencing orgasm, but are really not sure and the feeling of semen being forced out of you penis is totally missing. It is sort of an Oh, well, I guess that was good.

Doc:

Thak you for your response! Retrograde ejaculation is a problem for me. Much of the pleasure associated with sex comes from a productive orgasm. The sensation of semen being ejected through the penis is most pleasureable.

But, not bing able to have an orgasm, no matter what I try, is totally emasculating!

There are times when I seriously think about calling it a day and get out the trusty old revolver and end it all. When your quality of life becomes greatly diminshed, what is the point of living.

When we are young, life gives us many opportunities -education, choice of a career, choice of a lifetime partner, choice of children, etc., but at a certain point, life starts taking thinks from us, friends, our parents, eyesight needs glasses, our ears need helpers, peer pressure brings on retirement, and we become dependent on the family care system or nursing homes.

For me, I want none of that. If I cannot be active and do the things I enjoy most, what is the point in pressing on?

First of all, browninj, i think you need to relax and understand that being frustrated can never yield any results. First thing you need to do is that consult doctor. Due to loss of penis sensitivity, you are unable to get orgasm. Using vitamin A which give flexibility and improve penis skin and sensation can help you to get better stimulation or orgasm. Another thing try to touch your sex organs, which also triggers brain for stimulation. Take vitamin E which will increase moisture which will help to restore sensitivity.

pls notify me of the reply too. As my boyfriend has the similar problem, and if you satisfied with any answer please let me know.