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Herniated L3-4 disc, surgery, and sexual dysfunction
An_250228 posted:
Sorry if this is not the correct place to post this. My issue crosses over many topics.

I am a non smoking, smoke avoiding, 38 year old male. 5' 6" 185 pounds. I would say approximately 10 pounds overweight for the past 10 years or so. I have a sedentary desk job and admit that I am not as active as I should be. I do have a fairly decent diet.

In January of 2012, after experiencing some lower back pain and having an MRI done, I discovered that I had a herniated disc at L3-4. I started taking a combination of naproxen, gabapentin, and tramadol. The main focal points of the pain was the lower back, and left back hip (right behind the pocket). The pain would often radiate down my leg and across my groin. I dealt with it, waiting to see if if it would subside on it's own. I would visit a neurosurgeon every month or so, who would track my progress. She would offer microdiscectomy surgery, but never really push it. By mid August 2012 I could not take anymore and told my doctor that I wanted surgery.

Surgery occurred on September 14 2012. The surgery went well I guess and after a few weeks the incision healed up nicely. The back and leg pain still lingers, though it is a bit different now.
I am now over 4 months out and still in quite a bit of pain. My doctor told me that the pain was normal and that it could take a year to heal completely.

Now that my history has been described, here is the real issue of this post. Ever since my surgery I have had some sexual dysfunction. I used to love sex. Before surgery I would have had sex four or five times a week if my wife would comply. I could get an erection at the drop of a hat and it would be solid. My orgasms were usually pretty intense and the ejaculations had power behind them. After orgasm, the erection would linger for a bit and gradually diminish. However, now it is a different case. I really have to work at getting hard and it never really feels fully erect. This semi erection then causes me to ejaculate early, sometimes immediately after penetration. After orgasm, my erection immediately goes away, many times before I have even withdrawn. I get so frustrated. It's not like I was fantastic before as I never really had major longevity, But I cannot recall having an issues with full erections AND premature ejaculations before surgery. Maybe on occasion, but not every time.

One thing I have noticed is that it hurts. I have a tingling type pain in the tip of my penis. I don't know if that is "distracting" me and preventing full erections and causing the premature ejaculations, or if it is just all related to the nerve damage caused by the herniated disc and/or surgery? Or was there damage caused by the catheter they used during surgery? I cannot recall if I had this specific pain before surgery.

I have not gone into this much detail with my neurosurgeon. I guess I am a bit embarrassed by it. I have mentioned that I still have pain that radiates across my groin, but no more details were asked for or given.
Sex used to be my tension release and now it has become a tension source. My wife still offers sex about once a week (I don't know why, honestly) but I really no longer look forward to it because I know it's going to be a failure. I don't find myself thinking about sex as much. This depresses me greatly.

Any theories as to why I am having these issues? Nerve damage? Urinary tract damage? Just a fact of getting older and low testosterone? Poor circulation due to inactivity?

If I wanted to speak to a physician about this, who would I go to? My neurosurgeon or my general physician (who is much easier to get into, and is a guy, which might make it more comfortable) It is so embarrassing and I have always feared the need to discuss anything related to my penis as it is nothing to be proud of when flaccid.

Please help me.

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