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An_251678 posted:
I have nothing wrong with my sex drive, but my partner has ED. I love him dearly, but the differences in our libidos are creating problems between us and especially for me emotionally. He is only in the mood and able to perform anywhere from 1 to 4 times per month and the frequency seems to be getting less lately due to other medical problems he has, such as ulcers. He won't take the Cialis he was prescribed because the last time he took it, it gave him headaches. Obviously that doesn't facilitate a healthy sex drive either. He seems to generally feel emasculated by the very need to take pills at all, but I don't know what else to do. So, to that end, I'm wondering what I can do to lower my libido. I love this man, even if it means I don't get to have sex, and self-pleasuring gets to be rather depressing pretty quickly, so I really would like some help. I've tried very hard to be patient and understanding, but I think it would be easier if I just lessened my urges to be closer to his level. I'd like to avoid as many other side effects as possible, but I have considered getting on an SSRI, which, honestly at this point, is getting to be a necessity anyway due to the constant frustration and feelings of rejection and then feelings of guilt about feeling selfish. I really believe he wants to have sex as much as I do, but when it doesn't happen and we both know I'm disappointed, we both feel let down.
RobertPatrick responded:
Hey Dear, I read you query, and my suggestion is that you have to overcome with this problem, it is never a option that you lay down in front of problems. Talk with your Hubby about the problems and make a proper decision to overcome from it. I Post some factors those cause ED, go through them, you will definitel find some help from here:

Mental facets are responsible for around 10%-20% of all instances of erectile dysfunction, or ED. It is frequently still another reaction to an main physical cause. In some instances, the emotional ramifications of ED might possibly base from youth punishment or sexual trauma. Nonetheless, the most frequent emotional causes for ED contain:

Strain: Stress might be job-related, money-related, or the consequence of marital problems, among different factors.

Nervousness: After a person actions ED, he might become excessively concerned that the problem can happen again. This may trigger "performance nervousness," or an nervousness about sexual dissatisfaction, and continuously trigger ED.

Guilt: A person might possibly feeling responsible he isn't satisfying his partner.

Despair: A typical basis for ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Despair could cause ED also whenever a man is entirely relaxed in sexual situations. Medications used to cope with depression can also trigger ED.

Decreased self-esteem: This is because of past problems of ED (thus an atmosphere of inadequacy) or will be the consequence of other issues unrelated to sexual performance.

Indifference: This can come consequently old and a future insufficient fascination with intercourse is the consequence of medicines or stemming from problems in a couple's relationship.

All guys previously or still still another can knowledge ED ;.As long as the problem becomes persistent -- occurs over fifty % enough time -- or becomes a method to get distress for you individually or your partner in case you fret and consider seeking medical advice and Cure. For men whose erectile dysfunction is set off by emotional problems, treatment might be needed.
lookingforhelp2013 responded:
Have you had any success... I am kind of in the same boat. And I really don;t know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but I fear that our age differences and my high sex drive is making him push me away. I want to talk about it, but he never does and like you I just want to be with him so Im wondering the same thing about lowering my sex drive

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