Hi Jan, I read your email and it is sooo sad, I instantly felt the burden and pain, and have prayed.
If you believe in the true God, He will answer your prayers. The bible says the effectual, fervent prayers of a righteous man (or woman) availeth much!
Please do not take this the wrong way, I only am going to share this because I do not know where you are in your relationship with the Lord. I also only say this because this sounds like such a dire and difficult situation. The important thing here is that you have a real and ongoing relationship with God, thru His son who died so we can have eternal life. The moment we become believers, we are changed on the inside, and God is doing this thru the Holy Spirit. If you are in Him, believing, and living for Him, this means repenting when we mess up, than you will have an open access to Him. This is so vital, and I am not sharing this because you do not have this access, again, only because I do not know for sure.
I pray you do, because if you do, than God will hear the heartfelt cries from you. It sounds like you love them all very much. I encourage you to try to give it all to Him, and He will answer your prayers according to His will.
He is a miracle working God, and loves all of you. He will take care of you, your daughter, and these precious children.
Your post made me cry, I don't cry easily, but I felt an overwhelming urgency to pray for all of you right away. Maybe because I too am a mother and grandmother, or possibly God was telling me too. He does hear us, and cares.
Please let us know how this turns out. And know, I will be more than happy to keep praying.
Debbie
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him; and He will direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6