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    Merry Christmas *****12/24/2013*****
    dollbug posted:
    Merry Christmas FMily....ready or not Christmas is about to arrive. Boy, it arrived quickly this year or so it seemed. I thought I was ready and I guess I thought I had time to do all I needed to do.

    We picked up part of our groceries last night and I still have to do some errands today.

    We had a rough day last night. I did not sleep well at all. I am so very tired this morning as well. I know I will be in slow motion today and I need to be better. It is what it is though. I can only hope this passes.

    Welcome to the new members who have joined our support group. I am sure that each of you will soon find something that will help you cope better. This is a good group of people here who share with others what they have found that has helped them cope better. We are all different though and what helps one may or may not help another. You have to decide for yourself when you do your trial and error process with tools that you find that just might make a difference. You never know until you try. So hang in here and learn all you can about what others have found that has helped them.

    I hope you will check out the info here under *tips* and *resources* and be sure and review the *member toolbox*. Learn all you can about the wrath of the dragon, aka FM.

    We understand how you feel as we have been there done that.

    Here is hoping every one had a good night's rest and I hope today will be a good day for us all, with little to no pain.

    Remember to pace, pace and pace even more as you enjoy your Christmas Eve.



    mnjeepguy responded:
    Good morning Mimi, I was up at 6 this am to get ready for my appointment in the next town. I will keep you guys informed.

    Bette is right in yesterday's post. I sometimes let the pain make me crabby, this makes me more sore, a vicious cycle. I am usually calmer than everyone around me but I do have my moments.

    I will check in alter, I hope you all have a great day!

    dollbug replied to mnjeepguy's response:
    Good luck Cory. I hope you can get some answers.

    Pain does make us do things we normally would not do. You are so is indeed a vicious cycle.

    Take care.


    katmandulou responded:
    Merry Christmas Eve!

    The presents are wrapped, and I'm in baking mode today. Four fruitcakes over the past two days, two custard pies were done this morning, and two pumpkins will be next. DH is working from home, so we won't be too tale to my sister's house for our annual family gathering.

    There's fighting between two of my brothers, so one (and his family) won't be there. Actually, the tiff is between my niece and my nephew. Why the "grown ups" couldn't let them deal with their differences, I don't know. When one "grown up" got the police involved (over something my nephew said to my niece) I knew we'd be separated Christmas Eve. I only hope the court will see it for what it is - a helicopter parent who can't keep his big fat nose out of his kids' lives.

    Thanks for letting me get that off my chest. The overall pain from the stress is making me weary very early in the day. The shingles pain is almost gone. My doc gave me Lidocaine patches, and they're wonderful for that localized stabbing pain.

    My pumpkin pies are made with REAL pumpkin, not from a can, so I've got get back to the kitchen.

    I wish you the BEST Christmas, and the best days, you can possibly have!
    mnjeepguy responded:
    I am back from the rheumatologist. She is fantastic. She gave me an exam, focusing on my worst areas, the wrist and back. She asked a ton of questions, and ordered an updated x-ray of my back. I have had one every few years to track the damage in my spine. I was listed as having mild to moderate damage in the lumbar area in 2004. I want to stay ahead of the problem. I may be sent to a back care specialist. She also ordered an ultrasound to get a better look at my wrist, as the x-ray did not show any damage. After she reviews some of the records from the ear specialist and my regular doctor, I will likely be put on Plaquenil for my joint pain. This would be a 6 month trial with a follow up after that. She said: "we have a plan for you". This was so good to hear.

    Once home we wrapped presents and put them under the tree. It is one of the best feelings watching the boy's excitement as they looked under there. I remember those days as a boy.

    Lou, sorry about the family drama. There always seems to be some, somewhere. I am fortunate all 5 of us siblings have gotten along well no matter what. I know this is not always true for everyone, I am greatful. I hope it gets sorted out soon for you.

    I hope you all have a wonderful day. Try not to let the stress the holiday can bring take you down. Enjoy it as much as possible. If you have to drive, be safe, take your time.

    katmandulou replied to mnjeepguy's response:
    Thanks Cory. I'm glad you have a plan, and I hope that it works.

    My Dad (who we lost Oct 6) would be SO proud of how this brother is acting. [NOT> Mom has Alzheimer's and is in a nursing home. We're the grown-ups now, but at least one of us isn't acting like one.

    Dad would always say the same thing when we parted:
    Take it slow. And I'll try.
    bette_kaffitz responded:
    Lou, it happens in every family. The older generation moves on, and we are left to muddle through as best we can.

    When my M-I-L passed away, we all went to my S-I-L's and looked at each other. We all said it at the same time. "We're the older generation!" (and OMG). For the most part we are still a family, but there are times when some of us forget this. After all the things we've weathered together it's hard to lose the close core of rock solid family. Here I am the outsider, the S-I-L who became a member during VietNam while she was just dating her future husbandl But from the beginning I was treated like a true member of the Kaffitz Clan. It is sad to see one son and d-i-l voluntarily disconecting form that loving unit.

    After my mom's funeral and then the last of the aunts' we cousins gathered together and began with a group hug. This might be our last time together as a family unit. Our mothers were gone--the glue that bound us--and we are scattered around the country following jobs, families, and new lives. But there was that same realization--"We are the older generation." and the committment to hold this tenuous family together. This will be the summer to plan to have a reunion if at all possible. But for now, we'll keep in touch with handwritten christmass cards and as few of those "family newsletters" as possible. So far we still have the close relationships with our favoite cousins and a general bonding that we all cherish..A nd Cherish is what we do and feel about our family bond.--at least for now.

    I hope that you have this family tie as strong as ever and built on mutual love and interrelated memories. Speaking for myself, I spent summers visiting with my aunts and their families. Any cousin is welcome to spend the summer (or the year) with me and my family.--as would that cousin's child, spouse, or grandchild. The debts I can never repay my aunts are not exclusionary. They are inclusive. True love begats love.--through the generations.

    If your family bond is like this, give thanks. If it is not, it's time to rebuild,the trust, the relationships, the undeniable love.that was a permanent glue in the families of past generationsl Sister A works summers. Her children spend summer with sister B. If one of the families can help out with groceries, it does. If not, The gardens are full of good things to eat.You tend your sister's children with loving care, because she took care of YOU when you were being an obnoxious teenager 20 years ago.

    These are multigenerational family bonds. They will be just as strong in your childrens' lives. They just need a little gentle pruning and weeding form time to time.

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