Hi Dianne,
A simple solution is get another trainer. One bad experience shouldn't discourage you. Now you know more what you want, and what you don't, and so you can share that with the new trainer. It's your money, your time, and they work for you. Be clear with them what happened last time and a good trainer will listen to you and adapt (brunosbud is correct - your workouts need to match where you're at). You hired a trainer the first time for a good reason, and so you owe it to yourself to give it another shot. Interview them and make sure you guys click. They don't have to be your best friend, but it's nice if there's chemistry.
For toning your body, you do cardio for 30-40 minutes a day, 3-5 days a week, and 3 days of resistance exercise, 10-15 reps (select weights that you can lift 15 times — trial and error -- to fatigue at the beginning - that way you won' get injured, and 15 reps will work on tone) , 2-3 sets per exercise, 8-12 exercises per workout. You can do circuit training if you like where you move from one station to the next, doing 45 seconds of reps at each (a station is a machine, dumbbells, or even just your own body weight like pushups, dips, lunges, abs, etc.). The muscle groups are chest, back, shoulders, abs, arms, legs (hips and butt included). You can go here
http://exrx.net/ for exercises for every muscle group.
Here's an example of some "splits" (the way you split up your workout, by the day and/or the week)
Day 1: Chest (e.g., bench press with bar or dumbbell press, flyes, pushups), triceps (bench dips, kickbacks, )
Day 2: Back (bent over rows) biceps (curls, standing or seated), deadlifts
Day 3: Shoulders (lateral raises, front raises), legs (squats, lunges), abs on all days if you like
You can experiment with different splits. For instance, you could try the following
Day 1: Chest (bench press with bar or dumbbell press, flyes, pushups), Back (bent over rows, pulldowns),
Day 2: biceps (curls, standing or seated), triceps (bench dips, kickbacks)
Day 3: Shoulders (lateral raises, front raises), legs (squats, lunges)
There are dozens of exercises for both your lower and upper body. I've given you just a few. www.exrx.net has the pictures and videos of exercises organized by muscle group.
Here are some excellent WebMD resources for starting exercise:
http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/tc/fitness-overview (This article has superb fitness resources at the end about getting started)
http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/questions-to-ask-before-starting-a-fitness-program-topic-overviewThe government also does a great job with physical activity resources.
http://www.health.gov/paguidelines/adultguide/default.aspxhttp://www.cdc.gov/physicalactivity/everyone/guidelines/index.html But again, I suggest you try another trainer. And avoid trainers with nicknames like "killer"!
Feel free to post back if you have more questions. Rich