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    mrswhitecastle posted:
    I saw on the other board that you put DS in preschool. (Cute "Mine, mine, mine!" story, btw.)

    How are you doing with that?
    Emily (6 - allergic to tree nuts) Elizabeth (4)
    seeit2 responded:
    Oh, man. That's a loaded question. On the food front I'm actually pretty OK with it, because this school is not only completely peanut-free but they prepare all of the food in-house and don't let anyone bring a single crumb through the doors. So if parents want to have a birthday party for their kids they pay a small fee to the center and the center makes appropriate treats and has a little party. I am still nervous, of course, because he is little and out of my control - but it really is the safest place on the planet I could put him allergy-wise.

    On the mom front, I am a mess to be honest. I feel really guilty because he is so young and it's not like I need daycare, kwim? And while it's not my fault he does not speak I still feel like I failed him so I have to turn him over to someone else. It sucks. I picked him up yesterday and he was happy as a clam and had eaten really well and joined in with the group and played and seemed to really love the place, so that made me feel better..but I miss him. It's weird not having my little bubby attached to me.

    Mommy guilt is such a powerful thing. Before I had kids I thought it was all just a ploy for attention, but we really do carry the world sometimes, don't we? Oh, and I have absolutely NO idea what to do with myself when both kids are gone...can't remember the last time I actually experienced any real solitude. So that will take some getting used to.

    Are you sorry you asked? ;(
    Deb (40) DD (4) Funny, spirited, curious, has a severe milk allergy, DS (1) fearless and bottomless, peanut allergy
    mrswhitecastle replied to seeit2's response:
    Wow! That school sounds really, really good!

    It probably won't help, but I'll tell you anyway -- Don't feel guilty! You didn't fail him!

    Mommy guilt is the worst. I still go back and forth on whether I enjoy them both being in school or not. When Elizabeth is in school, I try to do things she doesn't like or wouldn't be with me anyway -- like the gym or grocery shopping. I tell myself that way I can enjoy more time with her when she is home, and do things she likes. It helps me feel less guilty.
    Emily (6 - allergic to tree nuts) Elizabeth (4)

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