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Lost your parents? How are you handling it?
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An_198064 posted:
I lost my last parent, in Oct. of 2009. It was just him and I since 3rd grade. If we were an ice cream, I guess you would call us Rocky Road. We cared about one another, but I think he found it hard to communicate with me. Still, we were it-we were the family. We were comfortable in it and I would cook holiday dinners at my home. Now he is gone and I have no family to spend it with. I have family out of state, but everyone has their own lives and no one seems to bring me into their circle. A friend has been good about it, but I feel it is because she feels sorry ande compassion for me. I don't know what I will do in the future. Rainy days for some reason bring out missing him.....He was quite a character...someone you don't forget...to me he seemed larger than life...Even though I made my own decision, I used to like to run something by him just to hear what his comments would be...feel so sad that I can't do that anymore. There is really no one like him that I know , so there is a big empty place where he was.
I would love to know how others get through it all...
2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Lost your parents? How are you handling it?I lost my last parent, in Oct. of 2009. It was just him and I since 3rd grade. If we were an ice cream, I guess you would call us Rocky Road. We cared about one another, but I think he found it hard to communicate with me. Still, we were it-we were the family. We were comfortable in it and I would cook holiday dinners at my home. Now he is gone and I have no family to spend it with. I have family out of state, but everyone has their own lives and no one seems to bring me into their circle. A friend has been good about it, but I feel it is because she feels sorry ande compassion for me. I don't know what I will do in the future. Rainy days for some reason bring out missing him.....He was quite a character...someone you don't forget...to me he seemed larger than life...Even though I made my own decision, I used to like to run something by him just to hear what his comments would be...feel so sad that I can't do that anymore. There is really no one like him that I know , so there is a big empty place where he was. <br /> I would love to know how others get through it all...
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Caprice_WebMD_Staff responded:
Hello and welcome to WebMD,

I'm sorry for your loss and for your need to be here and hope that others who have lost a parent or both parents will share their thoughts here.

I haven't lost my parents but have lost people very close to me. Sometimes it's losing that day-to-day interaction that feels the hardest, having someone there at the end of the day to talk about anything and everything, be it your day, a meal, something in the news, a tv show, or whatever. (((hugs)))

One of the hardest things to learn, I've found, is to accept others reaching out to help us, especially if we're used to being the ones who care for others.

Does it matter what the motive is regarding your friend? Wouldn't you be there for her in the same circumstances? Let her help you. I feel that letting a friend help us is a gift to that friend, not a burden or hindrance.

And we can build our own families and support systems, create new ones with friends. Find new ways to celebrate those holidays. And find ways to deal with those dark, rainy days.... exercise, calling a friend, watching a favorite feel-good movie, whatever works for you.

And talk here if it helps.
Report This| Share this:Lost your parents? How are you handling it?Hello and welcome to WebMD,<br /><br />I'm sorry for your loss and for your need to be here and hope that others who have lost a parent or both parents will share their thoughts here.<br /><br />I haven't lost my parents but have lost people very close to me. Sometimes it's losing that day-to-day interaction that feels the hardest, having someone there at the end of the day to talk about anything and everything, be it your day, a meal, something in the news, a tv show, or whatever. (((hugs)))<br /><br />One of the hardest things to learn, I've found, is to accept others reaching out to help us, especially if we're used to being the ones who care for others.<br /><br />Does it matter what the motive is regarding your friend? Wouldn't you be there for her in the same circumstances? Let her help you. I feel that letting a friend help us is a gift to that friend, not a burden or hindrance.<br /><br />And we can build our own families and support systems, create new ones with friends. Find new ways to celebrate those holidays. And find ways to deal with those dark, rainy days.... exercise, calling a friend, watching a favorite feel-good movie, whatever works for you.<br /><br />And talk here if it helps.
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Wiggka2008 responded:
I dont know how people get through death. I kind of just keep it all inside. I related to this because my dad was my best friend, and I his for so long and then one day hes gone. I lost my dad in Oct 2008 and it never gets easier. You just learn to live with it I guess.
Report This| Share this:Lost your parents? How are you handling it?I dont know how people get through death. I kind of just keep it all inside. I related to this because my dad was my best friend, and I his for so long and then one day hes gone. I lost my dad in Oct 2008 and it never gets easier. You just learn to live with it I guess.
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