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Grieving my Dad
I turned 61 last week and it was the first birthday without my Dad. He died 9/7/10 and I just can't come to grips with it. I would go to see him and Mom every 6-8 weeks for the past 5 years. We were very close. The last day he was alert was the night before I left. He told me I was a good daughter and he loved me. He fell the next morning and was never alert again.I promised him I would return in 2 weeks. I did, for his funeral. My last vision of him was curled up in a fetal position in a diaper.

I used to post on the MS support group but I couldn't keep up anymore. 6 days before my Dad died I had major surgery, so attending the funeral was very difficult.

Today is the 3rd day I haven't left the house. I have been just sitting and crying. My family is not the kind to discuss anything. So my grief is my own. Thank you for letting me vent. Arlene
Caprice_WebMD_Staff responded:
I'm glad you found us, Arlene, though I'm very sorry for your need to be here. (((hugs)))

Your loss is a fairly recent one so it's not surprising that you're still in the depths of grief, particularly with this birthday. Those first celebratory milestones without a lost loved one can be particularly difficult.

I hope you'll do some reading here and hope you'll keep talking too. You'll find you're not alone.

And start building a support team around yourself... if your family isn't receptive, lean on friends or find a grief support group in your area.

Be patient with yourself and with the process.

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