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    My Dad died 3 months ago and I can't deal
    vcamacho25 posted:
    I lost my dad November 24, 2012 to lung cancer that had spread to his liver and spine. My dad lived 24 days from the time they found the cancer. He went into the hospital for pneumonia and after a CT scan they found that he had cancer and that it had spread. I watched my dad suffer and decline quickly. His spine was starting to fracture due to the cancer and my once strong dad who was never sick was in soo much pain he could barely sit. It was the hardest thing ever for my family and I. I wanted to take the pain away but there was nothing I could do. Even though I spent almost every day with him in his last weeks I was too scared to say goodbye and talk to him about what was going on. I was there the day he passed, we brought him home just like he wanted. I spent the next few months keeping myself busy with life, but now it's finally hitting me and I feel like i'm going crazy. I cry every night and I feel so angry at the this normal?? I miss my dad every day...he was my best friend. I need help coping.
    mybluerose responded:
    I am so sorry for the loss of your Father. My Dad passed April 19, 2010. I am a very spiritual person and I believe that our Dads are still with us in spirit. We will see them again. The loss never leaves me. Some days are worse than others. Do you have a dog or cat? I have a poodle named CoCo and she is my loyal and loving companion. Animals are very healing. I saw a Grief counselor for 2 years. It helped me. May the Lord bless you and keep you.
    gatorfan30 responded:
    I know how you are feeling. My daddy died December 13, 2012. I keep myself busy with life too, but it does still hit me. Something will trigger me & bam! I'm a hot mess. It's like-oh daddy is dead! I wish i could escape reality but i can't. I'm married and have kids. At least you were able to be with him when he died. I know it must have awful watching him die. I'm so sorry. My daddy died of a heart attack. 1 minute he was there and the next he was gone. It's called sudden cardiac death. He had no heart problems at all! In fact he had gone to the doctor a couple of months before his death. My advice to you is to keep on truckin. That's all you can do. Know that he is in a better place and he will not be able to suffer again. I don't know if you are religous, but I am. I will pray & talk to him. It's the only thing i can do. Let go & let God. I hope this could somewhat help you. It's hard to take advice- i know.
    An_258453 responded:
    I know it was 2 years since this post, but I would like to ask, what is normal anyway? Why cant you be angry at the world or angry at the cat or angry that its raining or even angry at your dad? we all are angry in our greiving at some point. WHY? who knows why we feel the way we feel? we just do. We feel anger, sorrow, guilt, remorse, scared, jealous. even and always ask WHY?? It is all part of mourning. If we can't greive then how can we get through it? If we can't get passed the loss of our beloved, whoever they are, thenhow can we learn to cope with other tragedies that life may throw at us. Allow yourself the cry, yell and scream, to through things (as long as hou don't hurt anyone else in the process because they might be feeling the same way) and hurting someone else will never makke you feel any better, or get over the death any quicker.WE NEED TO EXPERIENCE SORROW so we can EXPERIENCE JOY, IF WE CAN CRY OUT THE SADNESS AND HATE IN OUR HEART THEN WE CAN LET BACK IN LOVE AND LAUGHTER. IT JUST TAKES TIME AND MOURNING TIMES ARE DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE. IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW LONG IT TAKES SO DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU TO "";GET OVER IT"".

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