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A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide:It's a short book aimed at those who've lost a loved one to suicide.
skypper posted:

This is a good resource for the friends and families of people who have taken their own lives that I'd like to share.

Here's also something I received that I wanted to share below, it really gave me a new perspective and opened my eyes to some things I didn't see I have been doing.

~SHARING IS CARING: I'm sharing this post from a Second Firsts email from CR, and I know that some of you will not yet be ready to hear this, but I feel it's important to offer hope and different perspective for when you do arrive at this stage.

What if I told you grief is addictive, even though it is something we did not ask for, or wanted in our life? What if I questioned your need to shed your identity of loss from your life? Would you question this email? Would you stop reading? Would you protect your grief even more?

Before you make any decision let me explain... When we have been hit by grief, and we have no choice but to go through this horrible world of pain and helplessness we learn new ways of surviving. We learn to live within the darkness. We learn to use our loss as our first name.

We learn that we had no choice but to feel hopeless. And we are told that there is nothing we could possibly ever do to feel better, as time is the only way out of this pain. So while we wait for time to heal us, we got comfortable within our grief.

We looked in the mirror and we only saw uncertainty married with a disadvantaged life. Somehow the image in the mirror is now used to living in this space with dimmed lighting, merely surviving and making the most of what little life has left behind, on its way out the door.

But guess what happens during the time of grieving? New habits emerge that were never there before. New beliefs are being cemented in your brain about who you now are. You create this story of a new life.

You write the story of a new you, using the proof that has surrounded you. Out of necessity grief moves in, but out of habit grief never moves out.

Don't make the mistake, and forget that life is more than just pain, more than just surviving. Don't become addicted to living your life hiding in the darkness under your identity of your loss.

Life can be more addictive than grief. But it has to be lived, experienced and felt once again. Will you turn on the lights in your life by choosing life over your grief? ~
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