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Girlfriend worried. Please help.
PeterJohnJoseph posted:
Hey everyone. My name is P.J. and I've been diagnosed with Hepatitis C for around 5 months now. My liver counts are relatively good right now and I'm still in the acute stage.
Telling partners about my Hepatitis C has been an uneasy task for me, but few have seemed to have a problem with it, if any. That is, until now. My current girlfriend went and saw her clinician who gave her some vast misinformation. He literally scared her to the point that she was hysterical. She didn't want to leave me, but she had no clue what to do.
The doctor told her that she probably just walk away from me, and that kissing me would even be a problem. He told her to not practice oral what so ever, and that sex was a problem. She said he made it sound like the worst thing in the world. I had my therapist give me some resources and I've explained the best I could that the risk is relatively low even in unprotected sexual encounters. (I'm not saying those are the kind we're practicing, I'm just using it as an example.)
Here are some things she was questioning that I would like to ease her mind on. Hearing the answers from someone else might help ease her mind greatly. She doesn't want to leave me because of this, but I am so afraid she's going to hold back with me and there is always going to be some worry in the back of her mind.. it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
-She wants to know what will happen if our lips were cracked due to the winter and we were to kiss.
-Kissing in general.
-What is the chance of contracting during sex, both protected and not.
-Anal..
-During her period.
-Other risks we should know about.
Any help in easing her mind would be amazing.. I don't want my girlfriend not wanting to kiss me or bite my lip because she's afraid she's going to get the disease.. I also don't want her worrying during sex. I do understand it is good to be careful and watch for things, but I don't want her being overly worried to the point it affects her performance with me.
Thanks, P.J.
Telling partners about my Hepatitis C has been an uneasy task for me, but few have seemed to have a problem with it, if any. That is, until now. My current girlfriend went and saw her clinician who gave her some vast misinformation. He literally scared her to the point that she was hysterical. She didn't want to leave me, but she had no clue what to do.
The doctor told her that she probably just walk away from me, and that kissing me would even be a problem. He told her to not practice oral what so ever, and that sex was a problem. She said he made it sound like the worst thing in the world. I had my therapist give me some resources and I've explained the best I could that the risk is relatively low even in unprotected sexual encounters. (I'm not saying those are the kind we're practicing, I'm just using it as an example.)
Here are some things she was questioning that I would like to ease her mind on. Hearing the answers from someone else might help ease her mind greatly. She doesn't want to leave me because of this, but I am so afraid she's going to hold back with me and there is always going to be some worry in the back of her mind.. it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
-She wants to know what will happen if our lips were cracked due to the winter and we were to kiss.
-Kissing in general.
-What is the chance of contracting during sex, both protected and not.
-Anal..
-During her period.
-Other risks we should know about.
Any help in easing her mind would be amazing.. I don't want my girlfriend not wanting to kiss me or bite my lip because she's afraid she's going to get the disease.. I also don't want her worrying during sex. I do understand it is good to be careful and watch for things, but I don't want her being overly worried to the point it affects her performance with me.
Thanks, P.J.
7 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.Hey everyone. My name is P.J. and I've been diagnosed with Hepatitis C for around 5 months now. My liver counts are relatively good right now and I'm still in the acute stage. <br><br>Telling partners about my Hepatitis C has been an uneasy task for me, but few have seemed to have a problem with it, if any. That is, until now. My current girlfriend went and saw her clinician who gave her some vast misinformation. He literally scared her to the point that she was hysterical. She didn't want to leave me, but she had no clue what to do. <br><br>The doctor told her that she probably just walk away from me, and that kissing me would even be a problem. He told her to not practice oral what so ever, and that sex was a problem. She said he made it sound like the worst thing in the world. I had my therapist give me some resources and I've explained the best I could that the risk is relatively low even in unprotected sexual encounters. (I'm not saying those are the kind we're practicing, I'm just using it as an example.) <br><br>Here are some things she was questioning that I would like to ease her mind on. Hearing the answers from someone else might help ease her mind greatly. She doesn't want to leave me because of this, but I am so afraid she's going to hold back with me and there is always going to be some worry in the back of her mind.. it makes me feel very uncomfortable. <br><br>-She wants to know what will happen if our lips were cracked due to the winter and we were to kiss. <br><br>-Kissing in general. <br><br>-What is the chance of contracting during sex, both protected and not. <br><br>-Anal.. <br><br>-During her period. <br><br>-Other risks we should know about. <br><br>Any help in easing her mind would be amazing.. I don't want my girlfriend not wanting to kiss me or bite my lip because she's afraid she's going to get the disease.. I also don't want her worrying during sex. I do understand it is good to be careful and watch for things, but I don't want her being overly worried to the point it affects her performance with me. <br><br>Thanks, P.J.
OLDTIFF47 responded:
BELIEVE ME I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SINCE YOU POSTED THIS....YOUR G/F AND HER MD WILL NEED TO DISCUSS THIS...I CAN TELL YOU MY HUSBAND OF 43 YEARS DOES NOT HAVE IT...NOR DO OUR ADULT DAUGHTERS AND WE SHARED RAZORS TILL 93 WHEN WE FOUND OUT I HAVE IT ....SEE I AM OLD AND A GRAMMY....AND SO VERY OLD FASHION
NOW TO THE POINT I READ IN YOUR POST....WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR YOU HCV.......ARE YOU SEEING AN MD....DO THEY WANT YOU TO TX ?
TIFF
NOW TO THE POINT I READ IN YOUR POST....WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR YOU HCV.......ARE YOU SEEING AN MD....DO THEY WANT YOU TO TX ?
TIFF
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.BELIEVE ME I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SINCE YOU POSTED THIS....YOUR G/F AND HER MD WILL NEED TO DISCUSS THIS...I CAN TELL YOU MY HUSBAND OF 43 YEARS DOES NOT HAVE IT...NOR DO OUR ADULT DAUGHTERS AND WE SHARED RAZORS TILL 93 WHEN WE FOUND OUT I HAVE IT ....SEE I AM OLD AND A GRAMMY....AND SO VERY OLD FASHION <br><br>NOW TO THE POINT I READ IN YOUR POST....WHAT ARE YOU DOING FOR YOU HCV.......ARE YOU SEEING AN MD....DO THEY WANT YOU TO TX ? <br><br>TIFF
catndoglover responded:
P.J
When I first found out , my parents took me to several doctors. Back in 2001. Many had stereotypes themselves. One Doctor told my parents to buy new food plates, utensils for me. Little to say that we never went back to that Doctor. It's been 9 years and I'm just like anyone else you walk by on the Street.
-Kissing is fine. (The only thing you can catch is the common cold)
- If your lips are so chapped that they are bloody. I'd start thinking you need a stronger chap stick. if by chance your lips are raw I'd stay away from kissing. After all there are other ways to show affection.
-Sex is fine there is no need to worry. You can use protection b/c it helps against unwanted pregnancies and other stds. I am married and we are only using protection b/c we are not ready for children yet.
-Anal is ok as long as you use protection and lube. (at least that is what one of my mds said)
- During her period is a big No no.
- Also lip biting, does she draw blood then don't. But if its a nibble I don't see whats wrong with that.
Talk to your doctor about the next step. Sometimes it will be frustrating. But ask about a liver biopsy and treatment. I stayed a way from oily foods. Ask a lot of questions, its their job so don't let them talk down or belittle you. Treatment can be pricey. Start looking for programs, insurance. When I did the treatment 9 yrs ago the injections cost $3,000 a month but that was when you had to mix it yourself. So the price might have dropped. Good luck and be strong
-Kissing is fine. (The only thing you can catch is the common cold)
- If your lips are so chapped that they are bloody. I'd start thinking you need a stronger chap stick. if by chance your lips are raw I'd stay away from kissing. After all there are other ways to show affection.
-Sex is fine there is no need to worry. You can use protection b/c it helps against unwanted pregnancies and other stds. I am married and we are only using protection b/c we are not ready for children yet.
-Anal is ok as long as you use protection and lube. (at least that is what one of my mds said)
- During her period is a big No no.
- Also lip biting, does she draw blood then don't. But if its a nibble I don't see whats wrong with that.
Talk to your doctor about the next step. Sometimes it will be frustrating. But ask about a liver biopsy and treatment. I stayed a way from oily foods. Ask a lot of questions, its their job so don't let them talk down or belittle you. Treatment can be pricey. Start looking for programs, insurance. When I did the treatment 9 yrs ago the injections cost $3,000 a month but that was when you had to mix it yourself. So the price might have dropped. Good luck and be strong
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.P.J
When I first found out , my parents took me to several doctors. Back in 2001. Many had stereotypes themselves. One Doctor told my parents to buy new food plates, utensils for me. Little to say that we never went back to that Doctor. It's been 9 years and I'm just like anyone else you walk by on the Street. <br><br>-Kissing is fine. (The only thing you can catch is the common cold) <br><br>- If your lips are so chapped that they are bloody. I'd start thinking you need a stronger chap stick.
if by chance your lips are raw I'd stay away from kissing. After all there are other ways to show affection. <br><br>-Sex is fine there is no need to worry. You can use protection b/c it helps against unwanted pregnancies and other stds. I am married and we are only using protection b/c we are not ready for children yet. <br><br>-Anal is ok as long as you use protection and lube. (at least that is what one of my mds said) <br><br>- During her period is a big No no. <br><br>- Also lip biting, does she draw blood then don't. But if its a nibble I don't see whats wrong with that. <br><br>Talk to your doctor about the next step. Sometimes it will be frustrating. But ask about a liver biopsy and treatment. I stayed a way from oily foods. Ask a lot of questions, its their job so don't let them talk down or belittle you. Treatment can be pricey. Start looking for programs, insurance. When I did the treatment 9 yrs ago the injections cost $3,000 a month but that was when you had to mix it yourself. So the price might have dropped.
Good luck
and be strong
ladybon responded:
I was married and had 2 children many years before I was diagnosed with Hep C. My brother-in-law was also married and had 2 girls neither of us passed anything to our spouses or children.. Hep C is not like HIV. It is a lot harder to give it to someone else.
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.I was married and had 2 children many years before I was diagnosed with Hep C. My brother-in-law was also married and had 2 girls neither of us passed anything to our spouses or children.. Hep C is not like HIV. It is a lot harder to give it to someone else.
An_192531 replied to ladybon's response:
My boy friend thinks I gave him hepatitis c, because he had a blood test and his md told him he thinks he has the virus
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.My boy friend thinks I gave him hepatitis c, because he had a blood test and his md told him he thinks he has the virus
ONE EITHER DOES OR DOES NOT HAVE HCV.........DO YOU HAVE IT? IF HE IS CONCERNED THEN HE SHOULD BE CHECKED...THAT IS ONLY HOW YOU ...KEEP ME POSTED..
TIFF
TIFF
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.ONE EITHER DOES OR DOES NOT HAVE HCV.........DO YOU HAVE IT? IF HE IS CONCERNED THEN HE SHOULD BE CHECKED...THAT IS ONLY HOW YOU ...KEEP ME POSTED..<br /><br />TIFF
jamesraymond responded:
first of all if you really care about her offer to take her to your specialist who really knows what he is talking about. my specialist said sex was nothing to worry about and you could wear a condom which would make it almost damm impossible to pass. do not share razors and toothbrushes are the main thing. you can kiss and have oral sex no problem as long as there arent blood to blood contact which hopefully there would be none in that situation. the last three girs i was with we never wore condoms and the i found out i had hep c and told them they got tested and have nothing. people are married for years and dont give this to their spouse. it is a very difficult thing to pass we werer just the very unlucky ones.
Report This| Share this:Girlfriend worried. Please help.first of all if you really care about her offer to take her to your specialist who really knows what he is talking about. my specialist said sex was nothing to worry about and you could wear a condom which would make it almost damm impossible to pass. do not share razors and toothbrushes are the main thing. you can kiss and have oral sex no problem as long as there arent blood to blood contact which hopefully there would be none in that situation. the last three girs i was with we never wore condoms and the i found out i had hep c and told them they got tested and have nothing. people are married for years and dont give this to their spouse. it is a very difficult thing to pass we werer just the very unlucky ones.
billm57 responded:
report the quack to the ama
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