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mylee924 posted:
Hi everyone. I'm new here and I'm pretty much ready to give up. My boyfriend and I have been actively trying to conceive for over 6 months now. I feel as though we have so much stacked against us that it will never happen. My boyfriend had stomach cancer when he was 4 and had to get chemo & radiation. They told his mom he may never be able to conceive. He doesn't have insurance & is also adrId to get tested. He's 34 now. I'm about to be 30 in about a month. Every month when I get my period it is so disappointing. I've had a vaginal ultrasound to make sure nothing was wrong and it came back normal. If anyone has any advice for us to help us conceive, it would be much appreciated. As I said, the thought of not being able to conceive is making me just want to give up. Thank you.
atti_editor responded:
Hi mylee924,

It can take healthy couples up to a year to conceive (it's recommended couples under 36 should give it a year of actively trying to conceive before they consult a fertility specialist, and those over 36 should try for 6 months), so I definitely wouldn't give up.

Have you been charting your cycle and timing when you try with your ovulation schedule? You might want to take a look around our Couple's Guide: Trying to Conceive area for more useful information. This pre-pregnancy to-do list might also be a good thing to keep in mind while trying to conceive.

Since your boyfriend has been told that he may not be able to conceive, fertility testing may be best for him and is usually done by a urologist. Here are some resources about male fertility testing . However, this may not be an option if he does not want to get tested or cannot for financial or insurance reasons.

Best wishes,
dipens responded:
I agree with Atti,
Myle, Have you charted your cycle. Do study on ovulation.
mariajohnson responded:
You need to know when you are getting ovulated. Then try to conceive in the ovulation period. Here is the calculator to check your ovulation period.

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