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Snappy Replies to Dumb TTC Comments
Byroney_WebMD_Staff posted:
How do you deal with the people who are "instant experts" on a topic you've been living with--Trying To Conceive?

Comment: "If you stop trying, it will happen."

Reply: "If that's true, I wonder how all of those fertility experts stay in business?"

Comment: "Are you doing it in the right position?"

Reply: "No, we've been using the anti-conception position. Thanks for clearing that up for us!"

I'm sure you've heard comments like these and dozens of other "helpful" remarks that must drive you crazy. How do you deal with them? Do you make snappy comebacks, try to educate, or just ignore them?

Share your favorite questions and responses so we're all ready for the next time it happens (because you know it will!)


Cross posted to TTC 12+ Months and Infertility Treatment.
Hope is a thing with feathers / That perches in the soul, / And sings the tune without words / And never stops at all. - Emily Dickinson
livelaughmoe responded:
Ohh boy, this one is tough! I actually just stopped talking about it with people all together. Its so personal.
cyberkat99 responded:
Well when TTC our first, DH and I had already been married for almost 10 years, so you can imagine why we decided not to tell anyone we were TTC. We got enough of the "accident" questions/comments after we started telling people, lol! Now that we have our daughter, people won't stop bugging us about when we will be trying for #2! Again, we haven't told anyone we just started trying. It's amazing all the "experts" that seem to have to add their two pennies worth about TTC or how nosey some people will get. Like the PP said it's so personal.
nursingbug replied to cyberkat99's response:
when I was ttc for my first one, I didn't talk about it much. People would talk about getting pg and would joke with me about how I needed to have a baby. If one gave me too much trouble, I would tell them flat- 'well, I have a condition that makes it very hard for me to conceive, and it may not be possible for me to have children'
Often they would be so flabbergasted or embarrassed that it would stop.
l8dsheena replied to nursingbug's response:
i know how you feel, now that my youngest is 21/2 seems like people ask "when are you going to have another one?" instead of "hows the family?'. its so annoying.
nursingbug replied to l8dsheena's response:
yeah, my dd is 3 and I am working on another one, but still not sure how quickly it may happen. May not happen, hard to tell.
People were on me again to have another one a year ago, I was working to lose weight so I could have a healthy pregnancy. Technically I probably shouldn't be ttc right now because of my weight. Was really aggrevating to me, because if I had gotten pg then it could have been very dangerous, for myself and the baby- I was too heavy.
People need to consider what they are saying before they speak.

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