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    No period, Engaged to be married
    huggybear17 posted:
    Long story short - I haven't had a period in about...4 years, maybe longer, and I'm now engaged to be married. We're both so excited to have children and want kids right away. I'm 23 years old, we're getting married in the spring, and I'm terrified I won't be able to get pregnant. I know I need to see a doctor, fear has been keeping me from doing so but through the support of my fiance, I know I will soon. Can anyone share similar experience and give me any hope? Is it possible to come through this and begin ovulating & have a healthy pregnancy? Please help beyond saying I need a doctor
    Byroney_WebMD_Staff responded:
    Huggybear--hello and welcome!

    I know you don't want to hear this, but it is very important for you to see your doctor. It is not normal at all to not have a period for four years. I hope you are able to get the support you need from your husband-to-be and see the doctor.

    This article on Period Problems explains more. Please work with a therapist if needed to deal with your fear and anxiety. There is hope, but it starts with seeing a doctor.

    Let us know how you're doing,

    Hope is a thing with feathers / That perches in the soul, / And sings the tune without words / And never stops at all. - Emily Dickinson
    huggybear101 responded:
    Hello thank you for your input. I am trying but I just haven't been able to go to the doctor yet. I tell myself I will go after the stress of the wedding is over with.

    Can you tell me what sorts of health problems this might be indicative of? I just want to know what I need to be prepared for. Are there treatment options? I have a great deal of anxiety every time I think about going to a doctor.
    Byroney_WebMD_Staff replied to huggybear101's response:
    Howdy again, Huggybear!

    Amenorrhea (lack of periods) has a lot of causes. This article mentions them and your doctor may discuss others. The treatment plan would depend upon the cause.

    Congratulations on your up-and-coming wedding!

    Hope is a thing with feathers / That perches in the soul, / And sings the tune without words / And never stops at all. - Emily Dickinson
    Yvette Smith, MD, MPH replied to huggybear101's response:
    Hopefully you've found time to read the article and realized that many of the causes of amenorrhea are treatable. We also want to protect your uterus for the future. Continuing to not have periods for years and years could cause problems down the road, problems that we can usually prevent without a lot of fuss.

    And sometimes stress (like an upcoming wedding) can bring on a period at just the wrong time. Find a way to get in to see your doctor. There's a good chance you'll be relieved to have a plan.

    Good luck and congrats on your engagement.
    maragayle responded:
    Hi huggybear17!

    Without being on the pill, I rarely (if ever) have a period either! I went through hell with a very incompetent doctor for a year. (Find one you can really trust!) I recently switched to a new doctor and was diagnosed with PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome), which I guess is one of the main causes of a lack of period.

    There's good news and bad with PCOS. My husband and I have been TTC since the end of June 2010 with no luck. I was diagnosed in June of 2011. Sometimes medication and weight loss are enough to bring on a period. I'm not severely overweight, but could stand to lose a few pounds. The problem was that I could starve myself and spend hours on end in the gym and be lucky just to maintain my current weight. However, after being put on Metformin, I've lost 16 pounds in about 3 months!

    On the baby front...I've been on birth control for the last 3 months while starting the metformin to try to induce natural periods. My husband had to go in for semen analysis, which came back normal. I'm going in next week for an HSG. That's where they insert dye into your uterus and fallopian tubes to check for blockages. I tried clomid (a medication that's supposed to induce ovulation) with the last doctor with no luck and may try it with this one.

    It's a lot harder to conceive with PCOS than without it, but it's not impossible. I'm still hoping we don't have too many troubles. However, it's been a long and emotional road. If you're really serious about starting a family right off, I would start seeking help now!

    The other ladies' suggestion to seek the advice of your OBGYN is right on. That's where I'd start. Honestly, sitting there and worrying about what disorder you may or may not have is a lot more emotionally scarring than hearing and accepting a diagnosis. I'm not going to lie, I bawled like a baby when I got home after being diagnosed. However, putting a name to my problem was comforting, too, because it meant that there was a course of action to take to hopefully make me a mommy someday.

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