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Should I give up?
samsam_1992 posted:
I have been ttcing for almost 5 years and can't get pregnant.I was wondering if it's normal to be extremely angry and jealous of friends who have had kids (lost those friendships).I have been to a Dr.I am afraid to go back to a dr because I am afraid of bad news?
blueeyebaby responded:
It is normal to feel jealous of friends and such who are preggers or have kids. I would suggest going back to your dr to see what they say. It is so hard to tell what the issue may be with out talking to a dr. The key is to keep an open mind when you go back and the more details about your ttc journey you have the better it is. They can look at blood work, your history and what you have been doing to give you the best plan. And it may take going to a RE to get more indepth diagnosis. Even if they find something wrong, it doesn't mean they can't fix it somehow, either with a drug treatment or with other methods of conceiving. The key to this journey is knowledge. Would you think "what if?" if you stopped trying and didn't talk to a dr to see what could have helped? It could be as simple as you don't ovulate (no O, no baby) and easy medication fix. You never know till you try. Best of luck to you!!
Yvette Smith, MD, MPH responded:
Jealous, angry, the list goes on and on. This is something we never expected. We all assume that as soon as we're ready, we'll be able to get pregnant. But how are you handling all of those feelings? Do you have someone to talk to about all of this? We need to be careful that while pursuiing our pregnancy we don't destroy our other relationships.If you do not have friends or family members that you can approach with these feeling, consider seeing a couselor There are counselors with special expertise in fertility issues.

I think knowledge really is power. Wouldn't it be better to know what your choices really are? Your provider should be able to walk you through this process. Don't let the fear stop you from finding out about your choices. Good luck!

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