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    TTC for 2 1/2 years with no luck
    joey1332 posted:
    hello i am new to this site and i was hoping for some support and help from this site. My husband and i have been married for almost 4 years and have been ttc for 2 1/2 yrs with no luck. I was on the depo shot for almost 3 years due to how bad my cramping was with my cycle and then i got off of it so that we could start our family after i got out of college. I have had my hormones check and he has been checked and earlier this month i had a hsg test done and everything looked normal. Yesterday i started my monthly cycle and was let down again that i am not pregnant. It is so hard to be let down every month i called the dr this morning to see if i could be put on clomid. I just dont know what else to do. My husband and i just want to start our family and everyone saying itll happen when you least expect it or itll happen when you stop trying is so hard to hear. How do you stop trying for something that you want so bad. Everyone around us is gettig pregnant and we want nothing more then to be happy for them but it is so hard to be happy when you want what they have. And then they dont want to tell you that they are pregnant because they dont want you to feel bad or hurt your feelings is hard also. I have tryed to think that if it doesnt happen that i will be ok but i really dont know if i will be ok it is so hard to want something that you think is so hard and out of reach.
    orin34 responded:
    I am sorry that you are having a hard time. My husband and I weren't using protection for 8 years before we actively started trying. We tried for a year with no results and then I lost my job.... three months later I got
    My son is now 2 and I have been waiting for my husband to be okay with trying again.... which apparently he was last week. I am now in my two week wait and hopeful. It seems when you want to be pregnant everyone around you starts to get pregnant instead. My SIL is pregnant with twins right now (she went in for IUI) and has been saying that it would be disrespectful of me to get pregnant at the same time she is.... in short: She wants me to not try for another couple YEARS. (I wanted to start trying a year ago). She spent a lot of time looking at her pregnant friends and she doesn't want to be usurped.
    A lot of people fall under that "unexplained infertility" category. And it is really funny.... with everything working out perfect it is still only a 20% chance you will get pregnant (20 % is so little when you want to get pregnant........ but so big when you DON'T want to get pregnant).
    Have you tried temping and altering your diet?
    joey1332 replied to orin34's response:
    Im glad for you that he is ready to start trying again,and i hate that wait i do that every month and it stinks!!! I think it is kinda rude of you SIL to basically say well you cant be pregnant cuz i am and it will take away my glory. Wow my SIL just found out they are pregnant 2 weeks ago and if she told me that i would be very upset. Yes i have done the BBT i did that before i did any of the other tests that i got done. I have changed my diet a litttle bit but not much the dr said loosing ten lbs would be ok so i did that and my husband and i quit smoking and then when if still didnt happen after about 2 months we started smoking again but i have kept the weigh off, I started my first round of clomid yesterday so i am really hoping that this month will be different then all the ones in the past my husband is starting to get very hurt that we dont have a baby yet and it is hard for me as well but we get threw it month to month
    orin34 replied to joey1332's response:
    Yeah, my sister in law isn't very tactful. I think I might just get to laugh in the end though because I am having some symptoms that are way out there. Usually my boobs are a little achy around my period.... but this pain I have right now is way beyond achy. My boobs are big to begin with but lately they seem to be "in the way(bigger?)" they are swollen feeling, heavy, and so sore I could cry. The nipples are super sensitive as well and darker. I don't remember my boobs ever being this way even when I was pregnant the last time. And I have had cramping from O all the way through to now. So I am crossing my fingers! The only day we BD'd was CD 8 and I ovulate earlier than the average cd 14. Time will tell... you could always obsesses over this site during your two week wait:
    I do have to warn you though, it can be addicting. And then you start questioning everything. My boobs are the only symptoms on there that I can honestly say has never happened before. The cramping while normal at O and right before period isn't normal to have straight through the two week wait (in my case more like the three week wait since I O early.

    Do you drink a lot of caffeine? I have read that it can be detrimental to trying to conceive. It's a good thing to cut out anyways since you have to limit it during pregnancy anyways. I thought bringing myself down to one "cup" of coffee was going to kill me (my cup is two and half times the size of a normal

    I hope you get your BFP!

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