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    Wife's male porn fetish. Abnormal?
    TrentTrevee posted:
    I have been wondering but afraid to ask anyone I know in person about this. I've been married for 6 years to my wife. We have a great sex life, she has always been very sexaul and eager to please me which is a lucky thing. But sometimes she will ask me of I think a guy on TV or in person from a distance is hot, she wants to know if I find him attractive.
    About 6 months ago I saw on our home computer that she had visited porn sites. That is fine, I don't mind but what is strange is that it was gay (men) porn. There were pages and downloads of men in male porn. I was like ??? Too shy to ask her. So I said nothing.
    I found more gay porn over this past weekend. I finally asked her, after some drinks we were in bed and I felt OK to ask. She sort of laughed but said yes she likes to see men together. It is a turn on for her??
    I don't understand how a woman could be turned on by men on men.
    Does anyone know what this means? Should I be concerned?
    Ramases responded:
    Your wife likes to see man to man porn. No big deal. Men will watch woman to woman porn, too! For her seeing two guys pleasuring each other is very erotic for her. She gets double the pleasure watching two or more guys together. Maybe she has a desire for a threesome with two guys and one could be you. Talk to her some more about it and see if this is anything that both of you would want to do, but you both must be comfortable with the situation and set ground rules before any play. Just talk to her and see if this is something to explore if you can help her with her fantasy! You maybe surprised with the outcome! Good luck!
    TrentTrevee replied to Ramases's response:
    Thanks for your response. Yes you are right, it is very erotic to her. She has great appreciation of the male body. She is very physical. I was mentioning on another board also that she seems to get off by seeing and hearing men experience intense pleasure. I am a very lucky husband!
    An_206175 replied to TrentTrevee's response:
    Abnormal..probally not. Healthy.. no.
    An_206176 replied to An_206175's response:
    Nothing unhealthy about it ...
    Rokk_man replied to TrentTrevee's response:
    I think Ramases hit it right on the head with his explanation. I don't think you should be concerned as she may just be harmlessly looking at gay porn just doubling her eye candy and may NOT be looking for anything more like a 3some.
    pogo99 responded:
    Trent, Given that I am bi...I would love if my wife was into gay porn. You are have what a lots of us would like to have. Ask her directly, if she has any fantasies with you and other open minded and respect her just the same way she should respect your thoughts. Good luck!!!
    TrentTrevee replied to pogo99's response:
    Ok, not that I have been upset or anything by her gay male porn thing or anything, actually more intersted as to why, so I mentioned it in bed last night. (after sex)
    She told me something I hadnt thought of...the men in gay porn are all very good looking, great bodies, and the focus is on the awesomeness of the male body etc. She said (and I agree) in hetero porn the men are not the focus, so the men are just so so, sometimes downright ugly, and the focus is on the woman and her parts. My wife doesnt care too much to see a super hot woman and woman parts up close. So the male gay porn gives her great pleasure to be able to see men she finds physically attractive nude.
    She has a good point... if you're into good looking men naked go look at gay porn, lol.
    pogo99 replied to TrentTrevee's response:
    No 3some for you, buddy!
    emediof responded:
    I think she just likes to see cocks being sucked by a man because it poses no threat to her as a woman & is kinda asking you what you think about sucking a man. perhaps she wants a threesome. so are u aroused by her arousal & dose hump u harder after she watches & will she anxiousl give u head.bring her to a gay bar & let her dance with gays,see if she rapes u on the way home.
    toontownboy responded:
    a lot of girls dream about men on men action, they may also what to see there man doing with another man so no you dont have any thing to worry about. And if she what you to do it with some guy dont be shy find out why and then you can think about doing it (yes, no, or maybe) many guys have done things with their buddys and will not tell anyone about it. so enjoy what ever you do

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