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    smalltale posted:
    Hi I'm 34 and have been living with a hypothyroid condition and peri menopause symptoms for a few years now. The hot flushes were really hard to deal with especially because people don't understand why I'm having them. I can't exactly say "sorry just menopause!" At my age people just look at you funny and say "no you're too young" and to that I say "tell that to my ovaries!" I was holding on to the hope of falling pregnant before my periods stopped but I was single when I was diagnosed and so it took a year before I was in a serious relationship and then once the relationship became serious I went off the pill but but then I came to the revelation he wasn't for me and we broke up. I had my ovaries egg tested and they told me I have next to nothing in the way of eggs and I was left devastated. I'm only 34, single, barren, and menopausal. My periods are just about finished but on the plus side I haven't had a flush got a long time.

    It was good to read about other women's anxiety and depression, I can attribute some of this to the menopause at least as I have been really down and dealing with anxiety and mild panic attacks. It doesn't help when all my friends are at the Age they are either pregnant or new mums. Like rubbing salt in the wound.

    Are there any other 30 something's going through this? I know it must be hard for you 40 yr olds to go through but try going through it in your early 30's It is good to hear everyone's story though and see how common it is.

    I'm wondering if there is anyone on here that has had early onset menopause but managed to slow it down or still get pregnant? A little positive encourage would be lovely
    Mary Jane Minkin, MD responded:
    Dear smalltale,
    Sorry to hear about your very early menopause; indeed, about 1% of women go through menopause by age 40. Have you seen a reproductive endocrinologist, or menopause specialist? If you haven't, I would really encourage you to do so. First of all, occasionally there are menopausal states which are reversible; they are unusual, to be sure, but they do exist. The other issue is that if indeed this is a non reversible state, presuming you are in otherwise good health, you would be an excellent candidate for donor eggs, for pregnancy; indeed the whole development of donor eggs was for women in exactly your circumstance; they were not developed for 50 year old women having babies, but for unfortunate young women like yourself who couldn't have kids. And even if you don't go for childbearing issues, you should see someone about being on hormonal therapy. There is very excellent data that very young women like yourself do much better health wise if they take hormonal therapy. And if you cannot find a reproductive endocrinologist or local menoapause specialist, go to the website, and look for a certified menopause practitioner who will be able to help you.
    Also, many of the participants in this community will be able to help you as well.
    Good luck,
    Mary Jane
    smalltale replied to Mary Jane Minkin, MD's response:
    HI Mary Jane,

    Thank you for your reply. I have been to see a reproductive endocrinologist and she talked to me about freezing eggs but unfortunately was not able to in my circumstances because I didn't have enough eggs for it to be viable. She did mention donor eggs so that is an option for me in the future when i am in a position to start a family.

    Thank you for your tips, I will definitely have a look at and see another specialist in the future.

    Thank you!

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