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    Am I losing my mind???
    kattwildz posted:
    Well it's been almost 2 years now since my last period, and thought I was cruising through just fine. I had an occasional hot flash, BUT now in the last few months, I am suddenly having hot flashes daily, nights sweats EVERYNIGHT waking up with my PJ's soaked!, eating out of control even though I'm not hungry I keep on eating, therefore gained 10 lbs, AND not only am I irritable, I have gone into a full blown rage. I hate people, I pick fights with my fiancé, I mentally want to stab people and run them off the road, cuz they don't how the hell to drive! Am I insane??? I am seriously losing it, I need HELP!! I made an apt with my gyno, and she is really good, BUT also has a long waiting list. WEll 6 months finally came around and the few days before my long awaited apt, I broke my foot(1st time ever), so now I have to wait another 6 months to get in to see her...I am so angry! What's worse is now that I have a broken foot, it has been 6 weeks and my recent followup apt with my regular doctor said the Xrays showed little if no improvement. So what does this mean?? Menopause have anything to do with this?? I am my wits end...HELP
    One other thing...MENTAL FOG...I can't remember crap! My memory has gone south, I am usually witty, but that has come to a halt as well, 1/2 the time I forget what I am saying, where I was going, or what I was going to do...Is this normal? I don't think so! This menopause has hit me like a BRICK WALL and slammed me like a freight train.
    feariedust7 responded:
    I am going through surgical menopause so everything hit me all at once and I have this anger issue too ... one minute I HATE the world ... my husband, my kids, the whole world! The next minute I cant stop crying! I can't remember ANYTHING! I will have 3 or 4 things to get at the store, walk in and cant remember a thing! I make sure to take one of my kids now so maybe I can get something I was needing. The only thing I haven't experienced is the hot flashes but mommy says don't worry, those will come! I am jealous as can be of my husband just knowing he is is tired of this and is gonna find someone he can deal with which he is getting sick of and I don't know what to do about any of it! BTW- I am only 35! uggg this crap suck and im told it can years! How am I sopose to do this for years? I did already suffer from anxiety and depression so I see a therapist and am on medication which no longer seems to touch it at all at times ... I know exactly how you feel is what im trying to say! Wish I had something to help you but wanted you to know that your not alone!
    feariedust7 responded:
    almost forgot ... for the night sweats and hot flashes I have been told Black Cohosh ... walmart sells a box that has for a day and night! Everyone I have talked to swears it works!!
    Mary Jane Minkin, MD replied to feariedust7's response:
    Dear feariedust7,
    Not to pry: but why did you have your ovaries out at age 35? -the reason I ask, is that if there is no contraindication to estrogen therapy, (and there are truly very few reasons that you cannot take estrogen) I would strongly encourage you to consider estrogen therapy for a few years. If you had your uterus removed as well, you do not have to take progestin therapy: and remember that in the WHI study, women who took estrogen only had no increased risk of breast cancer. And there is very good data to show that very young women, like yourself, have much better health outcomes being on estrogen. If your gynecologist isn't comfortable with estrogen, and you have no reasons not to take it, you can consult with a menopause specialist-you can go to the website, and find a menopause doctor near you-this is the website of the North American menopause Society.
    As far as black cohosh, it may well help with your hot flashes.
    But again, if you have no reason to stop you from using estrogen, do think about it.
    Good luck,
    Mary Jane
    kellbear replied to feariedust7's response:
    It sounds like feariedust17 and kattwildz are describing me! I am 36 years old and I had a full hystectomy when I was 28 for endometriosis. I wonder if it was really warrented. I find myself getting angry and having hissy fits over the tiniest little things but at the time they seem huge problems. Everything seems to overwhelm me. Just keeping up with laundry and dishes has become an overwhelming chore. Let alone homeschooling my 10 year old son and trying to keep a good marriage. I feel I am yelling at my family at least once a day. Especially my son because he is with me the most. Then I feel guilty and I feel even more depressed and then I eat more then feel more guilty. I talk myself into feeling better and just suck it up and be a big girl and do my resposibilities no matter what and then Yay, it all starts again tomorrow! Sometimes I am ready to just throw up my hands and give up. Stop trying. Go in my bedroom pull the covers over my head and stay there for a year. I am so sick of the mood rollercoaster. I am glad to know I am not alone and neither are you. I don't know if this helped but it helped me just to say it.
    Anon_6061 responded:
    feariedust7 and kellbear - I also had an (unwarranted) hysterectomy 8 years ago but I was much older than either of you. It has changed me in every way. The worst symptoms (even with HRT but evidently not enough) were suicidal depression, very poor sleep, scary memory loss, feeling overwhelmed by everything, and rapid aging (as well as the destruction of my figure even though I have not gained weight). After I got my estrogen levels up, the depression lifted and the other symptoms improved too. I still miss the happy, vibrant, confident, and youthful-looking person I was before my organs were needlessly removed.

    If there is not a good reason for estrogen to be withheld, I highly recommend it for quality of life and health reasons (heart, bones, sleep, mood, memory, cognition, vision, etc.).

    Did you know that the ovaries of a woman with all her parts produce hormones (especially androgens that can convert into estrogen) into her 80's? And that these hormones are essential to good health? Granted, HRT cannot adequately replace our bodies' own hormones but has been shown to be better than going without. I know taking estrogen when you have endo can feed those implants so some recommend that a progestin or progesterone also be taken.

    And know that if one HRT doesn't work well, there are many options out there. It can take a bit of trial and error to find the right one.

    I am sorry for your losses. My wish is that you both find something that makes you more like your old self.
    kellbear replied to Anon_6061's response:
    I had endometriosis since I was 13 years old and I think I went through all treatments that were offered until I was 28 years old. I traded one pain (physical) for another one (mental and emotional). I really think that the "pain" of menopause has been worse than the pain of endometriosis. I had 26 surgeries, lurpon, many different hormonal treatments and nothing helped until I had the hysterctomy. Then came the "joys" of menopause. If I would have known what I would have to go through, I would have never had the hysterectomy.

    I didn't know that about the ovaries did that especially for a woman till she was in her 80s. Why didn't the doctors ever tell us all of the side effects and the things we would go through before they would give us the Hysterectomy? At least give us all the facts so we could make a completely informed decision!
    Anon_6061 replied to kellbear's response:
    That says a lot that the mental and emotional pain of surgical menopause is worse than the chronic physical pain of endometriosis. It is hard though to convince women that the the trade-offs may not be worth it.

    You are right - We should have been given the medically documented facts. And the prevalence of hysterectomy gives women a false sense of "safety" about this surgery.

    I cannot fathom dealing with the effects of hysterectomy at such a young age and with a child(ren) to raise. And especially without HRT. Hoping for better days ahead for you.
    kellbear replied to Anon_6061's response:
    I finally went to my GYN and she put me on Premarin. She told me it would take up to 2 1/2 weeks to take affect but I'm already feeling better after only 3 days. Thank God!! Hopefully I will feel much better soon!

    Thank you so much for all the insight. I will keep you updated with my progress.
    Anon_6061 replied to kellbear's response:
    I am glad to hear you are taking estrogen. You are so young to go without and it should help you in many ways. Glad to hear it is already helping!

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