Mens Sexual Issues

If you go to the gym regularly and go the steam room enough times, it's bound to happen. And when it's time, why not let it happen -- just make sure you clean up after yourself!

I've only celebrated my maleness in this way a couple times when I was pumped, alone and enveloped in steam; however, I could understand a bunch of guys who did a lot of things together and trusted and respected each other relaxing and letting go in front of each other without it being a problem for them. Any other thoughts out there?

being an exhibitionist, I will easily get hard when others are in the steamroom. Many time this is an indication that you are cool with getting hard and rubbing one out. I've done it dozens of times and it's great.

I've been going to gyms since I was in college and yeah it happens. The only time I actually came was when I was alone in a hotel sauna in the men's room. I've never really participated in group sauna masterbation but have definatly gotten hard, shown off and watch other guys go at it and shoot. One time there were actually 5 guys jerking while me and another guy watched and yeah we were both rock hard. I'm married with children now and wouldn't want to get caught doing that at my age (48)

I typically visit the steam room after my morning workout, am usually the only person in there and often enjoy stroking myself. But I always cover up if anyone else happens to come in. It would be interesting to stroke at the same time as another guy, but how does something like that even get started?

There's the sticking point for those of us who have not moved past self-stimulation while alone. According to the current poll results 25% of the guys responding have moved on to a group release -- would any of you be able to offer some suggestions? Sounds like there are more of us who would like to try.

I've been trying to think of how I would most want another person to behave if he were the one starting the process -- what would make me the most comfortable and likely to join in. Earlier I had mentioned shared repect and trust as conditions that would be desirable. For someone you're just meeting those qualities would need to come across indirectly. For starters I'd expect us both to be fully uncovered, towels just for sitting on. Then being relaxed, cheerful but non-intrusive. Non-threatening. Natural and not crude. "How are you doing? This is a great place to unwind, isn't it?" Alternate stroking with not stroking, showing that your goal is to relax rather than stimulate or be stimulated. Some conversation now and then, but no real chatter, 'where are you from' etc small talk.

It would be different each time and with each guy. Any thoughts out there?

I think timing has a lot to do with it. Slower times are obviously better 2 or 3 guys who migrate to teh sauna when the gym is less crowded. I was at a hotel on business a couple of weeks ago and it had a gym/spa that was open to the public. There were only about 6 guys later in the evening and 4 of us were in the sauna. Casual talk 3 of us were mostly exposed. It was clear the 4th guy's cock was hard under his towel. We were all "adjusting" ourselves and slowly that changed from a brief touch to actual tugging. Once the somebody commented on the 4th guy's tent he uncovered and we all got more relaxed. It was very cool no touching each other or anything like that. The boldest guy started really working it but still kept talking like nothing was going on. It was surreal and we all ended up cumming... I doubt I would have stayed before I fourd this forum and realized how many guys like us there are out there looking to get off with each other.

Thanks, StPeteBob, that's really good advice. I need to realize, as you say, that there are a lot of us guys out there who would like to get off with each other. That if I just touch myself lightly, perhaps increasingly frequently and act relaxed and non-threatening, other guys might react in kind. And if they don't, there's always another time. But I need to be ready when the time presents itself to me. I don't want to be scared off when such a time comes around!

Only after reading postings on this site and taking part in discussions over the past month have I realized that the small part of me which isn't totally "straight" would like to be sitting around with some other guys who like to talk to each other while beating their meat. Celebrating our maleness together while relaxing and being apart from the world for a little while.

I have found myself increasingly at peace since I have made this realization -- I'm not looking for a one-on-one, but rather would enjoy being part of a small buddy group which respects and trusts each other and understand our needs.

Hi Guys -- Your posts about the steamroom take me back to the summer when my folks had moved to a new town just before the start of my sophomore year of high school. One late summer morning I went down to the school for the first day of tryouts for the varsity football team. We were all crowded into the locker room as parental consent forms were gathered, medical checks were made and equipment was issued. After we had changed into our practice uniforms coach called us together for a talk before we went out to the field for our drills. He said those returning would already know but for those of us who were new he wanted to tell us his philosophy about handling our still-growing bodies. He said that when we came back from practice, took off our gear and headed for the showers some of us could have hard-ons. And that some would get hard in the showers. That was perfectly normal and was to be respected. Then he went on to say that the best way to handle that situation was to soap it up, pump it out and just get on with your day.

Sure enough, when we came back from three hours of drill and a scrimmage and took off our uniforms, one of the guys popped a boner as soon as his jock came off. Then by the time we got into the gang shower room two more had sprung. One of the guys was the team captain, a real nice guy who was big all over and he seemed to take the lead for the three of them who quietly stroked themselves to resolution. Not a word was said about it.

As the weeks went by there was the usual wet-towel snapping, name-calling and teasing — but there was never any comment made about anybody's size, how fast they came or how far they shot. And there were at least two different guys after each practice who needed to beat themselves off. That matter was still private even though it was in plain view of all of us. My first time came around one day when undressing I notice that the ribbing of my jock had embossed itself on my somewhat enlarged dick — it continued growing on the way to the showers. So I just did what needed to be done while a couple of others did the same thing. Usually we would face a wall while doing it or aim at a drain although sometimes a couple of guys would look at each other and have a crooked smile. It felt a little funny cumming but I was glad to have it over and be more a part of the group. I would need to do the 'soap and pump' every now and then, usually on days when I hadn't had a chance to take care of myself before I left home in the morning. I don't think any of us ever planned to be shooting in the showers, it just happened.

And the pumping only took place after practice, never after a game when there were newspapermen in the locker room along with other teachers and well-wishers. And our team really did well each year I was there for a school our size. Many of us thought later on that our winning on the field went back to all that semen spilled on the shower room floor which had forged such a strong brotherhood of trust and interdependence among us.

So you guys in the steamroom may be late coming to the dance but there's still time. As we used to say on the team, "it never hurts to shoot some spurts" — it's natural, it's just part of life.

Wow, that was not my experience with high school sports. I took many showers in the open areas and noone that I was aware of ever pumped one out. It would have been cool for sure, but we were all too timid to get boned up and stroke in front of the team.

I like it ! This is really how it should be. It's something very natural and normal and if we are just doing our own thing why not.

The coaches, therefore the team always made us shoot into the drain. Those that face the wall, had sperm dripping down the wall. If the coach came in the shower. If one of the guys was facing the wall, everyone in the shower had to hit the locker room floor. Do around 25 - 50 push ups and then around that many sit ups. This was after a full practice. lol

Good reason not to be facing the wall but to just go for the drain and be seen (why not?). Wish my high school had been like that, it wasn't. Thing I remember about coach was his sitting in his office in just a t-shirt and then parading around the locker room with his man parts flapping around -- I guess that did get us all a little more used to how we're put together but just taking care of hard-ons when they happened would have been a lot nicer!

My football coaches during, two a day practices in hot August. While the team ran the final lap around the football field. The Coaches hit the gang showers first. Sometimes they had semi erections; I thought it would be cool to see them pump it. As old men, 20's to 30's year old. Sometimes after a away game, before the bus trip home they would shower with the team. My swim and tennis coaches always showered with the team.

gymrat , was your coach flapping a penis hung like a horse? Or parading a penis that looked like a light switch? If this was during your puberty they my have both look big. I know when I was a teenager my father's penis was as big as my forearm.