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An_205461 posted:
Hi everyone,

I'm 26 years old, was married about a year ago, and have generally never gone more than a week without ejaculating since I was probably about 12.

I'm also a new dad! While that is great news, it's also meant a significant decrease in sex. My wife and I still had sex up until about two weeks before the birth and it's now been about a month since I've ejaculated. I really don't want to masturbate because my wife can't really enjoy any sexual feeling right now since the child birth. I feel like I owe it to her not to just do my own thing until she's better.

So here's my question...
I've noticed the past couple of days some strange pain in my dick. It isn't really painful per se, maybe more of just a swollen sensation. It's not in my balls, but my dick. So I'm not sure if that could be related to not cumming anytime recently.

Anybody have any advice? I'm still several weeks away from being able to have sex again with my wife and who knows, I may just not make it but I'm trying to hang in there.

Thanks!
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An_205462 responded:
Hey:

I commend you for not masturbating, but that's a long time to go without an orgasm. Why don't you ask you wife to give you a hand-job? She must realize that you're way overdue for some relief. You should discuss this with her. If she's not in favour of you masturbating on your own, then she needs to give you a hand (literally!).

Best of luck!
 
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rkoontz replied to An_205462's response:
I read someplace recently that to keep your prostate healthy a male needs to ejaculate at least once per week. If that means a date with "mother thumb and her four daughters" (your hand) then I think you shouldn't feel guilty. I don't know that my first sentence is really a medical fact but you probably need some release. Go for it!
 
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longduckdong46 replied to rkoontz's response:
Agree with previous posters, either have your wife assist or do it yourself. NO need to be in any pain if you can prevent it.
 
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gymrat44 responded:
While the best ejaculations are those which are shared there are some which are just basic maintenance and should be viewed as such. Keeping your equipment in top-notch running order for the next time you and she can enjoy sex together I would think would be a wise and noble thing to do. And it would make you feel better, too -- a real win-win situation in my eyes. But I do understand that you may see things differently and I do respect that.
manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
 
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HairyD responded:
anon, Congra on being a DAD. I know with the new baby your wife is thinking of its needs. But I hope you are still given hugs and kissings. During this time your wife should be able to please you. I understand the vaginal is healing but you and your penis has other area to rub her.

Your wife may want to be pentrated before she returns to the doctor, its her body she should know when she wants you..
 
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Airforcemikey replied to HairyD's response:
Congrats on being a dad! and I understand what you are going through...Ive been there and done that. but there is no way I could last as long as you...my advice would be to talk with your wife about it..you never know she may be in the mood to give you a hand!
 
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Anon_475 responded:
I suggest you masturbate because it will take a whole load of guilt off of your wife's shoulders. I doubt she really wants to have sex at this time (hormones, exhaustion with baby, etc.). Go ahead and mastubate - you don't need her permission (she has to wait for 6 weeks after the birth anyway) and you'll get rid of your blue balls.


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