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Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!
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jaybig posted:
Hi everyone!

I've been going to the gym to work out since a year ago and have met a lot of people. Among those people, I met a guy 6 months ago which for me looked like an straight man, not just for his appearance but the way he acts, he doesn't have anything that a person could relate him to gay things.
He has become close to me, so I guessed I got a new friend. We called to each other to go to gym and work out, but never to go to another place, always to go to gym. However, 15 days ago we went to a different place for the 1st time, a kind of "Wallmart" here in my country to help him to choose a new desktop... after we got out of that place we went to eat something and while talking he confessed me that he was bisexual.
I didn't have a bad reaction because I don't have anything against people's sexual orientation. But from that day he has become closer to me as a friend since according to him just a few people knows that secret. He has even changed his clothes and underwear in front of me (which is not common in latinamerica's vestiers) and he's always flattering me, telling me things like: "you have a great body" or "your muscular legs are cool, mine looks like a chicken ones" (hahaha) and so on. Since he confessed me that he was bi, for me it wasn't weird to hear that... but I felt weird that a man told me those things.
However, I have to say that curiosity has awoken in me... I cannot left thinking about him naked, I cannot concentrate while working, and I want to have a kind of sexual affair with him, but just sex to try... however, I have doubts and don't know if it's normal for a straight man like me to feel and do that. I've always been sure of what I am... but this guy just... u know.... what should I do?
Hope your soon answer.
22 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Hi everyone!<br /><br />I've been going to the gym to work out since a year ago and have met a lot of people. Among those people, I met a guy 6 months ago which for me looked like an straight man, not just for his appearance but the way he acts, he doesn't have anything that a person could relate him to gay things.<br />He has become close to me, so I guessed I got a new friend. We called to each other to go to gym and work out, but never to go to another place, always to go to gym. However, 15 days ago we went to a different place for the 1st time, a kind of "Wallmart" here in my country to help him to choose a new desktop... after we got out of that place we went to eat something and while talking he confessed me that he was bisexual. <br />I didn't have a bad reaction because I don't have anything against people's sexual orientation. But from that day he has become closer to me as a friend since according to him just a few people knows that secret. He has even changed his clothes and underwear in front of me (which is not common in latinamerica's vestiers) and he's always flattering me, telling me things like: "you have a great body" or "your muscular legs are cool, mine looks like a chicken ones" (hahaha) and so on. Since he confessed me that he was bi, for me it wasn't weird to hear that... but I felt weird that a man told me those things.<br />However, I have to say that curiosity has awoken in me... I cannot left thinking about him naked, I cannot concentrate while working, and I want to have a kind of sexual affair with him, but just sex to try... however, I have doubts and don't know if it's normal for a straight man like me to feel and do that. I've always been sure of what I am... but this guy just... u know.... what should I do?<br />Hope your soon answer.
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HairyD responded:
Are you a virgin? As a staight male I have never wanted a male penis in my body. Nor have I had these thoughts but some thought my embrass hell that men have. You must choose if your straight; it my thought that once you have sex with a male you are not able to consider yourself straight. If you choose bi, you will never be able to be in a one person relationship. Best of luck.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Are you a virgin? As a staight male I have never wanted a male penis in my body. Nor have I had these thoughts but some thought my embrass hell that men have. You must choose if your straight; it my thought that once you have sex with a male you are not able to consider yourself straight. If you choose bi, you will never be able to be in a one person relationship. Best of luck.
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An_205463 replied to HairyD's response:
I agree with Hairy D; needs alot of thinking before action. What is your age and his age. Is he just try to flip you or a one time score with a staight? I would keep it just friends and no SEX>
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!I agree with Hairy D; needs alot of thinking before action. What is your age and his age. Is he just try to flip you or a one time score with a staight? I would keep it just friends and no SEX&gt;
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gq12 responded:
If you are young and single, then I would say continue to be friends with the guy and just see where your relationship goes. The reason I say young and single is because this is a time for experimenting and finding out who you are. You say you are straight but if you have feelings for this guy, maybe you are not as straight as you think. Don't be what you think you should be or what others say, but who you really are! Let this play out. You may experiment with him and find out it is not for you, or you may love it and want more. Don't be afraid to live your life!
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!If you are young and single, then I would say continue to be friends with the guy and just see where your relationship goes. The reason I say young and single is because this is a time for experimenting and finding out who you are. You say you are straight but if you have feelings for this guy, maybe you are not as straight as you think. Don't be what you think you should be or what others say, but who you really are! Let this play out. You may experiment with him and find out it is not for you, or you may love it and want more. Don't be afraid to live your life!
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gymrat44 replied to gq12's response:
I agree -- it can take a long time to discover who you really are and what you're made up of. Most of us have some amount of same-sex attraction if we are willing to be truly honest with ourselves. How we react to that, accept that and/or put that into action is up to each of us.

Take some time to get to know this friend better -- maybe there's something there, maybe there isn't. But if all of a sudden you are finding that you two are interacting well with each other and you are feeling new things it would be too bad to let something good go by just because of who you have thought you were up to this point.

Be careful, but be responsible to your true self, whoever that might be.
manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!I agree -- it can take a long time to discover who you really are and what you're made up of. Most of us have some amount of same-sex attraction if we are willing to be truly honest with ourselves. How we react to that, accept that and/or put that into action is up to each of us. <br /> <br />Take some time to get to know this friend better -- maybe there's something there, maybe there isn't. But if all of a sudden you are finding that you two are interacting well with each other and you are feeling new things it would be too bad to let something good go by just because of who you have thought you were up to this point.<br /> <br />Be careful, but be responsible to your true self, whoever that might be.
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jaybig replied to HairyD's response:
Hi HairyD!
I'm not a virgin, I have had sex with 5 girls, off course not at the same time... it would be great haha. On the other hand, I dont want another man to penetrate me. I just want to kiss him, touch him, just like that.
thanks
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Hi HairyD! <br />I'm not a virgin, I have had sex with 5 girls, off course not at the same time... it would be great haha. On the other hand, I dont want another man to penetrate me. I just want to kiss him, touch him, just like that.<br />thanks
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jaybig replied to gq12's response:
I was answering to HairyD that I'm not virgin, I'm 24 and he's 32. I feel comfortable having sex with girls but I want to experiment being a top in sex with this another guy, just want to know what it feels like.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!I was answering to HairyD that I'm not virgin, I'm 24 and he's 32. I feel comfortable having sex with girls but I want to experiment being a top in sex with this another guy, just want to know what it feels like.
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jaybig replied to gymrat44's response:
Thanks for your answer. I know what you mean with the view that it can take a long time to discover who we are... however, the doubts I'm feeling now that I'm 24, that I'm always have had sex with girls.. those doubts make me feel like I have to do it in order to get a relief and realize what I am.
I've chatted with him by webcam and was totally naked, like tempting me, but I liked it... it was a hot experience.
But so far, I dont know what to do.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Thanks for your answer. I know what you mean with the view that it can take a long time to discover who we are... however, the doubts I'm feeling now that I'm 24, that I'm always have had sex with girls.. those doubts make me feel like I have to do it in order to get a relief and realize what I am.<br />I've chatted with him by webcam and was totally naked, like tempting me, but I liked it... it was a hot experience.<br />But so far, I dont know what to do.
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gq12 replied to jaybig's response:
so did this guy ask you to get naked and did he play with himself for you? Give us some details...
It sounds luike you are attracted to him and obviously him to you. I would continue your friendship and if you get into a situation where you can be intimate, and you want it, then go for it.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!so did this guy ask you to get naked and did he play with himself for you? Give us some details...<br />It sounds luike you are attracted to him and obviously him to you. I would continue your friendship and if you get into a situation where you can be intimate, and you want it, then go for it.
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StPeteBob responded:
I think it's a normal part of all of us. I would go ahead and take the next step.... Always play safe but enjoy your feelings and ddesires.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!I think it's a normal part of all of us. I would go ahead and take the next step.... Always play safe but enjoy your feelings and ddesires.
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AlexG79 responded:
Hi,
I would say to you that if you decide to go ahead and try to be sexual with this dude I would first try to watch a porno and maybe jerk off in front of each other... that alone can be telling. maybe mutual jerk? but i wouldnt go passed that point yet... see how akward you feel the next day!!! goodluck.. and remember just because you experiment, does not mean you are gay. some str8 men do enjoy a manly blow job once in a while but wont take it further than that.. ciao
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Hi,<br />I would say to you that if you decide to go ahead and try to be sexual with this dude I would first try to watch a porno and maybe jerk off in front of each other... that alone can be telling. maybe mutual jerk? but i wouldnt go passed that point yet... see how akward you feel the next day!!! goodluck.. and remember just because you experiment, does not mean you are gay. some str8 men do enjoy a manly blow job once in a while but wont take it further than that.. ciao
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GT07302 replied to AlexG79's response:
Hi,
New to the group and enjoy all of the insight offered. I too am in similar situations as the rest of you. I would say as long as your friendship can withstand the situation if it does not work out then I would go for it. I had a very like thing happen to me a couple of years ago with a co worker...He decided it was not for him but it actually made us closer on the friend side. Strange thing is when we are alone together even now we touch and express caring for each other in a non sexual way and it is also very satisfying.
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Hi,<br />New to the group and enjoy all of the insight offered. I too am in similar situations as the rest of you. I would say as long as your friendship can withstand the situation if it does not work out then I would go for it. I had a very like thing happen to me a couple of years ago with a co worker...He decided it was not for him but it actually made us closer on the friend side. Strange thing is when we are alone together even now we touch and express caring for each other in a non sexual way and it is also very satisfying.
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gymrat44 replied to GT07302's response:
Yeah, I think that we lose a lot when we choose not to reach out to another guy. There can be a lot gained and none of us has so many good, close friends that we can afford to pass up the opportunity to strengthen a friendship or gain another one.

For a lot of us there's only a small number of guys who we'll sit around and beat our meat with -- and that can be a fulfilling shared experience in itself and doesn't necessarily have to go any further sexually. But as you say your caring for each other in other ways can increase because of the shared intimacy -- and who wouldn't want that? Too many of us guys are loners without enough good male friends!
manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!Yeah, I think that we lose a lot when we choose not to reach out to another guy. There can be a lot gained and none of us has so many good, close friends that we can afford to pass up the opportunity to strengthen a friendship or gain another one.<br /> <br />For a lot of us there's only a small number of guys who we'll sit around and beat our meat with -- and that can be a fulfilling shared experience in itself and doesn't necessarily have to go any further sexually. But as you say your caring for each other in other ways can increase because of the shared intimacy -- and who wouldn't want that? Too many of us guys are loners without enough good male friends!
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AlexG79 replied to gymrat44's response:
I saw an episode of Real Sex on HBO that was similar to this topic. In California there is a man that holds sessions that is open to any man. what they do is they focus on being sexually comfortable.. all these men are in like a camp site and the first time they have to get naked they get blind folded and the other men take off the article of clothing you tell them to until you are completely naked, and these men are touching you. not necessarily sexual, but more ritaulistic. the point is that it makes you feel more comfortable with ur sexuality and especially around other men. its supposed to tach you to climax to your fullest potential. watching it i almost climaxed... def something I would try. but it's just a circle of men, naked, touching, yelling, dancing... sounds harmless...
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!I saw an episode of Real Sex on HBO that was similar to this topic. In California there is a man that holds sessions that is open to any man. what they do is they focus on being sexually comfortable.. all these men are in like a camp site and the first time they have to get naked they get blind folded and the other men take off the article of clothing you tell them to until you are completely naked, and these men are touching you. not necessarily sexual, but more ritaulistic. the point is that it makes you feel more comfortable with ur sexuality and especially around other men. its supposed to tach you to climax to your fullest potential. watching it i almost climaxed... def something I would try. but it's just a circle of men, naked, touching, yelling, dancing... sounds harmless...
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gq12 replied to AlexG79's response:
there is a nude mens yoga class not too far from me that I would love to try. I have not done much yoga, but the nude aspect of it sounds great. It is not a sexual class, but spiritual and sensual. Anyone ever try this or something similar?
Report This| Share this:Don't know if I (a man) should try with another man!there is a nude mens yoga class not too far from me that I would love to try. I have not done much yoga, but the nude aspect of it sounds great. It is not a sexual class, but spiritual and sensual. Anyone ever try this or something similar?
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