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    Sgtheart posted:
    I am 65-not in a relationship-not gay-health 8 out of 10. the thing is i think about sex day and night. I feel that I have to masterbate once or twice a day-yes I use porn. Am I a disguesting pig, or some what normal, or is there a norm? should I be afraid or do I need help from a pro. No I dont mean a hooker.
    LotusHeart responded:
    There is no such thing as a measure of what is normal. Shame is usually a very powerful driver in turning sexuality into a compulsion. So the first thing to do is to stop calling yourself names like "disgusting pig". There is nothing wrong with masturbation to porn. It's only an issue if you're escaping from something else that you should be paying attention to, or if it makes you do things that are outside of acceptable societal boundaries. (like streaking naked, things like that.)

    If you don't like the porn part of it, then perhaps just try to do some self pleasuring sessions that are about making love to yourself. But I suspect the porn is just because you're lonely and want a mate, I can't see what's not normal about that.

    Now as to the frequency of masturbation, you are the only one who can be a judge on what works for you and keeps you healthy. There are emotional drivers and physical drivers behind wanting to masturbate. The two emotional drivers for men are the desire for intimacy and desire for power. The desire for companionship will usually create sexual desire, and so will the desire for physical strength and power in general. You can look at your own life and see what's missing that you might be trying to replace with masturbation.

    Physically, your prostate will also dictate a certain rhythm. The build up of prostate fluid will drive an increase in wanting to masturbate. Of course, the more you masturbate, the more fluid your prostate produces. Nipple stimulation in particular will make your prostate produce fluid like crazy.

    If you don't feel comfortable with how frequently you masturbate, then the best thing is to back off slowly to allow your prostate to adjust. Start with trying to keep it to just once a day. And as far as thinking about sex all day, that's what produces a lot of prostate fluid, and there, you want to think about what might be missing in your life that is driving you to escape into sexual thought all the time. It happens to me a lot too, and when it gets to be too much, I usually have to take a step back and do some reflection in my life to figure out what else is going on that is driving me to escape.

    Most urologists will tell you that once a day is fine, but twice a day is probably a bit much for a 65 year old as far as prostate health is concerned. But the fact that you can do it twice a day is pretty cool, means your prostate is still kicking ass.

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