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I'm 23 years old and very frustrated - having problems "getting it up"
Anon_122796 posted:
About a week ago I lost my virginity at 23 years old to my girlfriend. I'm very attracted to her, but even when we were having sex I was having LOTS of trouble keeping it up the whole time. I will be seeing her again soon and I do not want this to happen again. It was EXTREMELY frustrating. I spent about 4 nights at her house and it was the same story every night - I couldn't get hard or aroused enough.

Here's some more info: like 2 weeks before I lost my virginity I was masturbating once a day (normal for me) and I had no problems getting it up. Ever since I lost my virginity with my gf I'm now having trouble getting turned on and getting it up, I do not know what's wrong with me. Even if I look at porn I don't get turned on like I used to. If anyone could please help me, I would really appreciate it.
spammyluke responded:

You are just nervous or have other things on your mind dyring the act. Perhaps you regret having sex with your girlfriend and are building up anxiety. I was 19 when I first had sex and wish to this day that I had waited until I was married. I am a Christian and understand the reason why God wants us to wait until we are married.

Also, I would stop watching the porn because porn gives men and women an unrealistic expectation of what sex if suppose to be like. Seeing a man with a 9 inch penis (or what we are led to believe is a 9 inch penis) have sex with a tight vagina may make some men feel like we do not have what it takes to satisfy a woman.

Penis size does not matter. Porn and the ways of the world would lead us to believe that we are inadequate if our phallus is less than 6 inches (avg penis erect size is 5-7 inches). Also, the way that women respond in porn is not normal. Sex is as much mental as it is physical. Also, people underestimate and forget the spiritual side of sex. The spiritual side is the most important aspect.

I hope that this helps and God bless. I love you.

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