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Friend w/ Benefit
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Bud41 posted:
Many times I have read post that describe having friends with benefits; I'm curious to how your relationship evolved. Did it just happen or was it a relationship that evolved. If I were looking for a friend of this nature, what would I be looking for? and How would I go about starting the conversation leading up to a friend with benefits. Just curios as to how & under what circumstances your relationship happened.
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zoom1969 responded:
A lot of times it is just a feeling you get and it's not really even something you have to talk about! Most of my male friends I have never been attracted to sexually but just a few I have been attracted to through the years. The 2 or 3 buds w/ benefits that I have had it just kind of happened!. First of all you have to make sure that it is something that you want to explore/ do. I always make sure that it is someone very trustworthy/ discreet. Make sure it doesn't hurt your friendship and make things awkward. We are just regular guys that hang out having a few beers, catching some games, and discussing life. We just have an extra added benefit. My first experience with a buddy was when I was around 20 years old. I had been friends with this guy for several years but there was just this unique chemistry between us. At the time I had never thought about doing anything with a guy before! One day on his birthday we were hanging out and he asked me to give him a blow job!! I thought he was just being funny and I laughed. He was embarrassed but serious. I'm not really sure why but I said ok and it just kind of happend and it was amazing! We are still friends all of these years later. We haven't messed around in a long time but we did for several years and it was always fun!
 
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gq12 replied to zoom1969's response:
I have been curious for years but never seriously thought about haveing a bud w/ benefits. Then one day I went to a nude beach and spotted a guy that caught my eye who was also alone. We started talking and quickly started flirting then touching! I was amazed at how comfortable I felt. We talked via text msgs and met up a 2nd time where it went further (oral). I am supposed to meet him again in the next few days. This is something I never planned for, it just happened.
 
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rudy223 replied to gq12's response:
Lucky you Go for it and have the time of your life. There is nothing better than being with another man le us know how it goes
 
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Torcal responded:
It's easier when you are gay and willing to admit it. I'm unqualified to testify about women.

I've had, and still have, a few buddies who like to get together to just talk about mutual interests and go places but always with the purpose of ending up the day (or even starting it) by having sex. Or we just make a date, walk into each other's places, take off our clothes and spend our time nude until we get so horny we have to get each other off.

I was at a gay event and this guy handed me his card and asked me to call. I did and we started having sex the first time we met. We became close and he eventually got the idea that we were an item. He's about twenty-five years older than I. He wouldn't take no for an answer and considered me "his boy". I cut off the relationship for about a year. I do like the guy and enjoy his company. Later we started talking again and decided that we'd just be sex buddies and that's how it's been since.

I met several other guys who live near me on a gay web site. We got together on a sex-only basis and I've maintained a relationship with one of them for the last five years.

If you're out in public and notice some single guy staring at you that's an invitation to talk. Introduce yourself and just let it happen. And you can do the staring until some other guy stops by to talk to you.

Always take precautions and don't exchange bodily fluids or bacteria with someone you barely know.


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