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Problems Penetrating Vagina, Never Masturbated Before
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johnnypublik posted:
Hello, I am 25 years old and a newly wed. I am having problems sexually with my wife. Here's some background- I'm in the 10 percentile of just about everything. What I mean is that I'm one of the 10% of males in the world who have never masturbated and I am one of the 10% of males who have a downward erection. By having a downward erection I am not afforded the luxuries of doing some positions that other people are but I get a normal erection with no pain and my penis enlarges. It just does not point up or straight. It stays pointed down like it would if it was flaccid but it enlarges and gets longer. I never knew really realized that I was in the minority with that issue until recently. Still the same, I like my downward erection. It doesn't give me any problems other than some positions being out of the question because it might hurt. The masturbation issue is a strange one. I have never once masturbated in my entire life. Its not a moral or a religion thing either. I believe masturbation a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do and I'm aware that the other 90-99% of the world do it but I have absolutely no desire to masturbate. Zero desire. I have to tried to touch myself down there and put my penis in my hand but I simply cannot do it. It provides me with no pleasure. I just do not aroused by this notion and it seems pointless to even think a hand could replace a vagina. My wife is BEAUTIFUL. The most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Thats why I married her. I have erections at least 20 times a day if not more just thinking about her but intercourse is a problem and I need to fix this ASAP. I want to be inside of my woman as well as have kids someday. I will achieve an erection almost instantly when she touches me but I have a problem getting it in because it seems as if she is too tight. She says she isn't. I will be fully hard but when trying to insert my penis it will not penetrate. Just bend at the doorway. I tried lube but still no penetration. I acheived penetration once and that was when she took her own hand and gently forced my penis into her vagina. It popped out though soon after when the walls of her vagina contracted onto my penis. Since then she has not tried to force it in. There is no problem with her forcing it in but its kind of hard because I am very ticklish in the pelvic area. I have been known to laugh when people touch me in that area and during sex and its hard to stop. Because that area is so sensitive... when I get on top of her and she takes hold of my penis my whole body gets rigid and stiff and I find it difficult to move. She finds it difficult to be initmate when I get so rigid like that. Its like having a log or statue over you. It happens whenever I'm on top of her and she takes hold of my penis or sometimes when she attempts oral sex. I enjoy oral sex but it does feel different and I usually only enjoy it standing because of the position my penis is in. I have only ejaculated once since being married for a month. That was during night. My wife stroked my penis repeatedly as I held onto the headboard of the bed and tried to maintain all of my focus on kissing her. and not the tickles in my pelvic region. Since then I have not had any luck. Takes a long time for me to cum. I take her hand and get it to massage or stroke my penis everyday now. It feels good to start off but when she goes fast it just feels different so sometimes I stop her. We bought a dildo and it seems to go in fine. Why am I having trouble with penetration? Am I not hard enough? It looks extremely hard and I feel hard and sexually charged but when I get up to bat she tells me to push or push harder and it just bends and after two fail attempts I usually lose my erection and have to try again or just give up. I have tried Korean Red Ginseng and Yohimbe. Do I need Viarga or something? Can you provide some help to me? No I am not gay or Catholic and yes I am very attracted to my wife. No I was never sexually abused.
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gq12 responded:
is your penis bending at the tip or base or somewhere in between? If it is at the base and your erection is pointing downward, maybe you should see a urologist about that?

As for sex, try laying on your back and hve her sit on you and control where your penis goes. It can't fall out if she is sitting on you and you can lay back and relax while she controls the pumping and penetration.
 
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ontbear replied to gq12's response:
If you have not, get an exam from your doctor. There may the answer you are looking for.
 
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joyce0207 replied to ontbear's response:
its an informative(albeit cutsey) video on this. ALso be sure take a look at Dr. Werner's website for additional info
 
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stevesmw responded:
First thing, go see a urologist.

Hard is a relative term, since the only experience you have is with your own penis. Through age 45 and maybe older, I could use my penis for a tent stake. With that hard an erection and lube and a willing partner, penetration is assured even with curvature.

At age 62, I started developing an upward curvature of my penis, in which in some sense was an upgrade. This eventually led to a lesser erection and my wife was able to squeeze out my penis with her vagina. I have also lost sensitivity in my penis head and have a more difficult time orgasming. The curvature was diagnosed as Peyronies disease (even though I have never injured my penis).
http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/tc/peyronies-disease-topic-overview

As far as ED meds are concerned. I have never taken Viagra, levitra provides little benefit and Cialis provides more improvement. Regarding herbs; I just started taking the Ginseng. Yohimbe dosage is important. If I take 1000mg, I get a better erection than ED meds, but I get slightly jittery for 4-5 hours. If I take 500mg there is no effect one way or another.
My favorite herb is horny goat weed (source naturals 1000 mg) 3 tablets in the morning and 3 at night works well and I wish I had started taking it 10 years ago. No side effects for me. My erection is no where near where it was but definitely better.

Masturbation is not bad, not masturbating is not bad. Sex is a biological imperative and barring religious training the desire to masturbate is very natural. If you were in the bottom 10%, I was in the top 10%. Not being interested in masturbation can point to underlying health issues; hormones etc. The erection of a penis is based on blood flow, so in a sense it is a muscle and use it or lose it applies.

Good luck and get checked out.


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