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    What a Great Experience this group has become. The kinship in Brotherhood. There is such a diverse range of topics. This is the place we can be as open as we want to be... Everyone is welcome to join, but it is not a place to Cruise. It's for sharing sexual questions and comments among men.
    I have gay urges....
    mlcptwn posted:
    Okay, I am a middle aged man who is very attracted to women. However, the last 2-3 yrs I find myself fantasizing about having sex with another man. I am not interested in his looks, nor am I interested in face to face contact. I am only interested in whats between his legs. I have this uncontrollable urge to feel another man inside me, and to give oral. The problem is, where to meet someone who would be discreet and safe.. I have a very large circle of friends who would not understand my desires, and I cannot risk this getting out. Any ideas? Suggestions?
    Anon_130552 responded:
    Keep it as a fantasize. But if your have a strong uncontollable urge. Then admit to yourself; your a homosexual. If friends can not accept you has a homosexual they are not friends.
    There is no way to have discreet and safe sex. Did you not tell your friends if you got in someone pants? Always use a Condoms with wife or anyone. If your penis is inside someone. It the same has having sex with thousands of males or females. Only one had to be unsafe.
    gq12 replied to Anon_130552's response:
    wel unfortunatley his email came back as undeliverable (has been de-activated)... I don't know what he's been up to, but hopefully he'll stop in on his own and let us know.

    I still fantacize about his male modelling sessions. I did do some what the Massage Therapist called modelling for him while he was teaching a massage class, and in one I had to be completely nude standing in front of them (while fully dressed). It was an amazing experience and a huge turn on. I had to work hard at not getting hard!
    gq12 replied to gq12's response:
    sorry, wrong thread...
    jrocker85 responded:
    It's a small world and you don't know how small until you do something like that, I remember finding my neighbor out on a date when I was younger, the neighbor was married. Another time was seeing a couple in the parking lot at work neither worked there and I recognized the man, he was a friend of my fathers, it was not his wife.
    I just found this post because I'm really busy at work working through lunch and using the printer so I'm up and down to the printer and my desk when this guy comes walking in who I don't work with and finds his way to an office but while he's walking I can't help but notice his really tight butt and I get the urge to want to do him and the feeling comes over hard and I got hard and the tought of this I just wanted to take him in the board room and do him. I thought it was great to have a distraction but at the same time thinking where did that come from? Am I gay or was that just suggestive mind game? I am married but under sexed at the time being so anything looks good to me.
    gymrat44 replied to jrocker85's response:
    Hey, Jrocker85, thanks for telling us about what happened to you -- what came over you while you were busy at work and a guy came along who just set you on fire. That doesn't happen very often (to me, at least) but when it does, it's a real surprise!

    At one point in my life it was a scary surprise since I hadn't yet fully sorted out my sexuality; now it's just something nice to enjoy even if it doesn't lead anywhere. For unexplained reasons for some of us straight guys there will be a right alignment of a number of different things which will suddenly make us want to 'take a guy and do him' as you said. For me it was a garage mechanic who used to tune up my car in a small town years ago. I never could figure out what it was about him that ignited desired in me, still don't. In fact, I had forgotten all about him until I came across your post where you could have been describing my feelings exactly back then at that time.

    Our sexuality is a complex and wonderful thing. It's good to understand as much about it as we can but there does come a point where we just have to let go and appreciate its power and wonder while parts of it remain a sweet mystery. So next time a male stranger comes along who turns our head, let's just be sure to enjoy the pleasure of the moment and not worry about where the feelings come from.
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
    An_247002 replied to gymrat44's response:
    It's great to hear these stories here because in real life, how many would ever open up to share this type of feeling for fear of being ridiculed or labeled.
    Stefcd responded:
    I love having another man shove his penis deep inside my anus,as well as giving another man a blow job.I don`t cruise as much as I did years ago but on occasion I just need to feel another mans penis up my rectum or in my mouth,it`s during these times I go to a nearby truckstop and within an hour I will have a penis in my mouth and eventually my anus.This is risky and protection is encouraged.Also I live near an adult sex store and it`s right off the interstate where truckers frequent. In the store they have a video arcade where you can watch all sorts of porn and the glory holes are awesome...just saying.... lol
    Stefcd replied to jrocker85's response:
    You aren't gay,I promise you that. I`m married to a wonderful lady that allows me to crossdress and is well aware of my bi-sexual desires. She understands that I am attracted to both men and women and I feel that two men having sex together is an awesome experience,in fact some women would love to watch two men get down. I have the luxury to be able to live out my lifestyles both in dressing as a woman and fulfilling my bi-sexual desires.

    Thanks for sharing your story,I enjoyed it.
    Stefcd replied to Anon_130552's response:
    Good advice Anon;
    One of the hardest things I`ve ever done was admitting that I was a homosexual. I maintain the label of bi-sexual simply because I can not ignore the fact that women are such a turn on to me as well as men. But safe sex is critical whether you are gay,straight or bi-sexual. Years ago bareback with another man was really cool but AIDS and HIV as well as other diseases were not around. That`s a poor way to phrase it but it`s the truth. I also drew a little more attention because I love to crossdress and even a lot of the women I`ve been involved with wanted to watch me have sex with another man and I`m always happy to fulfill their wishes.I`m now starting to use the tongue condom when I give a guy oral sex even though he has a condom on his penis. The plus side for me is no more cum on my nylons or lingerie.

    Being open about your sexuality should be acceptable to family and friends in these times we live in today,as Anon said if your friends can`t handle the fact that you are homosexual then they aren't much as a friend,family is somewhat easier for most but eventually they all come around and accept you for who you are. I mean I live as a transvestite and everyone knows I`m bi-sexual and I don`t have to run and get dressed when someone knocks at the door or hide the person I`m having a relationship with,this keeps me happy so condoms are my best friend and I hope you will use them as well. So explore and be happy and safe.

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