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    What a Great Experience this group has become. The kinship in Brotherhood. There is such a diverse range of topics. This is the place we can be as open as we want to be... Everyone is welcome to join, but it is not a place to Cruise. It's for sharing sexual questions and comments among men.
    Fondling ourselves in public
    seattleron posted:
    I sure must have a lot of questions that this place seems good for asking.

    something I am confused about. When talking with a guy in a non sexual situation and the guy starts stroking his hand over his abs and maybe touching his pecs while we are talking. What is that all about?

    That is something I might do pre jerking myself off to get aroused. Do you agree? Well, why would a guy do this in public in front of someone?

    It is a weird feeling. My natural thing is to mirror the position someone I am talking with like maybe they have their elbow on the table with their head leaning on their fist. When a guy is stoking his abs I find myself reaching my hand up under my "T shirt" and doing the same. Or maybe this is happening in the gym after a shower and we both naked and I find myself matching what he is doing. It is when he moves his hand up to his pecs and I can see that his nips are hard. We are not talking anything sexual but when I fell my dick swelling in front of him I knock it off.

    Do guys do this without thought..automatically ? Do they do it to tease the other guy with no intent of it going anyplace? I think I have only seen this when two guys are in front of each other talking never when they are by themselves.
    jrocker85 responded:
    Hey there Seattle, I think it is an unconscious response to say they are comfortable talking to you.I think a lot a people are like this and unless trained to pay attention to someone fully, their hands take over while in the middle of a conversation. I catch myself doing this I think it is unintentional. My wife has asked me that and I think that is when I noticed it, She actually said why was I rubbing my nips while we were talking was I looking for something?
    I think if you were talking to a guy who was teasing you he may do a little more that rub his abs but it seemed to get a reaction from you nonetheless.
    seattleron replied to jrocker85's response:
    I agree it caught my attention. The thing is I know for myself I get a bit of a sexual hit when I touch myself the same. Having said that I assume he is also? I have this habit I mentioned of mirroring someone I am talking with but I catch myself thinking this would look weird with two guys fondling themselves?

    now I would not mind if my wife caught me teasing my pecs if she took over and where that might go.
    gymrat44 replied to seattleron's response:
    Hi, SeattleRon, and welcome to our community.

    Your idea of mirroring someone else's behavior is interesting and it can be something that a lot of us do sometimes without realizing it. Even if we're carefully constructing our speech we may not be fully mindful of all of our body actions.

    I do know that sometimes when I have been having a conversation with someone who has a partcular accent (either regional or foreign) I may start talking with some elements of that accent myself without realizing it. Since language is really a form of behavior it's easy to see how hand movement could also unconsciously mimic another person's.

    Apparently you've encountered this thing of another guy rubbing his abs and pecs both with and without clothes, probably in a gym-like situation. And if you're both nude, the other guy is rubbing his pec and his nip gets hard it's only reasonable that your dick would begin to thicken. For even if your conversation isn't sexual that type of body rubbing can well be. But what's the issue with labelling -- you're relaxing and when relaxing our sexual sides are more liable to come out.

    While relaxing in the steam room after a hard workout I've been known to massage various muscle groups to help them relax. And sometimes I'll also pull on my dick a time or two. And the guy across from me may do the same. And we both may wind up having a pleasant bit of relaxation and release -- no contact, but no need to hide. We're really very much the same and sometimes that type of relaxation just comes along as a welcome part of the day. Acknowledging that through shared experience can be nice.

    All I'm suggesting, SeattleRon, is that you relax and enjoy your sexuality -- don't be afraid of it if it comes along unexpectedly. Get to know it better. On the other hand, don't let yourself feel directed or pressured by someone else's actions.
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
    hairyd responded:
    I have a friend ,whom is a school administrator. He has an acquired habit / pattern of behavior that occurs automatically. He fondles and adjustes his penis every few minutres for 10 to 15 seconds. this may be while talking to a group or a one on one conversation. If he his naked then he is stoking the shaft. I guess I am mirroring but I will find myself doing the same actions. Now that his son, a professional; is grown he has acquired the same mode of behavior that has become completely involuntary. It like they keep checking if their junk is still there. If you got to have a habit choose one that feels good with no harm to your body.
    Sex is the prime motivating factor in any male's life. Like oxygen, it's only important if you're not getting any.
    seattleron replied to hairyd's response:

    I assume he does not do this when ladies are present?

    I have found myself fondling my torso at times when I have my shirt off talking with a guy and then suddenly stopping when I realize what I am doing. Sure there is a self pleasuring thing going on but it is not like I am in front of my bathroom mirror intentionally arousing myself. But watching another guy doing this in front of me is arousal triggering.
    hairyd replied to seattleron's response:
    You assume wrong. Clothes on in front of ladys. That why I said it a habit. He can be in front of a few hundred mixed male and female. He is gone to grap his dick. Both of their penis are longer than a average male. Both wearjock briefs. But they should not have to continue adjust the penis for comfort. This has been 40 plus years for the dad..
    Sex is the prime motivating factor in any male's life. Like oxygen, it's only important if you're not getting any.
    gymrat44 replied to hairyd's response:
    And then there's the whole bit about baseball players grabbing their crotch -- adjusting their cup, I'm told. That's another whole topic. Maybe they just need reassurance in moments of pressure that their guy stuff is still there?
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44
    hairyd replied to gymrat44's response:
    They could adjust their cup in the private of the dug out. They enjoyed the thousand of eyes watching them play with it! You never see a football players adjusting their cups. After they get up from a tackle or pile up.
    Sex is the prime motivating factor in any male's life. Like oxygen, it's only important if you're not getting any.
    gymrat44 replied to hairyd's response:
    Well, I suppose that the baseball players do enjoy knowing that thousands of people are watching them adjust their cup and/or shaking their junk up before their at-bat. And you're right, HairyD, footballers don't do that and I wonder if it has something to do with the differences between the sports.

    Football uses more of the entire body and is played in groups. A baseball player when at bat is the only offense player up and is against 9 defense players (a more realistic comparison with real life, don't you think?) And do you suppose that if a player shakes up his cup just before swinging his bat he is somehow then transferring power from his mightly penis to his mighty bat, something somewhat similar in shape? That's such a whacky idea there might be something to it. What do you think, guys?
    manhood should be enjoyed, not proven -- gymrat44

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