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    What a Great Experience this group has become. The kinship in Brotherhood. There is such a diverse range of topics. This is the place we can be as open as we want to be... Everyone is welcome to join, but it is not a place to Cruise. It's for sharing sexual questions and comments among men.
    What was your age when you lost your Virginity?
    hairyd posted:
    Sex is a skill that's learned through experience, so no virgin really knows what they're doing sexually. A virgin's technique will be lacking, as all he has to go on is fantasies and maybe porn both different from real sex. Some guys consciously improve after their first time and are generally interested in being one of the world's best lovers, and other dudes just keep trucking along without ever acquiring any skills in the bedroom, until they get married and get to disappoint their wife for the rest of the wife's lives. Are you the same boy with the lack of sexual skill as when you were a virgin
    Sex is the prime motivating factor in any male's life. Like oxygen, it's only important if you're not getting any.
    longduckdong46 responded:
    Certainly not the same " boy " Not only with the experienced gained through the years but also lasting much longer before orgasm.
    When I was 18 or so and became active just the high expectation of having sex and getting excited about it made me orgasm wayyy too soon. It was more lust than anything else.
    doogood responded:
    Ok - to answer the question in the title of the post - 17. To go along with the discussion - I agree the first time - even the first times (plural) we're just going through some motions that we've heard or read about that aren't very refined, accurate or satisfying. My first time was not a spectacular moment. I was so nervous and had no idea if what I was doing was good or bad. I also didn'[t have a lot of feedback from my girlfriend so I had no idea if my movements and techniques were enjoyable, painful or didn't make a difference one way or another. As Long states in his post I'm most certainly not the 'boy' I was almost 30 years ago. I've grown through interaction with different partners as well as learning what I enjoy, over the years. Back to HairyD's statement - I have definately made an effort to gain skills and improve for my and my partners benefit.
    jrocker85 replied to doogood's response:
    19 no confidence at all but once I was in it was wonderful hot and wet....... of couse came too soon...
    21finish responded:
    Lost my virginity at age 24 to my wife. It was certainly exciting and my mind just couldn't quite believe what "we" were doing. Having sexual intercourse is still a special event that is almost mystical in its beauty and out-of-body feeling. Thankfully neither of are the same naive people we were back then and we have learned to be a bit more enthusiastic. I always hope that we get more experimental but I think after some 50 years of intercourse we have stagnated in our skill development.
    mcat45 responded:
    13 to magnificent visiting neighbor's friend 38; sorry, believe in"double standard"; I cherish my first time with older woman, yet if a 38 year old guy tried to touch my 13 year old daughter I WOULD KILL HIM-and go to prison. Why? men and women are different but I digress!

    13; in an "unofficial poll" trying to cut thru the LIES I feel the average age for guys is around 16; for girls, getting younger (the honest ones) 20 years ago was usually 15 to 18 when I "got personal enough with girls who were friends" to discuss it; now? 13 or 14 seems to be "norm".

    what do you men think?
    An_250427 replied to 21finish's response:
    I applaud admire and cherish what you and wife share! Wish I had that kind of love thru my life! You are lucky man and she is lucky lady! here's to 50 more years for you together!
    sandalman responded:
    I didnt know anything about lube... I only had a non lubed condom, and I had such a hard time getting in. I'm not a small guy, and I think she probably thought I was trying to act like a battering ram. I didnt even get it all in... maybe half.
    It would be nice to know just how many guys knew what they were doing when they first went at it.

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