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    What a Great Experience this group has become. The kinship in Brotherhood. There is such a diverse range of topics. This is the place we can be as open as we want to be... Everyone is welcome to join, but it is not a place to Cruise. It's for sharing sexual questions and comments among men.
    Serious Medical Ano-Rectal Issue
    An_251288 posted:
    To begin, I feel like stating I have no health insurance, and have sought medical treatment without it and after the 1st few thousand dollars I gave up. Now I'm desperate and don't know what to do, so allow me to explain.

    I think I've injured my anus and possibly by having too much anal sex over the years. I'm only 23. I've been doin it since I was 14 and was typically a bottom until I started showing the first signs of my current symptoms around 19. The shame and guilt kept me from telling anyone or seeking medical attention for years. The first doctor I was referred to gave me a look of shock and simultaneous condemnation when I told her my story. She did no examination but did schedule an expensive colonoscopy. I was able to keep face until I got to my car after that appointment and then broke down crying. I switched to another doctor in the same practice to follow through with the colonoscopy. Ultimately it was inconclusive, excepting a hemroid diagnosis. He prescribed me a hydrocortisone enema as a two week treatment. It was expensive and didn't work. I still suffer from the following symptoms, part of my rectum seems to protrude from my anus during bowl movements and sex (the doctors entertained this but didnt believe it, didnt examine it, and didnt treat it), The sphincter itself seems loose even though at this time I haven't bottomed in years (no issues with incontinence), I have hemroids (the least of my worries) but there's also like a growth or something non-hemroidy tacked on the outside that I guess the doctor's just ignored when they did the colonoscopy.

    In my day-to-day life I've learned to live with it, but when it comes to sex I suffer, because I can't bottom and even if I'm not bottoming it's the constant anxiety of "OMG, what if he sees my ass?"... That's not the sex life I want. My family doesn't get this, doctors dont get it, and im deathly afraid to tell any gay friends because well... go figure.
    I feel broken and unfixable very often and it's a point of despair in my life. Thankfully I'm not clinically depressed. Really I just want to be your normal 23 year old and have sex with guys and not worry about any a**hole issues whatsoever, I want a normal butthole. I dont know if I'm actually broken because I made a few mistakes as a teenager. I've been fisted a few times in the distant past and think that's related to the symptoms of course. I was in a very intense meth-fueled relationship a matter of years ago and the intense sex seemed to add to the damage of course.
    So basically I think I have a rectal prolapse along with anal symptoms that I have no reference for even with all the years of googling and WebMDing imaginable; not to mention the issue with the loose sphincter. I'm fishing for some hope anonymously on the internet because I don't know what to do where to go or who to talk to. I've also been looking at toys online and there are these things called ass tunnels that i found on and they seem like theyd be a temporary fix with the sphincter and prolapse issue but I still need the damn hemroids gone. And ultimately I want to be fixed cuz 30 years from now untreated itll only be worse and i dont wanna be a boring old celibate gay man =\ so enough confusion, can anyone help?

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