Dear Ashley,
My heart goes out to you for having lost so much over these undiagnosed symptoms. My husband recently left me after two years of marriage and cited my disease as the reason for his resentment (though I'd had the diagnosis and been treated for it for some time--with no real crises during the time we were together). The abandonment was a grievous shock. I got over it quickly, though. Do we really want that kind of husband in our lives? Despite the financial hardships, we are better off without them.
Which brings me to the financial hardship: I was two years without insurance several years ago, and I did find charity care. Start by contacting your county health and human services department, the county should have a free clinic. There you can get basic medical care and ask for a referral to a neurologist who does pro bono work, they might know of other organizations that can help.
Another option is private charity clinics. These are often funded by a religious organization. I found one in a neighboring county and saw a neurologist and GP free of charge. They sent me to a nearby Catholic hospital that had a Care for the Poor program, and there I had free MRIs, blood tests, even a free colonoscopy. It takes some research, but it's worth the trouble. There is help out there for uninsured patients.
About doctors: Yes, I, too, saw a neuro during my initial attack, who chalked it up to stress and dismissed me (as well as a few other health care professionals) but I persisted until I found a neuro who took me seriously. I had no brain lesions but I did have two C-spine lesions. No diagnosis, though, until six years later--and that is also a typical story.
So many of us have to run the gauntlet of careless doctors; scared, unsupportive loved ones; isolation and abandonment, guilt, anger and anguish on our way to finding the answers. I've heard many horror stories--so, you're not alone.
I hope you'll soon find some resources and get in to see another neurologist. Feel free to come back here anytime to vent, ask questions, and tell us how you feel.
Kim