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    burping baby, but hitting too hard
    An_204590 posted:
    Several family members are shocked at how hard the daddy is hitting the back of my new grandbaby while getting baby to burp. I know some of this happens right after baby is forn to loosen phlem, etc., but can any damage be done to the baby by hitting its back too hard? Most of the family members who work in hospitals with babies don't seem to be concerned, but the rest of us are very concerned. I know for decades, no one was concerned about shaking babies...then evidence of shaken baby syndrome were realized and I'm worried this little one might suffer effects of this repeated beating. Please advise. Thank you very much.

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    eliguns841984 responded:
    it's hard to respond to this without seeing it, but I can tell you that you have to pat quite firmly on the back to get some babies to burp. When I burp my 4 month old, I have gotten comments about it too but I know that I am not hurting him...and in fact he would be in much worse pain if he didn't get the air out of his tummy than he ever would be from the burping. If he is hurting the baby, the baby will show some sign of physical distress. Have you been around other babies recently? Perhaps it just seems that he's hitting too hard because it's been a while for you. If the family members who work in hospitals with babies aren't concerned, I wouldn't worry about it unless you think the father has abusive tendencies otherwise.
    GermaphobeTeacher responded:
    In order for a baby to get shaken baby syndrome, someone has to shake them hard enough for their brain to smash into their skull. I don't think that would be possible just by burping. When my daughter was first born she wouldn't burp unless we were pretty forceful with our patting, and she is perfectly fine. If you are really worried about it, then you can tell him you feel he should be a little more gentle. I doubt it is anything to worry about though.
    5ylver responded:
    sometimes the way the hand pats (no angle but flat) it will make a louder sound that makes it seem as though it's a hard hit even when it's not. Unless the baby is seriously crying and screaming, They aren't in any pain. I feel a little uneasy about you referring to it as repeated beating. I feel like it's a little rude to assume that he's physically hurting the baby. But like another poster said you could talk to him about it but that can create some tension, if I were in his shoes and my MIL or mom told me I'm not doing things right because I'm not doing things their way I wouldn't be very happy ith them about it. The only person who can judge how hard he is burping would be the baby, and you didn't mention anything about the baby screaming in pain when he burps her.
    eliguns841984 replied to 5ylver's response:
    that's another thing I meant to say-it always sounds like you're hitting the baby harder than you actually are when you burp
    Noel (26) DH (32) J.T. (7/23/2008) and Abram (11/08/2010)
    grapenut responded:
    Many of the previous posters are thinking it all boils down to if the vigorous burping causes pain; or if it... Posted by grapenut Many of the previous posters are thinking it all boils down to if the vigorous burping causes pain; or if it could somehow result in shaken baby syndrome...please read on...
    Most of us tend to grow up thinking we inhale a lung full of air, and the capillaries somehow magically absorb the needed oxygen, while simultaneously expelling unwanted carbon dioxide. The truth of the matter is that lung tissues/capillaries are so fragile and thin that the air exchange in the lungs is made possible by the slight differential pressure created during inhalation and exhalation. (note: when people are dying they will exhale through tightened lips in order to increase the resistance/differential pressure/oxygen exchange) When divers accidently hold their breath during ascent the differential pressure is so great that it literally forces excess air molecules into the blood stream; causing air bubbles in the blood which can cause all kinds of harm in the brain, and body...
    This air embolism in the lungs is PAINLESS, so question we all should be asking; and the one I had hoped to find an answer to is: Is it possible that my wife's over zealous 'cupped hand' burping technique could be causing harm to our 3 month old's lungs or even causing an embolism; which would be almost impossible to diagnose in a 3 month old even if it were???

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