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KCAimee posted:
Okay, so many people have posted their "I'm so frustrated THIS person is pregnant post" and this one is mine. Please bear with me.

My cousin will be 22 in July. She is an absolute mess. She is a pathological liar. She lies about EVERYTHING. She is a stripper and I think she is an escort too. She did some work for playboy and has a s*x website. I've seen pics that are absolute disgusting. Last year she was getting high by huffing tire cleaner. I saw her on Easter and she was so strung out on something that she could hardly talk. She is about the most immature person I know. Oh and at Easter she got in a fight with another cousin and yelled to the entire family that she was not on illegal drugs she was on 12 different medicines because she has cancer. I *think* from conversations with her sister that she might have had pre-cancer cells in her cervix (I had this at 22 yrs old). She posted on her FB page on May 17 that she had surgery and yesterday she posted that she is 5 weeks pg. GREAT! UGH!

Okay, rant over. I'm very sad about this. I pray that if this is true that she matures and becomes a good mother but I don't see how that can happen. I'm so sad.

Oh, and for the record...I do not judge her line of work. It's not my life.
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roni090909 responded:
Wow!!! I sure hope this pregnancy gives her a reason to clean up her act. If not I feel so bad for that little baby in her belly.
Me (30) DH (37) DS 10/20/08 New Baby Girl EDD 11/11
 
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MontanaMama2009 responded:
I'm afraid to say what I truly feel.

I'm glad you feel safe to vent.

[[[[hugs>>>>
Me, DH of 16 years, DD1 (15yo), DD2 (10yo), DD3 (nearly 2), a labrador, a tabby cat, a lop-eared bunny, and goldfish! Life is grand! http://daisyheadmamas.blogspot.com/
 
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daisy729 responded:
Wow, I hate to say this, but that was way worse than my vent! I do know that DH's daughter will take care of her LO.

I really hope and pray that being pregnant will wake up your cousin's eyes. Although, considering how deep she is (huffing tire cleaner??), it's really hard to be optomistic.

Vent away, I really understand why you need to.
 
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KCAimee responded:
Thanks everyone. I was just sick about this all last night. My mom said that a a week and a half ago (so she was pregnant then) she came over to her house and she was so strung out that she couldn't even keep her eyes open. Then I found out that someone else in the family saw her cutting up and snorting hydrocodone at a family wedding the beginning of May. Then my mom was talking to her mom and apparently she has overdosed twice this year. They never took her to the hospital because they were afraid psych would be called (DUH...that's what she needs) So according to all of this, she has not straightened up at all.

Does anyone know, will CPS get involved before the baby is born? Is there any way to report this?

I am so sad for that baby.
 
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mamatobe08 replied to KCAimee's response:
Oh my goodness. :( That's just all so sad. I don't know how to get CPS involved, but I think they need to. I have heard they test everyone at the hospital when you're in labor, but I don't know if that's a fact. Hopefully someone else has a better idea.
 
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cheeezie25 replied to KCAimee's response:
Wow, that is really horrible. Honestly, I have no idea whether CPS will get involved before a child is actually born, but I am pretty sure that the baby (if it survives, which is a sad thought, but sadly pretty true) will be removed from her care at the hospital if she tests positive for any drugs, which at the rate she is going, she probably will.

I think the best bet right now is to get the police involved if an incident like that happens again, or just get the family together to send her to rehab. I feel like I watched something on tv (maybe Intervention?) about facilities that specialize in rehab for expectant mothers, so that might be a good option. I am really sad that your family has to deal with this and can't imagine how worried you all must be about this baby she is carrying.
 
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TyPatrick08 replied to KCAimee's response:
Dont most OB?GYN do an initial drug screen? and if its positive they follow you through out your preganancy and if still positive they do something. I know that is in my state of PA. What a shame!
 
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KCAimee replied to TyPatrick08's response:
I live in Kansas (so does she) and I have never knowingly been tested for drugs at my OB's office or when I was in the hospital in labor. Wouldn't they have to inform you that they were testing you? I wish they would test her because I'm not sure how long prescription drugs or inhalants are in your system but I gotta think at least a week or so?

I might call CPS and just see what options we have. A rehab for expectant moms might be perfect.
 
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KCAimee responded:
Sorry....guess maybe I should have added TRIGGS as this could be a sensitive subject. I'm so sorry!!!
 
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MontanaMama2009 replied to KCAimee's response:
aimee,

call CPS, yes.
Me, DH of 16 years, DD1 (15yo), DD2 (10yo), DD3 (nearly 2), a labrador, a tabby cat, a lop-eared bunny, and goldfish! Life is grand! http://daisyheadmamas.blogspot.com/
 
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ariannasmommy1125 responded:
This breaks my heart. I was in a similar situation when my sister-in-law was pregnant with my niece. You can go ahead and call CPS. My niece was born addicted to crack and although they did let my SIL leave the hospital with her, it was under very strict supervision and orders to go to rehab ASAP. Long story short, SIL didn't comply and my niece has been in a safe loving home since she was 5 weeks old. PP is right in that there are rehabs for expectant mothers but unless she wants to get clean, it probably won't happen.
 
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KCAimee replied to ariannasmommy1125's response:
That is so sad! I can't imagine how hard that was as a SIL sitting back watching that happen. That poor baby. Thank goodness she went to a safe and good home early.
 
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ariannasmommy1125 replied to KCAimee's response:
It was hard but my niece has a great loving home & the awesome part it we get to be a part of her life. She is 7 now and her biological mother tries to come around but my niece has made the decision that she doesn't want to see or talk to her. It's a sad situation because having her daughter taken from her and the going to prison did nothing to make my SIL get her life on track.
 
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daisy729 responded:
Is your cousin even going to an OB? I know it just seems like common sense, you are pregnant, call a doctor. But, if she is so strung out on drugs, she may not want to go to a doctor. She might be afraid that they would throw her into rehab, a hospital, or who knows?

It never, ever, hurts to call CPS. The worst thing they will tell you is that there is nothing they can do at this time. If they do, ask them is there anything you can do? Is there anyone you can call? So, they might be the best place to start. They might not be able to do anything now, but they might have some resources for you. Or, at least answer some questions?
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