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achigan posted:
My fathers health has been progressively deteriorating the last few months because his kidneys are failing. He had a liver transplant about five years ago and now this. His sister has beengoing through all the test to donate but found out after three months she can not donate because her high blood pressure. She was very sadened by this and my father was devastated. Knowing he needs one very soon, i decided iwould give him one of my kidneys. I have already gone to the hospital to start the process. They are testing my blood and said i would here from them in a week.I didnt really have time to think about everything so im kind of scared and torn. My dad was very excited about me wanting to donate without him even asking me. My mom and other family and friends think im am doing wrong. They think he is selfish and fear for my health. My father is 66 and i am 37 years old. Will my insurance drop me if i have health problems after the surgery? Will it be harder on me because i am older now.Will i still be able to do all the things i love? Like i said, my father doesnt have much time. We have already battled with his liver and now we are battling kidneys. Hes the only one i have so i would like him to be around one day when i grow up.Dont know if willever happen but try and learn everyday. So to everyone who knows or can help me i would greatly appreciate it. I dont have anyone to talk to because everyone around thinks i am making a big mistake. I just want to do the right thing
sara77503 responded:
why is everyone thinking you are making a mistake? just because they choose not to donate does not mean it wrong for you to donate to help out your dad. they must have some reasons to say that but i would not let it bother me if i was you. i would do tha tfo rmy dad in a minute and would not thingk twice, my self i am in a similar situation as you are, my husband had a liver transplant 2 1/2 yrs ago and has had no problems with that at all, just in the last few months , his craetine level has been rising, and now up to 7.8, his kidney dr suggests dialysis, we are scared, and have talked with a nurse and going nect week to see all about that but inthe mean while, i myself have contacted methodist hosital to see if i can be a donor, in just he last week, all the app have been turned in , in shas approved him for his eval and he already got his day one evalustion on nov 11th, to start his eval , then i start mine very shortly after that. so that is where we stand, i am even considering being swap donor to another person if i do not match my hubby, as long as he gets a kidney .... so we are very excited but still so worrried about his cratine level . what is your dads creatine level now? your ins should not give you any problems you are already acovered and does your dad have insuracne>? the reciepeint s insuracne is the one who pays for testing for anyone who wants to be a donor> i am always looking to meet others who i can relate to . email:
John-SKPT responded:
I'm not going to get into the "right or wrong choice" issue because that is too complex to manage over the internet. But factually: If you are in good (actually 'very good') overall health, then 37 is probably a low risk for donation. I have run across cases where things DO go wrong for the donor, and sometimes seriously wrong. It is rare but it is a possibility to factor in to any decision. At 66, your father is nearing the upper limits for safe and successful second transplants. It has been done successfully on much older patients, but the risks of complications go up with age and the natural declines in health that come with age. There are no guarantees for either one of you. Yes, if you look at the statistics for thousands and thousands of patients, the "odds" are good. But if either of you is the ONE patient that has a less than great outcome, then the statistical averages go out the window. So I applaud your decision to donate, but you need to approach this carefully. With one remaining good kidney, you are giving up the natural margin of safety that the overabundance of renal function gives to people with two kidneys. Pregnancy becomes far more complicated and higher risk. And if your motives are uncertain or unsupported, if there is any guilt or questioning in your mind, you need to work it out now. There will be a bit of psychological evaluation for both of the individuals involved and that might rule either of you out as candidates. Yes, since this is an elective procedure, your insurance company might raise rates or limit coverage down the road. They might not but they would probably have the right to do it under current laws. (His medicare should cover for your hospitalization and recovery and surgery for the transplant, but once that is done, you are back on your insurance for any complications that might arise.) Best of luck to you both.

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