You're too funny

I wish I did get paid by someone other than the hospital where I work.
I'm sorry that you thought my reply was harsh. It certainly wasn't meant to be. I deal in realities in my profession. We see about 4000 patients a year in various stages of bone health. Not one, not a single one, has reversed her bone density if it was below -2.0 by the use of natural means alone. Not one!
To me the repercussions of low bone density are harsh. People die from fractures. There are medications that are proven to reduce their risk of having these fractures. I still maintain that for someone who is not a specialist in osteoporosis, who does not know an individual's personal health situation, but who does have a prejudice against medications to attempt to sway someone from taking a med that could possibly allow them to lead a fracture free life is irresponsible.
The femur fractures you mention do occur to people taking bisphosphonates. They also occur with the same frequency to people who do not. To date there has been no verified correlation between the meds and these particular fractures. The health professionals are stumped by them.
The lawsuits also are much publicized. The lawyers see a potential windfall ($) for them in bringing class action suits. Again, there has been no result of these. None has gone to court and no determination of culpability has been determined.
Osteopenia always leads to osteoporosis? No, it doesn't. There are many women who have low bone density all their lives who never develop osteoporosis. On the other hand, there are women who have normal bone density according to their scores, but who break a hip or vertebra. This gives them a clinical diagnosis of osteoporosis.
Gwyneth Paltrow is not relevant because she is under age 50. She is still producing estrogen that protects her bones to a degree. (No diagnosis is given to premenopausal women or men under 50 unless their low bone density is secondary to another health condition.) Certainly she needs to do what she can to make them strong. Her weight is a huge factor that she chooses not to change.
If there were a magic diet that would reverse osteoporosis, we would be all over it. That would be wonderful news. The same as it would be for any other illness that requires medication. Taking meds is the pits. No one wants to do it. But I'm glad it's there if we need it.
And, just to clarify my position by working in a hospital - we neither recommend nor prescribe medication. Only the patient's doctor can do that. We test, educate, rehabilitate and support.
p.s. Remember I also said that I couldn't get the site to open up. Maybe you could share some of the highlights of their thinking. I'd be interested to know.