chronic pain and dating/relationships
peggy2176il posted:
Boy what a topic....I was in a relationship, abusive at best and as he got older and even though I was the one disabled and still working trying to support my family, he decided he was suddenly more disabled than me. He decided he needed a slave so exhausted and older I left with my kids.
To me, I would love to have a caring and loving relationship with a person I could trust and love and support and be a partner with till I leave this mortal plane. I find though, the same problem, that disabled means I am looking for a care taker, no, I am looking and wishing for someone who would care for me like I would care for him.
I am soon, well in September, 63 and I have been to disabled dating web sites but I just haven't developed the energy to be out there again.
Having lost my car, darn thing blew the engine and no funds to replace the thing with, makes it extremely difficult to meet someone this day and age. We have to be more careful so I would rather meet someone away from my home but that is not possible now.
Maybe after I move back to Illinois and can cut some of these big bills I am stuck with here in Michigan I might try again. I would settle for a really wonderful friend at this time, just someone to talk to and share things with but like most people I would rather meet in person than spend forever on the phone or emails.
It seems we don't do "personal" anymore....everything is internet, cell phone...not exactly reaching out and touching anything or anyone. Maybe I am too old fashion????
So many of us, when we become disabled do not have the fiances we did. I often thought it would be great to have an enormous home and have it like a "college dorm" where all us disabled to live together and share our lives. I think it would be emotionally and physically healthy for all. I know there are a few of us who have lost the support of family and friends as they do not understand us and our disease. I was fortunate as my family got it, but I am in the minority.
Boy did I digress all over the place........anyway I always thought the group housing was a good idea.
I know I still miss my job, 20+ YEARS as a hospital RN and I loved it.
I hope and wish us all success in finding our missing connection
and end our lives in a positive and healthy relationship!
Peggy/stuck in Michigan
To me, I would love to have a caring and loving relationship with a person I could trust and love and support and be a partner with till I leave this mortal plane. I find though, the same problem, that disabled means I am looking for a care taker, no, I am looking and wishing for someone who would care for me like I would care for him.
I am soon, well in September, 63 and I have been to disabled dating web sites but I just haven't developed the energy to be out there again.
Having lost my car, darn thing blew the engine and no funds to replace the thing with, makes it extremely difficult to meet someone this day and age. We have to be more careful so I would rather meet someone away from my home but that is not possible now.
Maybe after I move back to Illinois and can cut some of these big bills I am stuck with here in Michigan I might try again. I would settle for a really wonderful friend at this time, just someone to talk to and share things with but like most people I would rather meet in person than spend forever on the phone or emails.
It seems we don't do "personal" anymore....everything is internet, cell phone...not exactly reaching out and touching anything or anyone. Maybe I am too old fashion????
So many of us, when we become disabled do not have the fiances we did. I often thought it would be great to have an enormous home and have it like a "college dorm" where all us disabled to live together and share our lives. I think it would be emotionally and physically healthy for all. I know there are a few of us who have lost the support of family and friends as they do not understand us and our disease. I was fortunate as my family got it, but I am in the minority.
Boy did I digress all over the place........anyway I always thought the group housing was a good idea.
I know I still miss my job, 20+ YEARS as a hospital RN and I loved it.
I hope and wish us all success in finding our missing connection
and end our lives in a positive and healthy relationship!
Peggy/stuck in Michigan
1 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:chronic pain and dating/relationships<b>Boy what a topic....I was in a relationship, abusive at best and as he got older and even though I was the one disabled and still working trying to support my family, he decided he was suddenly more disabled than me. He decided he needed a slave so exhausted and older I left with my kids. <br />To me, I would love to have a caring and loving relationship with a person I could trust and love and support and be a partner with till I leave this mortal plane. I find though, the same problem, that disabled means I am looking for a care taker, no, I am looking and wishing for someone who would care for me like I would care for him.<br />I am soon, well in September, 63 and I have been to disabled dating web sites but I just haven't developed the energy to be out there again.<br />Having lost my car, darn thing blew the engine and no funds to replace the thing with, makes it extremely difficult to meet someone this day and age. We have to be more careful so I would rather meet someone away from my home but that is not possible now. <br />Maybe after I move back to Illinois and can cut some of these big bills I am stuck with here in Michigan I might try again. I would settle for a really wonderful friend at this time, just someone to talk to and share things with but like most people I would rather meet in person than spend forever on the phone or emails.<br />It seems we don't do "personal" anymore....everything is internet, cell phone...not exactly reaching out and touching anything or anyone. Maybe I am too old fashion????<br />So many of us, when we become disabled do not have the fiances we did. I often thought it would be great to have an enormous home and have it like a "college dorm" where all us disabled to live together and share our lives. I think it would be emotionally and physically healthy for all. I know there are a few of us who have lost the support of family and friends as they do not understand us and our disease. I was fortunate as my family got it, but I am in the minority.<br />Boy did I digress all over the place........anyway I always thought the group housing was a good idea. <br />I know I still miss my job, 20+ YEARS as a hospital RN and I loved it.<br />I hope and wish us all success in finding our missing connection<br />and end our lives in a positive and healthy relationship!<br />Peggy/stuck in Michigan <br /> <br /></b>
TDXSP08 responded:
I will tell you i live in a garden apartment complex and i'm between 20th and 15th streets but the whole complex goes from 20th down to 3nd street ,but all of us from 15th up to 20th in the complex are all disabled or elderly and we all know each other and we know when there is a stranger in our area and they may not know it but everyone is watching what they are doing! we are better than a neighborhood watch group, nobody feels threatened by old people in wheelchairs and walkers but thee Police are just down across 15th and are here Lickety split if we call them.So i totally agree with you living amongst a group of people like your self who in one way or another are disabled and understand your limitations and inability to do something is great !!
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Report This| Share this:chronic pain and dating/relationshipsI will tell you i live in a garden apartment complex and i'm between 20th and 15th streets but the whole complex goes from 20th down to 3nd street ,but all of us from 15th up to 20th in the complex are all disabled or elderly and we all know each other and we know when there is a stranger in our area and they may not know it but everyone is watching what they are doing! we are better than a neighborhood watch group, nobody feels threatened by old people in wheelchairs and walkers but thee Police are just down across 15th and are here Lickety split if we call them.So i totally agree with you living amongst a group of people like your self who in one way or another are disabled and understand your limitations and inability to do something is great !!<br /><br />Peace
