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I need advice. I have chronic pain & have been on bed rest a yr now but my BFF I think has crossed a line.
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An_246999 posted:
I am writing here today cuz I need someones advice. This wasnt so bad at first but the more pain im in it sux. I cant go newhere. Not even to the movies. I cant even drive a car... Yeah!!!I m in so much pain I cant think and I dont have anyone to confide in about this. My background is I have a jammed si joint and torn muscle which has caused me to be on bed rest for almost a yr now. That's just 1 hip I have constant sciatica in my other leg that shoots all way to foot..4 hurniated disks in my neck, 2 bulging disks between my shoulder blades and my shoulder (which 3 diff specialist all confirmed) is perminently disabled & will forever cause me chronic pain, also over past 10 yrs they diagnosed me with nuropathy (not the diabetic one), fibro mylga and chronic anxiety with insomnia & finially I have always had migrianes...im in my 30,s. Its hell. Be4 this last yr it was manageable but now I just cry. I have great drs and super family support. Which is the only reason I didn't just end it all....but I need help my very best friend started going to her dr a few yrs ago and she would hear a symptom I had and all of a sudden she had sciatica...even little things, b4 I actually knew she was copying me I had told her how my husband had taken a day off work cuz he was tired cuz I was waking him all nite the last week crying in pain in my sleep...a week later she told the same story but it was her..I finally tested it about 1&1/2yrs ago..I told her 2 symptoms exclusive to a rare disease & she told her dr she had them...then her dr started treating her badly which I felt horrible about cuz I had really hoped I was wrong..she has been my friend for over 20yrs...it kept getting worse and she makes me feel like I m a failure cuz she guess to the movies and works, I had to quit my job how can she hurt like me but im such a looser I cant eveb walk...well when I tore my muscle and jammed si joint I thought there is no way she can copy me but she does and than did a lot..she said all of a sudden (remember I cant hardly sleep on my r side from bad shoulder & sciatica in r leg..left leg is my bad hip ugh so I can't sit I van only lay on one side but still very painful.) She tells me she was up for 2 hrs with scatic pain screaming just like I do. Is what she said...now..so to summerize in 2 & 1 1/2 yrs she went from having mild low bk pain to fibro milga (which idk if its real but even so  u cant prove if some2 doesn't have it) and she told her dr she had it after weeks of studding the symptoms. But that to happened about 3 weeks after I was diagnosed with that and nuropathy. U cant fake nuropathy. After that her shoulder went bad & that happened a month or so after they finally decided mine was bad...at this point she has suposidly every problem I do even migrianes. But then she says she is up crying just like me. And she makes me feel so bad. Im already I hell why is she doing this...I just dont know what to do or how to deal with it. I am week I know..I m a grade A door matt..I've only been bk for 3yrs and I have no friends she is it so I m afraid if I say the wrong thing I loose my friend. I was going off the is she doing more good than harm. But I think she is more harm than good....she will come over and wince and go ugh everytime she moves but u can see pain in a persons face. I hate to say it but I think she is a drug seeker and I think she looks at me and sees my hubby taking care of me & oh how I get all the pain meds I need...but that's not real..I could have every pain pill in the world. They aren't helping. My hubby has to help me cuz I have went to stand & my leg is dead. Im hell & I feel like she is making fun of me. I know she not I think. But I dont know how to stop it..sry this is so long I just felt if ne1 has compassion for a weak person so just needed some help u would need the whole picture..thanks. please if you have a bad remark I ask that you please not post it. Im not feeling so good and it would prob just make me cry.
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TDXSP08 responded:
For you i totally understand how you feel and as a Fellw Chronic Pain Patient i would feel totally Violated by the acts of my 20 Years best Friend who obviously wants attention and probably drugs to complete her psychosis,of being a disabled person (she almost sounds like a devotee gone extreme,yes there are actual people out there who are fan's of the disabled and all they want to do is be like us)If your friend follows what you do tell her you are starting therapy with a Psychiatrist to help you deal with your chronic illness, if she follows your "lead she will do the same thing and the Psychiatrist will see right thru her and realize she is a faker and will treat her mental illness well she thinks she is snowing him, you can even tell her your doctor said you have munchhausens syndrome a person has this when they make up fake medical problems in order to get attention, and hopefully she will repeat that to the Psychiatrist and he will get the idea right quick of whats up because she will then list her "Medical Problems" that she copied from you and 2 2 will not equal 4.Good luck keep us informed and do ask any other questions you may have.
i have no small step for man, but i have 6 tires for mankind,Watch your Toes!
 
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77grace replied to TDXSP08's response:
TDXSPO8,
Great reply for her!!!!! AN,I will keep you in my prayers,hang in and Please don't ever give up!!!!We are here for you!
77grace


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