why wont dr.s listen to me?
marv05 posted:
I am dealing with chronic back pain and every time i go to the dr. they tell me im to young to be in that much pain!!! I am 30 yrs old have been pregnant 4 times(once with twins) and have fallen on my back several times. I have done physical therapy, had x-rays and i had to beg to have an m.r.i done and the dr. hasnt done anything about that yet even though ive called the office and asked when im supposed to have that done. im in so much pain i can barely do my normal day to day things and am not really able to play with my kids. why arent the dr.s listening to me? what do i hve to do for them to take me seriously??????? im sick of it!!!!!!!!!
182 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?I am dealing with chronic back pain and every time i go to the dr. they tell me im to young to be in that much pain!!! I am 30 yrs old have been pregnant 4 times(once with twins) and have fallen on my back several times. I have done physical therapy, had x-rays and i had to beg to have an m.r.i done and the dr. hasnt done anything about that yet even though ive called the office and asked when im supposed to have that done. im in so much pain i can barely do my normal day to day things and am not really able to play with my kids. why arent the dr.s listening to me? what do i hve to do for them to take me seriously??????? im sick of it!!!!!!!!!
annette030 replied to stuart7491's response:
Hi, Stuart7491,
My husband served with Ollie North, he has nothing really nice to say about him, lol.
My son was an active duty Marine for 8 years, did ship searches, then the invasion of Afghanistan and Iraq, then the occupation of Iraq. Three combat deployments is enough, don't know how you did it.
Thank you for your service.
Take care, Annette
My husband served with Ollie North, he has nothing really nice to say about him, lol.
My son was an active duty Marine for 8 years, did ship searches, then the invasion of Afghanistan and Iraq, then the occupation of Iraq. Three combat deployments is enough, don't know how you did it.
Thank you for your service.
Take care, Annette
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?Hi, Stuart7491,<br /><br />My husband served with Ollie North, he has nothing really nice to say about him, lol.<br /><br />My son was an active duty Marine for 8 years, did ship searches, then the invasion of Afghanistan and Iraq, then the occupation of Iraq. Three combat deployments is enough, don't know how you did it.<br /><br />Thank you for your service.<br /><br />Take care, Annette
O_Lana responded:
Dear marv05, my suggestion would be to find the physical therapist who specializes in the treatment of the Sacroiliac Joint dysfunction using manual techniques such as Muscle Energy Techniques. It is a very common condition considering your history of falls and pregnancies. As a specialist, I have been treating patients with this condition over 16 years with high rate of success. My practice is located in NYS, Albany. It is a real condition and can be very debilitating. Hope you will find a professional to help you I just saw your post and it has been 4 years since you posted it.
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?Dear marv05, my suggestion would be to find the physical therapist who specializes in the treatment of the Sacroiliac Joint dysfunction using manual techniques such as Muscle Energy Techniques. It is a very common condition considering your history of falls and pregnancies. As a specialist, I have been treating patients with this condition over 16 years with high rate of success. My practice is located in NYS, Albany. It is a real condition and can be very debilitating. Hope you will find a professional to help you I just saw your post and it has been 4 years since you posted it.
tammytime77 responded:
am sick of it too.doctors will always say "oh u r too young,you are alive, and walking, you cannot be in that much pain"..i have been to doctor, after doctor.all say the same thing.i have had chronic pain for as long as i can remeber.i am 36yrs old and a doctor just told me the same thing.too young.well walk in my shoes for a day.i cannot be normal and play with my 7 year old son. i am always so tired.should it be my choice if i want to live pain free.i agree with you strongly..it is hard to find a good doctor who believes in you.i am sick of it tooo.
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?<i>am sick of it too.doctors will always say "oh u r too young,you are alive, and walking, you cannot be in that much pain"..i have been to doctor, after doctor.all say the same thing.i have had chronic pain for as long as i can remeber.i am 36yrs old and a doctor just told me the same thing.too young.well walk in my shoes for a day.i cannot be normal and play with my 7 year old son. i am always so tired.should it be my choice if i want to live pain free.i agree with you strongly..it is hard to find a good doctor who believes in you.i am sick of it tooo.</i>
anowlin responded:
Unfortunately, docs are so used to patients asking for pain meds and possibly unnecessary tests, that they get used to denying them, unless the case is SO obvious. This leads to their denying 'right out of the gate' the same things to the patient who has legit pain and needs the same tests.
They feel that the FDA will come down on them for prescribing heavy duty meds, so they hesitate to do so; unfortunately this comes sideways at you, too.
Why aren't they listening? The majority of docs will listen and do listen. Unfortunately, is sounds like you've come upon a doc who thinks that he /she has all the answers and that you're too young to be in that much pain. I'd lay it out (making a special appointment for this) and tell the doc your concerns in a very polite, non-emotional way.
If he/she still doesn't respond, it may be time to look for a new doc or clinic. Must examine the visit you had and make sure that you didn't act in a way that could possibly be interpreted as negative, with an attitude.. Be frank with the doc. Annie
They feel that the FDA will come down on them for prescribing heavy duty meds, so they hesitate to do so; unfortunately this comes sideways at you, too.
Why aren't they listening? The majority of docs will listen and do listen. Unfortunately, is sounds like you've come upon a doc who thinks that he /she has all the answers and that you're too young to be in that much pain. I'd lay it out (making a special appointment for this) and tell the doc your concerns in a very polite, non-emotional way.
If he/she still doesn't respond, it may be time to look for a new doc or clinic. Must examine the visit you had and make sure that you didn't act in a way that could possibly be interpreted as negative, with an attitude.. Be frank with the doc. Annie
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?Unfortunately, docs are so used to patients asking for pain meds and possibly unnecessary tests, that they get used to denying them, unless the case is SO obvious. This leads to their denying 'right out of the gate' the same things to the patient who has legit pain and needs the same tests.<br /><br />They feel that the FDA will come down on them for prescribing heavy duty meds, so they hesitate to do so; unfortunately this comes sideways at you, too.<br /><br />Why aren't they listening? The majority of docs will listen and do listen. Unfortunately, is sounds like you've come upon a doc who thinks that he /she has all the answers and that you're too young to be in that much pain. I'd lay it out (making a special appointment for this) and tell the doc your concerns in a very polite, non-emotional way.<br /><br />If he/she still doesn't respond, it may be time to look for a new doc or clinic. Must examine the visit you had and make sure that you didn't act in a way that could possibly be interpreted as negative, with an attitude.. Be frank with the doc. Annie
PAINDAILY, I,also,was diagnosed with PERIPHERAL NEUROPATHY-1st XFeb.1990 & 4 xs over the next 15years.With accompanying 24/7 pain which has never stopped for even 1 day.....just increased its intensity over the years...taking over every waking moment...in effect ruining my life since all that I do is about trying to lessen the pain,in over half my body! But,you said that your Doctor put you on Methadone & now your pain is no longer present even after stopping the Methadone which I have heard is extremely difficult! Or did I misunderstand??
Peripheral Neuropathy is all bout the nerves,in your legs,in this instance,dying off>The pain is the nerves misfiring.So,at the same time that you were having so much pain-the nerves in your legs were not functioning as they were supposed to!One Chinese Neurologist drew me a diagram of a large tree without any leaves on it,and shriveling roots below....Saying this is you...this tree will never again have leaves because its roots are dying and shrivelling up and no one can fix this or reverse the outcome!!
I hate to be so blunt but if your pain has stopped...Great!! If you are still walking but cannot feel anything in your legs then you are lucky.But can you let us know what the docs say about the outcome.I see that this is 3yrs ago! will check further down or maybe you started your own thread.Good Luck
Peripheral Neuropathy is all bout the nerves,in your legs,in this instance,dying off>The pain is the nerves misfiring.So,at the same time that you were having so much pain-the nerves in your legs were not functioning as they were supposed to!One Chinese Neurologist drew me a diagram of a large tree without any leaves on it,and shriveling roots below....Saying this is you...this tree will never again have leaves because its roots are dying and shrivelling up and no one can fix this or reverse the outcome!!
I hate to be so blunt but if your pain has stopped...Great!! If you are still walking but cannot feel anything in your legs then you are lucky.But can you let us know what the docs say about the outcome.I see that this is 3yrs ago! will check further down or maybe you started your own thread.Good Luck
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?PAINDAILY, I,also,was diagnosed with PERIPHERAL NEUROPATHY-1st XFeb.1990 & 4 xs over the next 15years.With accompanying 24/7 pain which has never stopped for even 1 day.....just increased its intensity over the years...taking over every waking moment...in effect ruining my life since all that I do is about trying to lessen the pain,in over half my body! But,you said that your Doctor put you on Methadone & now your pain is no longer present even after stopping the Methadone which I have heard is extremely difficult! Or did I misunderstand??<br />Peripheral Neuropathy is all bout the nerves,in your legs,in this instance,dying off>The pain is the nerves misfiring.So,at the same time that you were having so much pain-the nerves in your legs were not functioning as they were supposed to!One Chinese Neurologist drew me a diagram of a large tree without any leaves on it,and shriveling roots below....Saying this is you...this tree will never again have leaves because its roots are dying and shrivelling up and no one can fix this or reverse the outcome!!<br />I hate to be so blunt but if your pain has stopped...Great!! If you are still walking but cannot feel anything in your legs then you are lucky.But can you let us know what the docs say about the outcome.I see that this is 3yrs ago! will check further down or maybe you started your own thread.Good Luck
Can you please tell me how they eventually treated you. I have basically the exact same problem in the same area. Surgery is not recommended at this point, pt and chiropractic has not worked, and my workmans comp has just DENIED cortisone injections. I am in so much pain, and will not take more medicine than prescribed ... Any help or suggestions would be greatful.
Scott
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?Can you please tell me how they eventually treated you. I have basically the exact same problem in the same area. Surgery is not recommended at this point, pt and chiropractic has not worked, and my workmans comp has just DENIED cortisone injections. I am in so much pain, and will not take more medicine than prescribed ... Any help or suggestions would be greatful.
Scott
taxlady49 responded:
I had problems that were for a developmental back problem and no one thought to check it out much until the doctor tried to move a water bed and had emergency surgery himself. Funny how going through the same pain makes a person take someone else more compassionate. However, I was one of the first patients he took back when he could work again and we were able to find the problem. by that time, i had bone on bone and ended up with an L5-S1 fusion that is still good. Do not get me wrong, I still have pain, but I am not in a wheelchair to get aroung because of it.
answer, find a dr that has had problems similar and they will be very interested..... if you have lower back pain, ask for a hanging xray. if all the "scottie dogs" are not in line, they may have found at least part of the problem. (scottie dogs is used to describe the spine picture as the way it looks on xray, it looks like a line of scottie dogs coming down the spine, the dr may know what I mean)
answer, find a dr that has had problems similar and they will be very interested..... if you have lower back pain, ask for a hanging xray. if all the "scottie dogs" are not in line, they may have found at least part of the problem. (scottie dogs is used to describe the spine picture as the way it looks on xray, it looks like a line of scottie dogs coming down the spine, the dr may know what I mean)
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?I had problems that were for a developmental back problem and no one thought to check it out much until the doctor tried to move a water bed and had emergency surgery himself. Funny how going through the same pain makes a person take someone else more compassionate. However, I was one of the first patients he took back when he could work again and we were able to find the problem. by that time, i had bone on bone and ended up with an L5-S1 fusion that is still good. Do not get me wrong, I still have pain, but I am not in a wheelchair to get aroung because of it. <br /> <br />answer, find a dr that has had problems similar and they will be very interested..... if you have lower back pain, ask for a hanging xray. if all the "scottie dogs" are not in line, they may have found at least part of the problem. (scottie dogs is used to describe the spine picture as the way it looks on xray, it looks like a line of scottie dogs coming down the spine, the dr may know what I mean)
calleryblossom responded:
This question is really 4 YEARS old?
CTBeth replied to calleryblossom's response:
As you can see, it commenced four years ago.
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Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?As you can see, it commenced four years ago.<br /><br />This discussions has stayed active on the board because people have continued to post replies to it.<br /><br />When replies on a thread stop, the discussion moves to the bottom of the list and eventually, "fall off".<br /><br />Before you replied, someone had replied about a month ago, which brought the discussion back to the top.<br /><br />Now, you have replied and brought it even higher- now, I am bringing it up even higher.<br /><br />That is how it works.<br /><br />New people "join" this group all of the time. They may see a discussion that was started long ago which addresses their issue. Once they reply, the discussion again becomes active.
Onehurtguy replied to CTBeth's response:
That's funny that this post made it's way back to the top...
It just dawned on me that It's been 7 years now that I've been in SERIOUS pain since my MVI in 2006.
In the beginning, I had at least two doctors tell me "you're young, you'll heel, but I never did, and it wasn't until the first MPI or my spine that they realized I wasn't kidding around. THat's when they became serious about my care.
Just because I'm still walking, or able to work full time, doesn't mean that I'm in any better condition that ANYONE out there, it only means that I'm willing to suck it up, and roll out of bed each day in tremendous pain, and work. Some will, some wont, I wasn't ready to walk away from a multi-million dolar business I had created, and still had kids in private school and college that relied on my income. THAT'S what got me out of bed, that's why I was back at work 7 days after my multi-level fusion and installtion of Titanium pins and screws in my back. I was back before the staples were out. Tell me then that I wasn't in pain, HUH!
This kind of thing makes me SICK, telling people when they are or aren't in pain based on their age. For shame!
It just dawned on me that It's been 7 years now that I've been in SERIOUS pain since my MVI in 2006.
In the beginning, I had at least two doctors tell me "you're young, you'll heel, but I never did, and it wasn't until the first MPI or my spine that they realized I wasn't kidding around. THat's when they became serious about my care.
Just because I'm still walking, or able to work full time, doesn't mean that I'm in any better condition that ANYONE out there, it only means that I'm willing to suck it up, and roll out of bed each day in tremendous pain, and work. Some will, some wont, I wasn't ready to walk away from a multi-million dolar business I had created, and still had kids in private school and college that relied on my income. THAT'S what got me out of bed, that's why I was back at work 7 days after my multi-level fusion and installtion of Titanium pins and screws in my back. I was back before the staples were out. Tell me then that I wasn't in pain, HUH!
This kind of thing makes me SICK, telling people when they are or aren't in pain based on their age. For shame!
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?That's funny that this post made it's way back to the top...<br /> <br />It just dawned on me that It's been 7 years now that I've been in SERIOUS pain since my MVI in 2006.<br /> <br />In the beginning, I had at least two doctors tell me "you're young, you'll heel, but I never did, and it wasn't until the first MPI or my spine that they realized I wasn't kidding around. THat's when they became serious about my care.<br /> <br />Just because I'm still walking, or able to work full time, doesn't mean that I'm in any better condition that ANYONE out there, it only means that I'm willing to suck it up, and roll out of bed each day in tremendous pain, and work. Some will, some wont, I wasn't ready to walk away from a multi-million dolar business I had created, and still had kids in private school and college that relied on my income. THAT'S what got me out of bed, that's why I was back at work 7 days after my multi-level fusion and installtion of Titanium pins and screws in my back. I was back before the staples were out. Tell me then that I wasn't in pain, HUH!<br /> <br />This kind of thing makes me SICK, telling people when they are or aren't in pain based on their age. For shame!
Tygrlilie1 responded:
Hello, I know what you're going through, I've lived with Crohn's Disease and Chronic Pain for the last 20 years of my life. I was diagnosed with my illness when I was only 15, I am 37 now. I've seen many dr.'s for my pain issues and have found that seeing a Pain Management Dr helps a lot, Pain Mngmnt Dr.'s have more knowledge when dealing with pain that your average Primary Care Physician. It is not right of any dr to tell you that you're too young to be in so much pain, Chronic Pain does not have an age, you can start having it at any age and it can be caused by an injury or illness. No dr. has the right to say how much pain you have, you know the best since it is your body. Try seeing a Pain Mngment Dr and if you already have seen one see another one until you find one that will listen to you and give you the respect you deserve. I myself have seen many dr.'s before finding the right one. Good Luck!
Report This| Share this:why wont dr.s listen to me?Hello, I know what you're going through, I've lived with Crohn's Disease and Chronic Pain for the last 20 years of my life. I was diagnosed with my illness when I was only 15, I am 37 now. I've seen many dr.'s for my pain issues and have found that seeing a Pain Management Dr helps a lot, Pain Mngmnt Dr.'s have more knowledge when dealing with pain that your average Primary Care Physician. It is not right of any dr to tell you that you're too young to be in so much pain, Chronic Pain does not have an age, you can start having it at any age and it can be caused by an injury or illness. No dr. has the right to say how much pain you have, you know the best since it is your body. Try seeing a Pain Mngment Dr and if you already have seen one see another one until you find one that will listen to you and give you the respect you deserve. I myself have seen many dr.'s before finding the right one. Good Luck!
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